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I need Jensen Ackles to have his Daniel Craig moment like in knives out/glass onion, No more serious macho man roles. It’s time to don a silly little outfit and a funny little accent Mr. Ackles.

Everyday I think about how Chris Storer wrote Sydcarmy; One of the most achingly beautiful love stories I’ve seen in media in a long time. About two people who were connected long before they met and how they eventually found each other when they needed it the most. Who have continued to build upon their love together and created something beautiful born out of devotion. Who understand each other on a cosmic level, who have made each other better in every way possible. Who were indubitably meant to be partners in every sense of the word. And how Storer very well might throw it all away for one of the most boring, unhealthy, underdeveloped, wonderbread couples who look they could be distant cousins.

Nothing will ever be funnier than remembering that Sam and Dean are just some guys and they had literally every being existence stressed out at some point or another. Like imagine being an all powerful being or a monster and your worst enemies are just two guys with daddy issues™️ and a gun.

Actually The Bear is a really good case study on trauma being deemed as abhorrent when it’s not presented in a pretty or digestible way within media including how characters who struggle with it are seen as unlovable. Particularly within Carmen’s character and the audience’s response to his behavior in season 3. Let me start this off by saying I’m not trying excuse any of Carmy’s actions throughout s3, I’m just acknowledging that trauma and it’s effects on the traumatized individual as well the effects on people in their life are complex and unpredictable, furthermore, people who haven’t experienced trauma tend to be more judgmental than compassionate towards them. Carmy is no different; him exhibiting this behavior and a certain part of The Bear fanbase choosing to ignore his past or just plain forgetting it and acting he’s like the worst person to have ever existed for having trauma and experiencing many of it’s ugly side effects. I firmly believe that a big part of this reaction is because many people lack nuance in media and an understanding that nothing is ever truly black and white. There are many shades of grey within humanity and The Bear is one of the few pieces of media that does a wonderful job of showing that. It’s glaringly obvious that Carmy has a multitude of issues that need to be addressed before he can run a successful restaurant and maintain healthy relationships. But None of that makes him an irredeemable or horrible person. It makes him a flawed human being that needs help who is also deserving of love and support. Trauma is far from beautiful and I’m tired of people acting like it needs to be portrayed in media in a sanitized way that erases all the hardships that come with it because they feel uncomfortable when they’re shown the gritty, raw, vulnerable truth of what trauma really is; of what it really does to a person. Carmy is no exception, he is struggling with his mental health in a way that is not pretty and wrapped up in a bow and people can’t handle it because we’re being shown the reality of it. He is angry, lashing out, spiraling, handling his emotions the only way he knows how by throwing himself into his work. I won’t deny that he has treated the people in his life poorly and he will need to earn their forgiveness in his own time. Yet none of that makes him any less worthy of love and patience. He needs professional help but he will only reach out when he’s ready too and even then it won’t go away over night. It can take months, and possibly years to truly heal from every thing he’s been through and after all of that he will still have bad days and he will still be just as worthy of love on those days as he is on the good ones. Struggling with trauma will never make anybody underserving of being treated with kindness or compassion and it will never make anyone any less worthy of being loved.

I’m tired of you, still tied to me// Hard Times, Ethel Cain

So you’re going to look me in my EYES and tell ME that he made her the best meal shes EVER had and that dish was an act of defiance against his EC and his HEART on plate in the shape of a HEART and that dish went out to HER and it was the BEST meal she’s ever HAD and then you’re going to LIE to me and say that they’re NOT soulmates

Gods are stubborn. So am I. // Anne Carson's Grief Lessons: Four Plays by Euripides

Richard Siken, The Worm Kings Lullaby// Jenny Slate, Little Weirds// Sleeping at last, Already Gone

I just think that they were never meant to work out regardless of whether Sydcarmy happens or not

Thinking about them today

Invisible String, Taylor Swift

OH MY GOD??

Chris Storer after writing an incredibly beautiful and complex love story

Was it casual when I made the margins of your list of rules I didn’t agree with wider because I knew you write in the margins? Was it casual when I bought you a multiple-hundred dollar customized chef coat because you mentioned that you thought mine looked cool? Was it casual when our coworker started wearing the assigned uniform and I said she was ‘dressed like you’ even though everyone else also wore the uniform? Was it casual when I waited all night after the soft open of our restaurant to bring you coffee after you ignored me for weeks and got yourself locked in the fridge?

