Not To Hate On Claire X Carmy By Any Means (ship What You Want Idc) But I Just Want To Know Why Your

This is an actual conversation they’ve had before

Headcanon that because there’s fanfiction about famous chefs, there’s probably fanfiction about Carmen Berzatto in The Bear universe and Syd accidentally stumbled upon it at some point while looking up something about Carmy and read it. She went down a rabbit hole of Carmen Berzatto fanfic and now she has the embarrassing secret that she’s read multiple Carmy fanfics and now they own/run a restaurant together

Carmy having to ask if Claire is his girlfriend after literally buying Syd a personalized Thom Browne jacket, telling Syd he couldn’t do this without her, he wouldn’t even want to do this without her, and she makes him better at this, picturing Syd to calm himself down from an intense panic attack, yelling Syd’s name when he got stuck in the fridge, saying he felt like he should’ve known that her mom died, and saying you deserve my full focus and nothing less. Yeah buddy you have a girlfriend it’s just not Claire.

Something interesting that I’ve noticed is that Natalie is one of the only people who hasn’t given her thoughts on Carmy and Claire together. We’ve seen most of the people in Carms life give positive reactions and approval to Carmy and Claire, going as far as trying to push Carmy towards Claire i.e the Christmas ep with Mikey and Richie trying to antagonize him about seeing her and Fak willingly giving up his number. Nat’s one of the few people who hasn’t given their insight on Carmy and Claire’s relationship as a whole, besides being somewhat glad he’s socializing with someone outside of the restaurant. I’m hoping this leads to them having a conversation in s3 where they talk about whether he’s truly happy with Claire and Nat being the only person who can see that he’s not. I feel as though Carmy and Syd share a similar relationship to Nat and Pete, Syd and Pete being the one person who isn’t tied to their past, the ones who see all of their damage and want them anyways. And I think Nat sees this too, that Syd is to Carmy as Pete is to Nat. I hope she tells him to do what makes him happy and be with someone who makes him happy and not the person everybody thinks he should be with.

Me watching people ship sydluca

“They’re platonic soulmates!”

“They’re platonically in love!”

Is the platonic in the room with us??

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Watching The Bear sweep award shows like a proud mother

Carmy throughout all of season two while Syd was fighting for her life to get The Bear to the opening

I have no explanation for this

Actually The Bear is a really good case study on trauma being deemed as abhorrent when it’s not presented in a pretty or digestible way within media including how characters who struggle with it are seen as unlovable. Particularly within Carmen’s character and the audience’s response to his behavior in season 3. Let me start this off by saying I’m not trying excuse any of Carmy’s actions throughout s3, I’m just acknowledging that trauma and it’s effects on the traumatized individual as well the effects on people in their life are complex and unpredictable, furthermore, people who haven’t experienced trauma tend to be more judgmental than compassionate towards them. Carmy is no different; him exhibiting this behavior and a certain part of The Bear fanbase choosing to ignore his past or just plain forgetting it and acting he’s like the worst person to have ever existed for having trauma and experiencing many of it’s ugly side effects. I firmly believe that a big part of this reaction is because many people lack nuance in media and an understanding that nothing is ever truly black and white. There are many shades of grey within humanity and The Bear is one of the few pieces of media that does a wonderful job of showing that. It’s glaringly obvious that Carmy has a multitude of issues that need to be addressed before he can run a successful restaurant and maintain healthy relationships. But None of that makes him an irredeemable or horrible person. It makes him a flawed human being that needs help who is also deserving of love and support. Trauma is far from beautiful and I’m tired of people acting like it needs to be portrayed in media in a sanitized way that erases all the hardships that come with it because they feel uncomfortable when they’re shown the gritty, raw, vulnerable truth of what trauma really is; of what it really does to a person. Carmy is no exception, he is struggling with his mental health in a way that is not pretty and wrapped up in a bow and people can’t handle it because we’re being shown the reality of it. He is angry, lashing out, spiraling, handling his emotions the only way he knows how by throwing himself into his work. I won’t deny that he has treated the people in his life poorly and he will need to earn their forgiveness in his own time. Yet none of that makes him any less worthy of love and patience. He needs professional help but he will only reach out when he’s ready too and even then it won’t go away over night. It can take months, and possibly years to truly heal from every thing he’s been through and after all of that he will still have bad days and he will still be just as worthy of love on those days as he is on the good ones. Struggling with trauma will never make anybody underserving of being treated with kindness or compassion and it will never make anyone any less worthy of being loved.