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For me, it's the ships with one (1) curly-haired, messy boy with suppressed daddy(or mummy) issues who literally wouldn't survive a day without a gorgeous too-good-for-this-world black/brown girl who gets shit done, looks amazing in braids and somehow likes having him around anyway.
Sydney is stronger than I am because if I went to my partner trying to have an adult conversation on maybe slowing down so we can work better with each other and his response was to act like a fucking 12 year old boy on a Fortnite server with no parental restrictions spitting shitty insults like “mAybE i’M jUsT BettEr tHan yOu”, I’d have to whack him upside the head.
You better believe I’m gonna take that 5 second clip and run with it
Everyday I think about how Chris Storer wrote Sydcarmy; One of the most achingly beautiful love stories I’ve seen in media in a long time. About two people who were connected long before they met and how they eventually found each other when they needed it the most. Who have continued to build upon their love together and created something beautiful born out of devotion. Who understand each other on a cosmic level, who have made each other better in every way possible. Who were indubitably meant to be partners in every sense of the word. And how Storer very well might throw it all away for one of the most boring, unhealthy, underdeveloped, wonderbread couples who look they could be distant cousins.
So you’re going to look me in my EYES and tell ME that he made her the best meal shes EVER had and that dish was an act of defiance against his EC and his HEART on plate in the shape of a HEART and that dish went out to HER and it was the BEST meal she’s ever HAD and then you’re going to LIE to me and say that they’re NOT soulmates
Richard Siken, The Worm Kings Lullaby// Jenny Slate, Little Weirds// Sleeping at last, Already Gone
I just think that they were never meant to work out regardless of whether Sydcarmy happens or not
Invisible String, Taylor Swift
Chris Storer after writing an incredibly beautiful and complex love story
Was it casual when I made the margins of your list of rules I didn’t agree with wider because I knew you write in the margins? Was it casual when I bought you a multiple-hundred dollar customized chef coat because you mentioned that you thought mine looked cool? Was it casual when our coworker started wearing the assigned uniform and I said she was ‘dressed like you’ even though everyone else also wore the uniform? Was it casual when I waited all night after the soft open of our restaurant to bring you coffee after you ignored me for weeks and got yourself locked in the fridge?
Carmy vs Syd The Bear, Season 1-3
“Excuse me he asked for no pickles”
Me watching people ship sydluca
“She’s his peace” where??? at what point??
THIS!!! He’s far from perfect and his behavior has been questionable but he’s also unlearning everything he’s ever been taught and that takes time. We saw everything he internalized from the Chefs he worked with, the good and the bad, everything that made him who he is as a chef and a person. It’s going to take time and therapy to go through all that trauma and learn how to let go of things that aren’t benefiting him. Carmy’s got a long way to go in the healing process but so does Syd and maybe they can do it together
ngl watching how some of y’all talk about Carmen makes me so fucking depressed as someone with a lot of baggage and trauma
no one said you have to put up with bullshit behavior forever, but if you think that someone who was torn down every day of their life is gonna be perfect the moment they realize they have a problem to fix in themselves, you’re going to be disappointed. repeatedly. forever.
none of y’all deserve Sydney either, bc she’s a damn good depiction of what it’s like to be someone who loves and cares for someone who’s fucked up. A side of the equation I ALSO happen to be familiar with. you hold that person accountable for shit behavior, back away when you need to for your health, and because you love them, you fucking come back.
Idk what kind of interpersonal relationships y’all have that can so easily be thrown away the moment shit isn’t perfect the way YOU need it, but this fucking “I don’t owe anyone anything least of all my shoulder to cry on” mindset sucks dick and balls when applied to media as much as it does in real life.
People are burdens. Plain and simple. Community requires sacrifice, love and partnership requires sacrifice. Or at the very fucking least: compromise.
Like. If you met someone who understood you better than anyone, a person whose entire life has been parallel to yours in a way that uniquely binds the two of you, y’all would really just fucking walk away WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING just because they’re hurting and lashing out? Because that’s what y’all are advocating for, and that’s the fucking problem.
So many of y’all have this “I shouldn’t have to speak up and set a boundary” mindset. you just fucking sulk and stew in it and then blow up because you never set your foot down when you needed to.
Even if Sydney walks away from Carmen, she needs to fucking speak up or she’s gonna get walked on AGAIN. She deserves better but she also has to fucking ask for it. And that’s entirely separate from the fact that Carmen needs to pull his head out of his ass.
Either way, I think we would all do well to fucking self-reflect.
Somehow not paralleling Sydney’s panic attack with either of Carmy’s makes me even more sick than directly paralleling the scenes would’ve. Because what do you mean you’re going to show Syd desperately searching for a grounding, something to bring her back to earth and then cut away to Carmy a thousand miles away both mentally and physically, still running from everything whereas Carmy sees/ hears Syd and almost immediately calms down. Are you trying to tell me that Syd is always, always there when he needs her to be and that Carmy can’t even be there when she needs him the most is that what you’re trying to tell me Storer??
