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Note to self (& possible warning to others) If you: ×live alone ×have clothes in the dryer ×and are in bed don't read a scene where the female cop who lives alone has a freaking serial killer watching her sleep. Inside. The. House. Who knew the biggest peril of living alone, other than finances, is fiction!

To all the posts that say YOU might be someone's favorite book character...

At work today I was surprised & a little excited to find that I had a few black paperclips.

This is exciting stuff. I'm in an awesome book.

To any trans women and transfeminine followers of mine, did you know there’s a pretty huge Etsy store which does gaff underwear and swimsuits specifically designed for trans people amongst its products? They go in a pretty decent range of sizes, including sizes for young girls, and while I do not personally know anyone who has used them, there’s a fuckton of positive reviews on the Etsy store. They have a ton of colours to choose from, different fabric choices, the works.

And for once they’re not marked “for crossdressers” too, they actually under “transgender”, so that’s (depressingly) unusual.

I’m mostly posting this because I’ve seen a lot of younger people recently in particular saying they never knew what gaffs were… a lot of people find them WAY MORE comfortable and convenient than tucking, so I would recommend looking into them if you’ve never done so before!

And even if you yourself don’t use or need this stuff, do pass this kind of info on to any friends of yours that might, guys! There’s always like a million more PSAs about transmasc stuff as opposed to transfem stuf tbh…

My "soulmate" is now relationship anarchy. 😍😏

I’m polyamorous (though it doesn’t feel like an identity to me) but whenever I hear a poly person talk about polyamory as this magical key to interpersonal connections and communal child raising and community etc, I wanna roll my eyes. Like… chill. It’s just romance and sex. It’s not magic. You can do all that life-long-support child-raising queer-family without romance or sex. Have you ever even tried building meaningful connnections with friends?

i think……..one of the many problems in how sex is perceived in society is that we seem to think its this “skill” like people are very anxious about getting experience or practice or whatever wrt sex but that’s not really how it works, it’s a fundamentally an expression, a conversation; two-sided, subjective, situational, and figuring out what works for everyone involved, as opposed to being just another objective talent to master for all situations as if its one-size-fits-all without consideration to your specific partner

But so many people would lose the angst /pity points!

Date someone who will date you

To my friends on the spectrum, let me explain to you an unspoken social rule that possibly nobody has ever explained to you before

If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.

They’re asking you if they can play too.

If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.

They’re asking if they can watch it with you.

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When neurotypicals ask you “What are you doing?” 

What you think they’re asking: “Please explain to me what you are doing.” 

What they’re actually asking:  “Can I join you?”

Now here’s the really fucked up part. If you start explaining to them what you’re doing? They will interpret that as a rejection. 

What you think you’re saying: [the answer to their question]

What they think you’re saying: This is an elite and exclusive activity for a level 5 friend and you are a level 1 acquaintance. You are not qualified to join me because you don’t know all this stuff. Go away.

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This is why neurotypicals think you’re being cold and antisocial.

IT’S ALL A HORRIBLE MISCOMMUNICATION.

“Girls want a Superman, but they walk past a Clark Kent every day”

You fuckin CLOWNS think you’re a CLARK KENT? Not on my fuckin watch. You dumb, headass motherfuckers are barely a Guy Gardner and you think you’re a CLARK KENT? The amount of disrespect is unreal.