“Having Sex Is What Makes Us Human!” Ohohoho Buddy Wait Until You Find Out About Literally Every

ur government assigned gender for the day is the first thing u get when u click this link to a randomised wikipedia article. NO REROLLS . i am the  trollsteineggje mountain in norway

Currently looking through all of the RA books I can find to verify the direction Crowley faces while at his desk in Castle Araluen it’s so I can be correct as to whether he looks round or up at someone entering his office

deep-sea giant isopods group chat

iceopod_drip: who up scavenging the sea floor for nutrients⁉️⁉️ hmu if u can hang 🤙

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mostsexualmotherfucker: SO over the current food shortage in the gulf of mexico rn 🙏

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pass-the-detritus: Anyone else get pissed when you get compared to pill bugs? Stereotypes are so restricting… plus, pill bugs don’t even have pleopods! Smh

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DeadWhale joined the group.

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This is so funny bc Ryan Reynolds just got the app. He's almost certainly gonna be trying to figure out how it works for the next few days. He has no idea he's walking into the weird 2014 half-canon ship Putin election second anniversary. Is he gonna try to figure out what everyone is talking about?? Will he Know????

happy birthday to my favorite ghost puppeteer.

mr. very gay di angelo

It's my little brother's birthday, so we're at the pool with a couple of his (guy) friends, as well as two of the friends' dad

Another friend joined us last-minute bc she was already here. She's closest to my sibling who didn't come, but she's also good friends with the rest of us, and our families have also been friends for ages.

The dad of the other two friends asked why she was spending so much time with us, and said she "must be sweet on someone"

1. no

2. have you ever heard of friends

3. boys and girls can be friends

4. unless you're saying your boys only like to hang out with my brothers bc they're sweet on them?

5. she already has a boyfriend

Just *aroace angy* stop that!!! friends are a thing that can exist independently of crushes or fancying people or whatever you wanna call it! a girl doesn't have to fancy a boy to want to hang out with him and his friends, maybe, just MAYBE, she actually likes him AS A FRIEND!!!

*sigh* some older people are just. a lil annoying with their ideas of romance and what it means when a boy and girl are friends and all

If I ever date again I'd want to date another aspec because they'd understand where I'm coming from about how confusing and ultimately unimportant trying to define relationships are. I could say "this is my partner and we're dating" but what does that mean? We don't share romantic feelings for one another, we may or may not have sex, we aren't romantic or platonic, we refer to each other as "partner" because that's the best and easiest identifier. We care for one another but there is no real way to define our feelings and I don't think it would be necessary either as long as we can look at each other and say "I am choosing to be here with you regardless".

Whenever I see aro/ace discourses and whether they belong in LGBTQ+ spaces, my initial thought is always the same:

Who are you to decide?

What none tells you about being on aromantic and/or asexual spectrum is how isolating it is. You feel lonely. And it's constant. Lonliness because of identity isn't always overwhelming, but it's present somewhere deep down. You feel lonely not because of lack of sexual/romantic attraction but because of society and amatonormativity.

When I was in elementary school, all my friends had crushes. I never understood that because even if I liked someone, it was always in platonic way. They insisted I couldn't possibly not like anyone and I felt forced to fake a crush. In middle school people started dating each other and I comforted myself with "I'm too young for that, time will come". By the high school I already knew something was "wrong" with me, I wasn't like the others. People began having sex not because they were expected to do that but because they actually wanted to. That was such shock to me, I thought media was exaggerating with passion and attraction but apparently all those things happen irl too. Hence I realized I was "the weird one". I forced myself to have same experiences but it felt more like obligation to me than something I trully wanted. I felt dirty after being touched, it repulsed me. I felt like something is broken within me for not enjoying sex. I could never fall in love. People called me coldhearted, they thought something was wrong with me. Few therapist tried to "fix" me, even set me up on dates. I internalized all of that and began seeing myself as "not normal".

Now that I'm older and know there's nothing wrong with me or being aroace, I still can't shake years and years of "I'm not normal" I experienced. It still haunts me. I hear someone talking about their sexual experiences and part of me still feels "not normal" when seeing how "normal" people live. I feel lonely. Parents insist I must find a partner one day. They don't believe i don't experience romantic attraction towards other people. Outside of aspec communities online, I don't experience any support. When I step outside, I still feel like something is wrong with me. Intentionally or not, society still makes me feel like an outsider. It's because of amatonormativity that roots too deep.

There's nothing wrong with people being romantic or sexual, far from that - but vast majority of cishet folks out there expect me to act same as them. Mere thought of someone looking at me as sexual being makes me cringe. I never felt romantic attraction towards anyone. I don't want to be in a relationship - I'm different from the "rest". It's lonely. Felling of isolation became association to me as part of identity. I don't even form closer platonic bonds because inevitable question of my romantic/sex life would inevitably come. For the longest time I felt like I needed to censor that part of myself. I assimilate with surroundings and hope noone finds out my "little secret".

If we as society educated kids more about LGBTQ+ stuff, then maybe this chronic feeling of isolation in aspec communities would diminish in few generations. However what I can say is that from very early age I experienced romantic/sexual attraction very different from what is considered "standard" - and that is why I relate to LGBT experiences innumerous times more than I will to "standard' heterosexual heteroromantic ones.

So stranger on the internet, who are you to swept all my complicated feelings and experiences regarding sexuality under rug because they can't fit in your narrow definition of how romantic and sexual attraction should be.