Can’t believe Dean fucking died at the end of Supernatural and people just went “it’s what he would’ve wanted”

Carmy all through out season 3 for some reason

Carmy vs Syd The Bear, Season 1-3

Cfcvbbjjjmmm this is so funny

Ah yes Camry Berzatto

The Bear kitchen: audible shouting, dishes breaking, crying, punches being thrown,“Carmy shut thE FUCK UP”

The guests in the dining room:

“Excuse me he asked for no pickles”

Me watching people ship sydluca

Ah yes Camry Berzatto

“She’s his peace” where??? at what point??

They’re so very Hard Times by Ethel Cain coded

[gun shot]

Just remembered that you can see inside the kitchen at The Bear from the dining room and I just know people were watching everything go down every night. Like I can criticize the toxicity of that kitchen all I want but I know my ass would be sitting in that dining room leaning over my table watching and going “ooh dinner and a show”

Listen LISTEN I will not defend all of Carmy’s behavior this season but I will always defend him breaking down and crying after confronting David. Because imagine standing up to someone who made your life a living hell for several years, after you finally got the courage to do so and you tell them about how their behavior hurt you and how it still does and all they have to say is that they don’t give a fuck. Then you have every right to break down in a hallway.

THIS!!! He’s far from perfect and his behavior has been questionable but he’s also unlearning everything he’s ever been taught and that takes time. We saw everything he internalized from the Chefs he worked with, the good and the bad, everything that made him who he is as a chef and a person. It’s going to take time and therapy to go through all that trauma and learn how to let go of things that aren’t benefiting him. Carmy’s got a long way to go in the healing process but so does Syd and maybe they can do it together

ngl watching how some of y’all talk about Carmen makes me so fucking depressed as someone with a lot of baggage and trauma

no one said you have to put up with bullshit behavior forever, but if you think that someone who was torn down every day of their life is gonna be perfect the moment they realize they have a problem to fix in themselves, you’re going to be disappointed. repeatedly. forever.

none of y’all deserve Sydney either, bc she’s a damn good depiction of what it’s like to be someone who loves and cares for someone who’s fucked up. A side of the equation I ALSO happen to be familiar with. you hold that person accountable for shit behavior, back away when you need to for your health, and because you love them, you fucking come back.

Idk what kind of interpersonal relationships y’all have that can so easily be thrown away the moment shit isn’t perfect the way YOU need it, but this fucking “I don’t owe anyone anything least of all my shoulder to cry on” mindset sucks dick and balls when applied to media as much as it does in real life.

People are burdens. Plain and simple. Community requires sacrifice, love and partnership requires sacrifice. Or at the very fucking least: compromise.

Like. If you met someone who understood you better than anyone, a person whose entire life has been parallel to yours in a way that uniquely binds the two of you, y’all would really just fucking walk away WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING just because they’re hurting and lashing out? Because that’s what y’all are advocating for, and that’s the fucking problem.

So many of y’all have this “I shouldn’t have to speak up and set a boundary” mindset. you just fucking sulk and stew in it and then blow up because you never set your foot down when you needed to.

Even if Sydney walks away from Carmen, she needs to fucking speak up or she’s gonna get walked on AGAIN. She deserves better but she also has to fucking ask for it. And that’s entirely separate from the fact that Carmen needs to pull his head out of his ass.

Either way, I think we would all do well to fucking self-reflect.

S3 was a pure mix of good and bad writing but all the good writing got overshadowed by the fact that whenever the Faks showed up on screen I wanted to explode

The only time I’ve supported Claire and ever will is when she had to tell the Faks to leave when they showed up at her FUCKING JOB to try and get her to forgive her ex

Somehow not paralleling Sydney’s panic attack with either of Carmy’s makes me even more sick than directly paralleling the scenes would’ve. Because what do you mean you’re going to show Syd desperately searching for a grounding, something to bring her back to earth and then cut away to Carmy a thousand miles away both mentally and physically, still running from everything whereas Carmy sees/ hears Syd and almost immediately calms down. Are you trying to tell me that Syd is always, always there when he needs her to be and that Carmy can’t even be there when she needs him the most is that what you’re trying to tell me Storer??

Watching The Bear season 3 mood board

Joyride, Kevin Abstract