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part i: The thing was, that Ginny Weasley had always been — pretty. This was an undisputed fact, in Harry’s eyes. A known truth. But seeing her like this; ripples of laughter falling from her lips, fair yet sunkissed skin, collecting more freckles by the day, all curves and long legs — was different, was staggering.
(Or, the one where Harry and Ginny become more than friends).
CanonCompliant, Set in and around HBP, Missing Scenes, Harry/Ginny
you ate with that <3
Ginny Weasley
Ginny is such a fascinating character when you peel back her layers: beneath her bold, confident exterior is a girl fighting to carve out her own identity in a family where it’s easy to get lost. Being the youngest and the only girl in a family full of loud, opinionated boys? That’s a battle for space, for attention, for agency. And the way she navigates that pressure (sometimes through defiance, sometimes through sharpness) reveals both her strength and her wounds.
The Weight of Being "The Only Girl"
Ginny grows up in a household where gender roles, while never explicitly rigid, definitely shape how she is treated. Her mother dotes on her and clearly wants to protect her in a way she doesn’t with the boys. Molly’s love is fierce, but also stifling, especially for someone as independent as Ginny. Imagine how frustrating that must be when all your brothers are given more freedom while you’re constantly being watched.
This is a girl who grew up watching her brothers play Quidditch but was never invited to join them. She had to sneak out and practice on her own. Even from an early age, Ginny learned that if she wanted something, she had to take it for herself, no one was going to offer her a seat at the table.
And that kind of environment breeds a specific kind of defiance: I will not be ignored.
Why She’s So Sharp with Ron
Her relationship with Ron is especially charged because, in many ways, they’re both fighting for the same thing: respect. Ron feels like the overshadowed youngest brother, constantly compared to the successful older ones. Ginny feels like the invisible baby sister, struggling to be seen as more than a fragile little girl. When those frustrations collide? Fireworks.
• Ginny’s Insults to Ron: There’s a meanness in how Ginny talks to Ron sometimes, calling him immature, mocking his romantic failures. But isn’t that rooted in her own frustration? She sees herself as stronger and more mature because she’s had to grow up faster under the weight of being underestimated. To Ginny, Ron represents everything she’s trying not to be: uncertain, insecure, and overshadowed. Maybe tearing him down is her way of asserting her own independence.
• Ron’s Dismissiveness of Ginny: On the flip side, Ron tends to treat Ginny like a child long after she’s proven she isn’t one. He’s protective in a way that’s both loving and condescending. From Ginny’s perspective, it must feel infuriating, especially when she’s lived through things (like the Chamber of Secrets) that none of them fully understand.
Their friction isn’t just sibling rivalry, it’s a fight for autonomy, for recognition. They’re both clawing to be seen as themselves, not as the roles their family casts them in.
Her Distance from the Older Brothers
Ginny’s relationship with Bill, Charlie, and Percy is more distant, partly because they were already grown or gone by the time she came into her own, but also because she probably felt like she had to perform around them.
• Bill and Charlie: They’re the “cool, successful” older brothers, and it’s easy to imagine Ginny hiding parts of herself when they’re around. She likely admires them but knows they don’t see her fully. With them, she probably leans into the role of the “feisty little sister”, a persona that is real, but not the whole truth.
• Percy: This relationship is particularly interesting because, in some ways, Ginny might understand Percy more than the others. Both of them want to be taken seriously in a family that doesn’t always make room for that. But where Percy chose rules and ambition to carve out his identity, Ginny chose rebellion and strength. You could imagine her feeling a mix of pity and judgment toward him, maybe she sees his rigidness as a cautionary tale.
Molly’s Suffocating Expectations
Molly’s love for Ginny is intense. As her only daughter, Ginny represents all of Molly’s hopes and all of her fears. There’s a sense that Molly wants to protect Ginny in a way that feels both maternal and controlling.
• Overprotection After the Chamber: After Ginny’s trauma in her first year, I imagine Molly becomes even more protective. But for someone as strong-willed as Ginny, that kind of coddling feels like a prison. It probably explains a lot about why Ginny pushes boundaries, dating older boys, joining the DA, fighting in the Battle of Hogwarts. She needs to reclaim her power after losing it so completely to Tom Riddle.
• The “Perfect Daughter” Ideal: Molly also likely has a vision of who Ginny should b (kind, ladylike, the future wife and mother) and Ginny pushes against that every chance she gets. Her boldness, her sarcasm, her refusal to be "sweet" in a conventional sense is a direct rejection of Molly’s expectations.
I imagine Ginny feels both loved and trapped by her mother. She’s proud to be a Weasley but unwilling to be defined by her family’s image.
Ginny’s Hard Edges – A Defense Mechanism
A lot of Ginny’s harshness, especially toward her brothers, can be read as self-defense. She’s had to be tough to survive:
• The Chamber of Secrets: Ginny’s first year is marked by profound isolation and violation. No one, not her family, not even Harry, really understands what she went through. That trauma likely shapes her fierce independence. She won’t let herself be vulnerable like that again.
