Can Someone Please Be Proud Of Me Like Fuck I’m Trying

happy tdov!! its a great day to support ur local black disabled trans person manage medical expenses <3

cshp & vnm @/mjthehooman

[ID: mirror selfie of mj in a hospital bathroom. xe is wearing a black graphic t shirt that says "the world ended a long time ago", it's cpunk vest, a spiked and chained mask (with a kn95 underneath) and various pieces of punk style jewelry. xe is leaning on xyr upright rollator, which also has various cpunk patches and chains hanging from it /end ID]

sorry if youve already talked abt this, i couldnt find much -- as a multigender/genderfluid person, what do i do regarding hormone therapy? my dream appearance changes literally by the hour, some moments i deeply deeply yearn for the effects of hrt & some moments i get scared of it because i dont want anything to change. im sure some of it is just general fear of change but it also is Definitely gender-related a lot of the time .. im really just not sure what to do :[ tips/experiences?

I think the question to keep in mind is what would be the easiest "default" body to have? If there are certain traits that you would want to change on a regular basis, what would make that trait easiest to adjust?

In case that's not making sense, the aspect of my body that I have this question about is my chest. My chest dysphoria/euphoria fluctuates a lot, so sometimes I want boobs and sometimes I really want a flat chest. I'm trying to figure out whether it would be easiest to have a flat chest and use breast forms sometimes, or have boobs and bind sometimes.

Just... ask yourself what would minimize dysphoria and what would make it easiest to maximize euphoria. It's okay if you don't know the answer yet- gender stuff takes time, and there's nothing wrong with being unsure.

As for the general fear of change, I have no idea how to help you there because I'm very much also struggling with that, but I wish you the best of luck.

CW: antisemitism, pale of settlement, pogroms, genocide, cultural erasure

I don't think goyim can really conceive of how much Jews actually hold back in our criticism of antisemitism in media, and when you hear us it is often because we see a dangerous message that you don't... Yet.

I have a complicated relationship with Tim Burton's rendition of The Corpse Bride. I love it as a beautiful piece of stop motion art, but it isn't what it should have been, he took a Jewish story from the Pale and with intention stripped it of its Jewish origins. This alone is incredibly antisemitic. The criticism you will hear has probably been "this is a Jewish story, it should have retained its Jewish elements" but have you heard why we feel strongly about this story?

The story of the corpse bride is incredibly important to me and was born from Jewish trauma and Christian violence. Mobs would routinely attack Jewish weddings, they would murder brides and they would bury them in unmarked graves by the roadside still in their wedding clothes, they reasoned that without Jewish wives there are no Jewish mother's. Jews are intrinsic to the story.

It is antisemitism to take our story, about our pain, at the hands of non-jews and strip it for "useful" parts, in fact it is heartbreaking every time.

We are often forced to pick our battles and fighting a battle over a movie that has already been released by a director with a cult following is not worth it, you only hear us speak up in numbers when the antisemitism may lead to another century of violence, because raising our voice means picking a fight, because so many of you already see our pain as inconvenient and it is exhausting to never be heard.

-anyone can reblog

ppl pulling the 'just let people enjoy Wizard Game' are often met with 'JKR funds anti-trans groups!' and that's. entirely true. but doesn't actually go far enough.

like if you're on team Let People Enjoy Wizard Game hey. did you know. that in my city RIGHT NOW JKR is sole funder and key board member of an unregulated private agab-policed rape crisis shelter set up specifically to Own The Transes

and which now sits on several gendered violence prevention boards alongside representatives from the (publicly funded and accountable) existing Rape Crisis Centre, against the staff of which her friends and followers have been involved in a years-long harassment campaign purely and explicitly because they run trans-inclusive support services and bc their CEO is a trans woman of colour.

(my friend works there and the pure volume of transphobic harassment has caused several long standing members of staff to quit. which I'm really fucking angry about bc I would not be here today if the Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre hadn't been there to help me)

and that on those boards they're known for supporting increased police harassment and approaches that disproportionately criminalise trans people, unhoused people and sex workers and provably don't positively impact the issue of gendered violence.

what I'm saying is that yes JKR funds anti-trans groups but she is also pretty directly involved in materials worsening conditions for vulnerable people at a local and personal level too!!!! she's running an unregulated crisis shelter out of spite and using that to legitimise her political lobbying!!!!!! fuck you!

it makes me laugh when ppl say that trans men who “pass” will never have problems bc there’s a cis guy on tik tok who gets endlessly harassed by transphobes bc he had surgery for gynecomastia so ppl are convinced he’s a trans man.

Learning to delete/mute/block before a negative comment takes root in your mind is a modern survival skill. If you're going to wander the overgrown countryside of the internet, you need to develop a quick eye for ticks.

It's deeply tempting to respond to the "well, actually," to the cruel assumption, to the unjust accusation, to the odious viewpoint. It's tempting because you're defaulting to the etiquette of dinner conversation. This isn't a dinner conversation. Someone is shouting at you from a moving car. Turn away.

Hey whump community, if we as a whole could stop incorrectly referring to various whumper characters as "sociopaths" "psychopaths" "bipolar" "narcissists" or any other demonized mental conditions, that would be nice.

If you're going to write a story which seriously takes into account how a mental illness, cluster b disorder, or whatever affects a character (yes, including villains) I'm fine with it so long as you put in your due research.

But if you're going to throw around improper diagnostic terms and slurs for the mentally ill simply to state that a character is "evil" or "abusive" then you are getting yourself blocked no questions asked.

-Abraham ♡♡♡

i feel like i’m seeing a lot of “grass is greener” syndrome in many marginalized communities rn and i do not love it.

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