FX please stop playing with my emotions I’m not strong enough for this
The entirety of The Bear fandom rn
Me eating up any SydCarmy crumbs FX is willing to give me
A comprehensive list as to why I think Carmy x Claire shouldn’t be together:
It took Carmy a good 10 seconds to remember Claire’s name at the store
Carmy originally gave her a fake number, so she hunted down Fak to get his real one
Claire had to make him repeat his real number to her even though he looked like he was fighting for his life to not hang up the phone
Their dates weren’t dates, they we’re running errands and not the sweet “I love doing mundane stuff with you kind” the “my cars not working so I need a ride kind”
When they attended the house party Carmy was clearly uncomfortable and quite literally pretended to be someone else the entire time (Logan)
Mikey and Richie pressuring Carmy about Claire in fishes even though he clearly just wants them stop and let it go
THE PANIC ATTACK SCENE, Carmy trying to his damndest to picture Claire to help himself calm down but it’s not working and the moment he pictures Syd he can breathe again
They had brief crush on each other in high school and nothing more, they were never close friends if anything Mikey and Richie seemed closer to Claire than Carmy ever was. Their conversation in the car backs this up because Claire talks about knowing and thinking Mikey was cool, but not a lot about Carmy
Every time Carmy was asked if Claire is his girlfriend he couldn’t answer, he even has to ask Fak if Claire is his girlfriend
Not to make this about SydCarmy but to make this about SydCarmy he does all these intimate things with Syd (i.e. the table scene, the monogrammed jacket, you deserve my full focus, opening an entire restaurant with her) but he can’t even bring himself to call Claire his girlfriend
There was no point where Carmy showed any interest at starting or being in a relationship with Claire it was all forced by someone else (i.e. Giving Claire a fake number, Fak giving Claire his real number, Richie and Mikey pressuring him in fishes, Richie and Fak pressuring him even now, only calling Claire his gf after someone told him that’s what she’s supposed to be, hanging out with her only when he runs errands and needs a ride, having to be reminded to invite her to family and friends night)
Their entire relationship felt like an obligation (specifically to Mikey) from Carmy’s part, he never pursued it and never put as much work into it as Claire did
The obvious indications that Claire represents Carmy’s past while Syd represents his future
Claire telling Carmy she loves him for the first time via voicemail after only dating for a few weeks
Carmy unintentionally breaking up with Claire whilst locked in a fridge
Beau Taplin // Wrong Turns
I have not seen one good reason as to why SydCarmy shouldn’t happen. Age gap? They’re maybe 2-3 years apart and both full grown adults. Power imbalance? They very clearly view each other as equals and respect each other deeply (I couldn’t do this without you, You were the best cdc in the u.s.) Professionalism? Many chefs and people who work in the culinary industry have said it’s quite common to have work place relationships. Carmy needs therapy? He can go to therapy AND be in a relationship, many people are. The Bear doesn’t need romance? There are many ships and many canon relationships (CarmyxClaire etc.), yet SydCarmy is the only one you don’t like. They’re better off as friends? Maybe, but many good relationships are a balance of friendship and partnership, so really they can remain besties and be in a romantic relationship.
Chris Storer on June 27th
I love the idea that once Carmy makes it clear to everyone he doesn’t want to be with Claire, Richie and Fak immediately make it their job to get him and Syd together
Seeing new content and bts pics from The Bear season 3 and knowing I’m going to fighting for my life for Sydcarmy
Carmy having to ask if Claire is his girlfriend after literally buying Syd a personalized Thom Browne jacket, telling Syd he couldn’t do this without her, he wouldn’t even want to do this without her, and she makes him better at this, picturing Syd to calm himself down from an intense panic attack, yelling Syd’s name when he got stuck in the fridge, saying he felt like he should’ve known that her mom died, and saying you deserve my full focus and nothing less. Yeah buddy you have a girlfriend it’s just not Claire.
The fact that some people still think Syd is inferior to Carmy or that they have a mentor/mentee dynamic after Carmy HIMSELF said “I couldn’t do this without you, I wouldn’t even want to do this without you, you make better at this” is actually insane
if I don’t get a SydCarmy kiss or at least some form of confirmation that they’re canon before the end of season 3 then i will be severely unwell
Even better, they’re doing something fluffy and domestic (cooking together preferably) and he’s just gazing at her with the softest and most adoring look in his eyes and it just slips out
Need carmen to say “I love you” before him and sydney even date. let me clarify, I’m not even thinking of it as a confession in some heated moment I want it to just slip out and he’s a little mortified till sydney’s like “same!”