• Living in the Shadows: Imagine being the seventh Weasley. By the time Ginny reaches Hogwarts, every teacher, every student has already met a Weasley sibling. She’s probably constantly compared: to Bill’s brilliance, Charlie’s bravery, Percy’s ambition, the twins’ humor, Ron’s friendship with Harry. Being tough, being bold, and refusing to conform is her way of saying: I am not just another Weasley.
Why This Makes Her Relationships More Complex
Ginny’s complexities make her relationships richer and more meaningful:
• Her Love for Harry: With Harry, Ginny starts as an infatuated child but grows into an equal partner. Part of why she doesn’t coddle or chase him is because she’s tired of being dismissed herself, she refuses to play the role of "adoring girlfriend." She demands to be seen as an equal, not a prize.
• Her Bond with Fred and George: They treat her with the most respect, maybe because they also reject the family’s rigid roles. But even here, Ginny’s wit is a weapon. She has to be sharp to survive their teasing. In some ways, her humor is an armor she learned from them.
• Her Loyalty to the Family: For all her rebellion, Ginny loves her family fiercely. She stays and fights in the DA. She risks her life in the Battle of Hogwarts. She pushes back against her family’s labels not because she doesn’t love them, but because she wants them to love the real her.
The Heart of Ginny’s Story
At its core, Ginny’s arc is about fighting to be herself in a family where it’s easy to be swallowed whole. She’s bold because she has to be. She’s sharp because the world won’t make space for her softness. And beneath all that fire? A girl who wants to be loved for who she truly is, not the image others impose on her.
And maybe that’s why she’s so fascinating because in her struggle to be heard, we see both her strength and her vulnerability
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I feel like no one would say this if they both had any other colour, like if they were both blondes, or had black hair. I guess its just because red is a rare colour (its so prettttyyyy I wish I had it) but similarities ≠ the same
(not saying that they should have Dif colours, cos ginny being ginger adds so well to her character, just saying lol)
K I’m done ranting <3
(just my opinion, high chance that I'm wrong)
If I could change one thing in the Harry Potter books, I’d make Lily’s hair a different color just so the “Ginny is a Lily clone/carbon copy!” takes that are based SOLELY on them having the same hair color yet are so prevalent and widely accepted would not exist (no, fanart and movies do not prove they look similar they’re not canon also they look nothing alike in the movies besides hair color what are you talking about I think you just believe all redheads look the same).
Drunk Ginny's not so secret desires
Ginny could consume a reasonable amount of alcohol before she got drunk, at least if you took into consideration her complete body mass. Considering her short stature, it wasn’t all that much-—she was a bit lightweight. Something she was in denial of, and Harry was completely aware of.
She got combative with random people when she was drunk enough but if he was near, she was pretty docile and snuggly. So the safest thing for him to do was to stay in the booth with her and let her cuddle into his side while he watched his even drunker friends dance and spill beer over themselves.
“I want to have your babies.”
Harry’s gaze snapped down. “What?” he asked, not sure if he had heard her correctly.
“Your babies, Harry,” she said, slipping her hand over his chest.
His eyebrows rose in surprise. “What about your career?”
“I can do both,” she let out a very indignant tipsy huff. “Obviously.”
He chuckled. “Right. I’m sorry for questioning your capabilities.”
“We’d make cute babies,” she continued. “They’d have your brave heart and my...” She looked down at herself.
Harry waited to see what she was going to pick.
“My great hair.”
He squeezed her closer. “That’d be lovely.”
“Wouldn’t it be nice, Harry?” she said. “You’d be part of a family, with me. I’d look cute pregnant.” She whispered excitedly. “We could have a whole bunch of them!”
He set his coke down and sat up, holding her to him. “I’m taking you home.”
She got up with him. “To make babies?”
“No,” he said with a shake of his head. He pulled his leather jacket off the hook and wrapped it around her shoulders. “You’re on the potion.”
Her expression froze. “Oh.”
“We could practice though.”
Ginny’s eyes widened. “That’s very important,” she said with a tone of severity.
“Indeed.” He grabbed her hand. “Let’s go.”
Hermione appeared, smiling. “You’re going?”
“I’ve got to take her home,” Harry said, ignoring Ginny’s tugging on his hand.
She nodded excitedly. “We’re going to make babies.”
Hermione’s amused gaze slipped from him to her.
“That’s why,” Harry deadpanned.
Hermione laughed. “Yeah, don’t want to let her running loose like that.”
“Precisely,” Harry said with a chuckle, letting Ginny pull him towards the door.
“Oh, and Harry?” Hermione called his attention for another moment.
He turned towards her. “Yeah?”
“Don’t make any babies.”
Ginny popped her head out from behind his back. “Can’t make any promises.”
Harry shook his head. “She’s joking.”
Hermione bit back her smile. “I don’t think she is.”
“That’s the worrying part,” Harry said with a smile. He turned back to Ginny. “Come on, you.”
He waved once again as he let Ginny pull him out of the pub. He apparated them home and kicked off his shoes.
Ginny came up to him and wrapped her arms around him, her hands sensually running down his back.
“You’re going to be a handful, aren’t you?”
She batted her eyelashes at him. “I know you can handle me.”
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