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Tell me something about your s/o!

It is so difficult to express in words what I feel for her, because she is unique to me.

She touches my heart and soul so deeply. How can I describe what she means to me? Not a single word seems to have enough content to fill these feelings.

She is the life-giving impulse that gently touches the flower in the morning and persuades it to open up and show itself in all its beauty. She is as unique as this young flower in its full splendour for me. Among all the flowers in a garden, I would recognize her because she is unique. Only her shapes and colors fit me and I would see that, even if someone else couldn’t tell her apart from her flower sisters.

She is unique to me because each of her looks hit deep in my heart. If she is sad, I feel with her with every fibre of my being. She’s totally my nature. For her I am ready to explore and experience something new, which she likes, and I'll also take her with me to areas of life that are so far unfathomable for her, if she wants me to. I want to learn to see the world with her eyes, to perceive the scent of a rose as she does and to learn to love the people she likes. If she wants me to, I’ll show her the world as I see it and share my friends with her if she wants to.

I want to share and experience all this with her because she is unique. I sincerely hope that it will be similar for her and that together we can enjoy life in all its beautiful facets and help and support each other when life becomes more difficult. Because she is unique to me, I only want her love from the bottom of my heart for now and ever.

Depression is telling you a boldface lie and dressing it as truth.

There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.

Things to know when you love someone suffering from depression

“When the depression holds you down, life becomes water. The air around you becomes water that paralyzes you with its weight and even the simplest tasks are difficult at once. You feel lazy, mentally and physically, and nothing can free you from it.”

Outsiders often find it difficult to understand what happens in people suffering from depression. To this day, some prejudices and myths about the disease persist, which makes it difficult not only for those affected, but also for the people close to them.

The worst thing is fear It’s not just the fear that it will never be over. Or that it could get worse. It is also the fear that friendships or relationships will break with it. That people turn away because they simply don’t understand the situation. Because they can’t understand that appointments sometimes have to be cancelled at the last minute because it’s just not a good day. If you love or are friends with a depressed person, you should let him know as often as possible that this fear is unfounded.

It’s a real disease. Depressions are considered mental illness, but that doesn’t make them any less bad and no less noticeable. They are not visible, and perhaps not tangible, but that does not mean that they are not there. In fact, they can be proven. If the brain lacks chemicals such as dopamine, serotonin, adrenaline or norepinephrine, this triggers a mental imbalance.

The simplest things can be a big challenge For a person with depression, it can be a challenge to get out of bed. To take a shower. To drive to work. Those who have never suffered from depression cannot understand this. That’s why you just have to trust that the person is telling you the truth and not trying to compare your reality with his or her reality.

There’s not always a logical reason Depression is deceitful. Affected people can have a good day and suddenly the depression pulls them into the abyss. There does not always have to be an understandable reason for this. Sometimes sadness can hardly be explained, the pain can hardly be put into words. Don’t try to find a reason you can relate to. Try to accept the situation.

Depression doesn’t disappear when you “pull yourself together” Sayings like “Get a grip on yourself” or “get over it” are incredibly hurtful for people with depression. They reinforce their sense of disappointment. Of course, they try to overcome the disease. But just like any other disease, it doesn’t work overnight. It’s a fight, not just a decision.

You probably don’t know how bad it really is People with depression often try to hide the real abysses of their condition. Often they don’t want to admit to themselves how bad they feel and that they need help. If you love a person with depression, it is quite possible that he has not told you how gloomy it really is in him. Maybe because he wants to protect you both and your relationship.

Your loved one doesn’t want to be a burden on you People who fight against depression don’t want to be a burden on others. They don’t want to transfer their negative mood to others. Depressive do not seek attention or compassion - on the contrary. What they crave the most is to be treated like everyone else.

There is more than one reality When someone is obviously going through a difficult time, it is a natural impulse to describe his own experiences to make it clear that one can understand his or her suffering. But in most cases you can’t do that. Your reality has nothing to do with his or her reality. Most of all, you can help by listening.

Their depression has nothing to do with you If you love a person with depression, it is important to understand that his or her state of mind has nothing to do with you. That can be very difficult sometimes. If your partner is in a bad mood, the fear that it could be because of yourself is obvious. But it is important to understand that a person’s depression basically has nothing to do with anyone but him-/herself - not you.

