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Apparently jeremy allen white isn’t from chicago?!!!! This is a world of LIES!
Sydney is stronger than I am because if I went to my partner trying to have an adult conversation on maybe slowing down so we can work better with each other and his response was to act like a fucking 12 year old boy on a Fortnite server with no parental restrictions spitting shitty insults like “mAybE i’M jUsT BettEr tHan yOu”, I’d have to whack him upside the head.
Like Him - Tyler, The Creator
Never getting over how the writers wanted to make Claire seem more human so they had her tell a story about how she almost killed a girl. They really went look she’s human, she makes mistakes too!! :) SHE ALMOST KILLED SOMEONE???
Jeremy Allen White, Vulture interview // Sarah Kay, Hand me downs
You better believe I’m gonna take that 5 second clip and run with it
Everyday I think about how Chris Storer wrote Sydcarmy; One of the most achingly beautiful love stories I’ve seen in media in a long time. About two people who were connected long before they met and how they eventually found each other when they needed it the most. Who have continued to build upon their love together and created something beautiful born out of devotion. Who understand each other on a cosmic level, who have made each other better in every way possible. Who were indubitably meant to be partners in every sense of the word. And how Storer very well might throw it all away for one of the most boring, unhealthy, underdeveloped, wonderbread couples who look they could be distant cousins.
Actually The Bear is a really good case study on trauma being deemed as abhorrent when it’s not presented in a pretty or digestible way within media including how characters who struggle with it are seen as unlovable. Particularly within Carmen’s character and the audience’s response to his behavior in season 3. Let me start this off by saying I’m not trying excuse any of Carmy’s actions throughout s3, I’m just acknowledging that trauma and it’s effects on the traumatized individual as well the effects on people in their life are complex and unpredictable, furthermore, people who haven’t experienced trauma tend to be more judgmental than compassionate towards them. Carmy is no different; him exhibiting this behavior and a certain part of The Bear fanbase choosing to ignore his past or just plain forgetting it and acting he’s like the worst person to have ever existed for having trauma and experiencing many of it’s ugly side effects. I firmly believe that a big part of this reaction is because many people lack nuance in media and an understanding that nothing is ever truly black and white. There are many shades of grey within humanity and The Bear is one of the few pieces of media that does a wonderful job of showing that. It’s glaringly obvious that Carmy has a multitude of issues that need to be addressed before he can run a successful restaurant and maintain healthy relationships. But None of that makes him an irredeemable or horrible person. It makes him a flawed human being that needs help who is also deserving of love and support. Trauma is far from beautiful and I’m tired of people acting like it needs to be portrayed in media in a sanitized way that erases all the hardships that come with it because they feel uncomfortable when they’re shown the gritty, raw, vulnerable truth of what trauma really is; of what it really does to a person. Carmy is no exception, he is struggling with his mental health in a way that is not pretty and wrapped up in a bow and people can’t handle it because we’re being shown the reality of it. He is angry, lashing out, spiraling, handling his emotions the only way he knows how by throwing himself into his work. I won’t deny that he has treated the people in his life poorly and he will need to earn their forgiveness in his own time. Yet none of that makes him any less worthy of love and patience. He needs professional help but he will only reach out when he’s ready too and even then it won’t go away over night. It can take months, and possibly years to truly heal from every thing he’s been through and after all of that he will still have bad days and he will still be just as worthy of love on those days as he is on the good ones. Struggling with trauma will never make anybody underserving of being treated with kindness or compassion and it will never make anyone any less worthy of being loved.
I’m tired of you, still tied to me// Hard Times, Ethel Cain
So you’re going to look me in my EYES and tell ME that he made her the best meal shes EVER had and that dish was an act of defiance against his EC and his HEART on plate in the shape of a HEART and that dish went out to HER and it was the BEST meal she’s ever HAD and then you’re going to LIE to me and say that they’re NOT soulmates
Richard Siken, The Worm Kings Lullaby// Jenny Slate, Little Weirds// Sleeping at last, Already Gone
I just think that they were never meant to work out regardless of whether Sydcarmy happens or not
Thinking about them today
Invisible String, Taylor Swift
The Bear kitchen: audible shouting, dishes breaking, crying, punches being thrown,“Carmy shut thE FUCK UP”
The guests in the dining room:
“Excuse me he asked for no pickles”
Me watching people ship sydluca
Ah yes Camry Berzatto
“She’s his peace” where??? at what point??
Just remembered that you can see inside the kitchen at The Bear from the dining room and I just know people were watching everything go down every night. Like I can criticize the toxicity of that kitchen all I want but I know my ass would be sitting in that dining room leaning over my table watching and going “ooh dinner and a show”
Listen LISTEN I will not defend all of Carmy’s behavior this season but I will always defend him breaking down and crying after confronting David. Because imagine standing up to someone who made your life a living hell for several years, after you finally got the courage to do so and you tell them about how their behavior hurt you and how it still does and all they have to say is that they don’t give a fuck. Then you have every right to break down in a hallway.
Somehow not paralleling Sydney’s panic attack with either of Carmy’s makes me even more sick than directly paralleling the scenes would’ve. Because what do you mean you’re going to show Syd desperately searching for a grounding, something to bring her back to earth and then cut away to Carmy a thousand miles away both mentally and physically, still running from everything whereas Carmy sees/ hears Syd and almost immediately calms down. Are you trying to tell me that Syd is always, always there when he needs her to be and that Carmy can’t even be there when she needs him the most is that what you’re trying to tell me Storer??
Watching The Bear season 3 mood board
Crazy how people can watch The Bear and miss one of the most integral parts of the story, Change and all that comes with it; all of the joy, all of the pain, every good and bad moment, the fear of changing and the understanding that change is a necessary part of growth. Richie fighting against the Changing of the neighborhood and restaurant he’s known his whole life to eventually accepting it and finding his purpose through that. Ebra, same as Richie, fighting against change but coming to an understanding that change must come whether it’s welcomed or not. Tina, Syd, and Marcus welcoming the change, tapping into their full potential and becoming the incredibly talented chefs they were meant to be. Carmy being faced with an ultimatum, continue on the way you are, down a destructive path, pushing everyone and everything that you love away, and end up the same way your mother and brother did, or change, accept that you will have to change your way of living in order to move forward in life and let go of the past that you so desperately cling to, to move towards a bright and beautiful future that welcomes you with open arms.
I feel like we breezed past that guy leaving mid shift to smoke crack in the alley in the finale a little too fast
Oh I am unwell
Cause I hate this story
Where happiness ends and dies with you
I thought good guys get to be happy
I'm not happy
I am poison in the water and unhappy
-ethel cain, hard times
Guess I’m a midwestern dad now
New meme template just dropped
FX please stop playing with my emotions I’m not strong enough for this