To My Friends On The Spectrum, Let Me Explain To You An Unspoken Social Rule That Possibly Nobody Has

To my friends on the spectrum, let me explain to you an unspoken social rule that possibly nobody has ever explained to you before

If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.

They’re asking you if they can play too.

If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.

They’re asking if they can watch it with you.

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When neurotypicals ask you “What are you doing?” 

What you think they’re asking: “Please explain to me what you are doing.” 

What they’re actually asking:  “Can I join you?”

Now here’s the really fucked up part. If you start explaining to them what you’re doing? They will interpret that as a rejection. 

What you think you’re saying: [the answer to their question]

What they think you’re saying: This is an elite and exclusive activity for a level 5 friend and you are a level 1 acquaintance. You are not qualified to join me because you don’t know all this stuff. Go away.

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This is why neurotypicals think you’re being cold and antisocial.

IT’S ALL A HORRIBLE MISCOMMUNICATION.

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7 years ago

I don't personally need them, but they are tools not toys.

So i saw a post a few days ago about neurotypicals who say that stim/fidget toys make you *less* focused and how fucked that is and it got me thinking of an analogy.

So you know when you try on a friend’s glasses and you can’t see shit???? Their glasses make your vision worse, right? But you realize that it’s because YOU DON’T NEED THEM. You might mention or make a joke about how blurry things are for you, but you still understand and appreciate that the glasses help your friend see, even though they aren’t good for you personally.

So when you try your friend’s tangle or fidget cube and claim, as a blanket statement, that it makes you *less* focused and that your friend should stop using it for that reason?? You’re being just as much of an asshole as if you tried on your friend’s glasses and said “wow, you know these ACTUALLY make your vision WORSE, right???” because you’re assuming that your experience is the same as theirs when it’s really, really not.

8 years ago
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8 years ago

Woo!

The Daily Show Looks Into Donald Trump’s Unlikely Support Among Evangelicals. 
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8 years ago

Ever want to just walk up to someone & say in your most deadpan voice, "I don't know what crawled up your ass today, but it WASN'T ME. So please adjust." 😒


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7 years ago

remember how sam and dean both thought that the siren infected its victims through sex

and when sam walks into the motel room to find dean with nick-the-siren and dean’s totally under the siren’s control sam just

rolls with it

7 years ago

easter is on april fools day this year and all i can think about is the bible story of jesus

7 years ago

when the #1 shoplifted food in america is baby formula i don’t want to hear your wishy-washy liberal apologetics about how retail workers are just “doing their job” when they report people and that shoplifters are responsible for a company hypothetically firing someone for it

i mean what do you want to have happen exactly? if my baby is starving and i have no other recourse, i’ll steal baby formula. i don’t care about your stupid armchair philosophizing about it - you sound like you’ve never been poor and you have no clue what you’re talking about

8 years ago

#6wordstory Plummeting! "Probably should NOT have jumped."

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