It’s okay if you’re dissatisfied Loving someone who suffers from depression is a challenge. They need your love and attention, they need to know that you support them. But that doesn’t mean that your feelings and moods count less. If you’re dissatisfied, you can say the same thing. This is the only way to find out what works best for both of you.

I'm dancing in the rain so no one can see me crying.

Wounded Life

When I was on the ground for the first time, I felt how stale advice can be. When the energy fades, the dreams dissolve into air, another era begins. If the body fails to obey its obedience, the old strategies no longer work. Suddenly many things become strenuous. Very strenuous.

Some people love themselves so little that they cannot understand when someone else loves them

Thank you for your kind messages, they have really kept my will to live for a very long time. Now is the time to say goodbye to you and my life. Thanks for everything!

I am very sorry that you feel so hopeless right now that you are considering suicide! Even if you can’t really see it right now: Things in your life can go better again! There is usually no situation so hopeless that there is no reason to hope for a recovery. Think about the following three reasons why it might still be worth living on.

First reason: Your situation can change

Always remember that stressful situations, no matter how hopeless they may seem at the moment, can change and even suddenly change for the better. Even if this does not happen as quickly as you would like, you shouldn’t try to solve all problems at once, but to look at them for yourself every day.

Of course, there are always circumstances that cannot be changed, e.g. if you suffer from a chronic illness, lose a loved one through death or break up a marriage. In these cases, too, something can be done: Change your own mindset. You can either endlessly mourn what has happened unchangingly, or you can come to terms with it mentally. In that case it is easier to see one’s own situation more positively. It is also more likely to look for ways to deal with the situation than to put an end to it with drastic means. This brings you to the point where you are no longer completely helpless in a situation that seems unchangeable.

You should also never forget the following: If you cannot climb a mountain at once, you may manage it in several stages - step by step. The same applies to most obstacles in life, no matter how huge they may seem.

You can do one thing right now: Talk to someone about the situation, for example a friend or family member. Maybe he or she can help you not to see things so badly anymore.

A second reason for choosing life: There’s help!

People who care about you can be a help. These can be relatives, friends and others who are personally interested in you. If they may not always approach you on their own, you may be able to address them and pour out your heart in a face-to-face conversation.

Then there is also professional help, which you should absolutely take with thoughts of suicide. Often these thoughts are caused by a severe depression for which no one should be ashamed, just as no one should be ashamed of a physical illness. Depression is like a cold among mental illnesses. In theory, anyone can get it - and there are treatment options. If your suicidal thoughts are very strong or persistent, you should find out where you can get help, perhaps at emergency hotlines or other suicide prevention advice centres. They are staffed by trained personnel. Here are a few places you could contact:

Emergency counseling: telephone hotline (free of charge, 24 h)The telephone counselling staff listen to you well, take part in your problems and can refer you to the appropriate facilities if necessary. You can get anonymous advice here at any time of the day or night.

Social psychiatric service: It offers counselling and further assistance to people in psychological crises. Often you will find this service at the health office or you can ask for the address and telephone number at the municipal office.

Counselling centres of the youth welfare offices, child guidance centres and marriage, family and life counselling centres: these are contact points for the most varied problems in every town and municipality.

Online advice: There are many different websites that offer help.

Please do not forget that you cannot get out of a serious mental crisis alone, but if someone helps you, you can make it! Outpatient therapy also helps many to regain more self-confidence and to find strategies for overcoming their problems. It is also important to have someone you can trust and always pour your heart out to.

Here’s a third reason to go on living: There is hope!

Even if you have reached your limits for a long time, this does not mean that a ray of hope will not light up at some point. As already said, situations change, not everything stays the same, desolate and hopeless forever. Your illness can be like a long dark tunnel, whose end you cannot see at the moment. But remember that at some point even the longest tunnel will be over and you will see the daylight again. Many before you have been like this, and so it can be in your case! Even if it’s hard, make one thing your motto: “Giving up is not an option”. This attitude can help you never lose hope, no matter how dark it looks around you.

I wish you very much that with the help and support of others you succeed in overcoming your bad emotional low and that you make the discovery that it is also worth living on in your case. All the best!

Suddenly the soul no longer plays along. My body feels empty. Don’t be like that, I tell myself. Hang in there, you won’t let it get you down. I’m trying to play cool. But that costs additional strength. Darkness comes more and more often. My gaze is empty. My body’s getting heavy. I can’t hide it anymore. The abyss captivates me.

Light does not mean that there is no more night, but that the night can be illuminated and overcome.