I Can’t Do This Rn

The parallels THE PARALLELS

(C’est pas grave translates to it’s not serious/it doesn’t matter)

Actually The Bear is a really good case study on trauma being deemed as abhorrent when it’s not presented in a pretty or digestible way within media including how characters who struggle with it are seen as unlovable. Particularly within Carmen’s character and the audience’s response to his behavior in season 3. Let me start this off by saying I’m not trying excuse any of Carmy’s actions throughout s3, I’m just acknowledging that trauma and it’s effects on the traumatized individual as well the effects on people in their life are complex and unpredictable, furthermore, people who haven’t experienced trauma tend to be more judgmental than compassionate towards them. Carmy is no different; him exhibiting this behavior and a certain part of The Bear fanbase choosing to ignore his past or just plain forgetting it and acting he’s like the worst person to have ever existed for having trauma and experiencing many of it’s ugly side effects. I firmly believe that a big part of this reaction is because many people lack nuance in media and an understanding that nothing is ever truly black and white. There are many shades of grey within humanity and The Bear is one of the few pieces of media that does a wonderful job of showing that. It’s glaringly obvious that Carmy has a multitude of issues that need to be addressed before he can run a successful restaurant and maintain healthy relationships. But None of that makes him an irredeemable or horrible person. It makes him a flawed human being that needs help who is also deserving of love and support. Trauma is far from beautiful and I’m tired of people acting like it needs to be portrayed in media in a sanitized way that erases all the hardships that come with it because they feel uncomfortable when they’re shown the gritty, raw, vulnerable truth of what trauma really is; of what it really does to a person. Carmy is no exception, he is struggling with his mental health in a way that is not pretty and wrapped up in a bow and people can’t handle it because we’re being shown the reality of it. He is angry, lashing out, spiraling, handling his emotions the only way he knows how by throwing himself into his work. I won’t deny that he has treated the people in his life poorly and he will need to earn their forgiveness in his own time. Yet none of that makes him any less worthy of love and patience. He needs professional help but he will only reach out when he’s ready too and even then it won’t go away over night. It can take months, and possibly years to truly heal from every thing he’s been through and after all of that he will still have bad days and he will still be just as worthy of love on those days as he is on the good ones. Struggling with trauma will never make anybody underserving of being treated with kindness or compassion and it will never make anyone any less worthy of being loved.

Can’t wait for the views on The Boys to go up and for the original cast to be really excited only to realize it’s because of another TV show from fucking 2005

post by tumblr user @diver-up​ // laura gilpin, the two-headed calf // tweet by vincent d’onofrio // post by tumblr user @iicaru​ // rainbow connection, the muppet movie (thank you @persimmongal)

Listen I know that “people who are close to you aren’t supposed to treat you that way” is supposed to be sad but it’s also beautiful in a way because it shows that Sally has shown Percy the way he deserves to be loved hence why he prayed to her instead of Poseidon and why he calls himself Sally Jackson’s son because It was Sally who loved him the way he deserves to be loved

Rewatching the scene where Claire calls Carmy and asks him to repeat his actual phone number and the way he hesitates you could’ve told me there was somebody holding gun to his head and I would’ve believed you

Feeling like this mf everytime I talk about Sydcarmy

What highlighter does he use?

Dean Winchester in SUPERNATURAL 8.03 'Heartache'

“Carmy has too much baggage and Sydney deserves better than that” is such wild take because you’re essentially just saying that “this person has trauma therefore they aren’t good enough to be loved” and that’s such a fucked up ideology because everyone has and/or has had their own issues but that doesn’t make them unworthy of love. A big part of relationships is the understanding that your partner may have trauma/issues but it will never make them any less worthy of being loved. That’s why sydcarmy is so beautiful, because they see all of each others flaws, issues, and trauma and they love each other regardless