I Think It Would've Been Funny If Mary Was On A Solo Hunt And Met Claire, With Her Curly Blonde Hair

version of spn where dean is openly bisexual the entire time and definitely fucks a priest during a job and sam is does his judgmental little "dude" and dean is like "i already went to hell once man,, what's the worst that could happen" and everytime there's a new bad guy or apocalypse sam is like "this is bc you fucked a priest" and eventually he says it in front of Cas who does his little squint and head tilt and just

"You what?"

Dean Winchester & hug dynamic analysis

I was thinking about how whenever Dean hugs someone he's almost always the one hugging the other and how this links to his psychological trauma of always being the caretaker of people, making himself bigger to protect them.

Because that's how Dean sees himself, as a shield for others, and then I thought about how Cas actually is the shield, and he's HIS SHIELD, specifically, the only one who's really there to protect HIM, which is why it hits so much when we see this:

The way Cas wraps his arms around him, trying to protect him with his whole body--that he'd use as a shield and give up in a second if he could spare him from any pain and save him.

(for context: Dean was about to go use the soul bomb on Amara there, it was a suicide mission)

Bobby is another one that hits, he hugs him as the big hugger because he's his father, he loves him and he's actually here to protect him (and Dean LETS him -barely, but he lets him *and Cas* - in a way that he doesn't let Sam)

I watched a compilation of Sam & Dean hugs to check if i was right about it, but it's almost always Dean the big hugger with Sam, except when he's about to die or Sam sees him alive again after losing him.

Even then, Dean mostly tries to hug Sam as the big hugger anyway, with at least one arm, like a way to comfort him, making him feel protected, like his body language is saying "I'm here, I'm okay, I'm still strong, i can still protect you" (because their real father failed and Dean thinks it's his job).

He rarely lets himself be the little one hugged with Sam, unless he's barely conscious. Which is why it kills me so much more now that in this moment (s14, when Dean was going to lock himself in the Ma'lak box cause he was possessed by Michael) and Sam has a desperate breakdown and punches him (to stop him) he forcefully hugs him as the little hugger, the way Dean always kept him, like a way of saying "I still need you to protect me, please don't do this to yourself".

In the scene below he gives Sam his blessing to do a dangerous (possibly suicidal) mission, and one of his arms is down, but the other one tries to stay up--he's forcing himself to do it and he struggles because he still wants to protect him, but (as the seasons progress) he slowly becomes more prone to let go.

So in this view the hug dynamic becomes an indicator of how Dean sees Sam (and himself) and his protector role, how adult and self sufficient he considers Sam, and how much he lets people around him take care of him, lowering his walls and letting himself be hugged.

This is also why i think hugs from characters like Garth or Charlie are so special, because they're just like us: they see Dean and they just know that he needs to be hugged a lot, and that he's not used to it, so they just go for it-- and it's so normal and kind and spontaneous that Dean's just not used to it-- he doesn't know how to respond (especially with Garth, at the beginning, but as the seasons progress, he learns to, and he even initiates the hug eventually).

I love the hugs where they're 50/50 (one arm up, one arm down both), feels like they're equals, both taking care of each other. I feel like with Sam and Dean, this indicates a healthier dynamic, because Dean lets go a little of the role that was imposed to him and manages to see Sam as the strong individual that he is. But the same applies to 50/50 hugs with other characters, like with Cas, where I feel like it testifies how equals they feel in terms of being fighters, there's a show of respect of each other's strength that transpires by the gesture (which is even more astounding considering that Cas is literally a powerful angel).

And just to end on a destiel note, I'd like to note the possessiveness and protectiveness of Dean (rightfully so) whenever he finds Cas after he thought he had lost him, and how that translates into his body/hug language:

some spuffy comms 💥💕

The digital remastered versions' greatest sin is that the new aspect ratio cuts off the shot of their hands halfway and you can’t fully see him literally CRADLING her injured hands. So here you go. Brb going to stare at this forever.

hands down one of the best dean traits is just going along with everything charlie says bc she's his friend and he likes her

3 YEARS! 🥹

1st year

2nd year

BUFFY: How long was I gone?

SPIKE: 147 days yesterday... uh, 148 today. Except today doesn't count, does it?

MARY: They've only been gone for...

CASTIEL: Six weeks, two days, ten hours.

controversial opinion maybe, but i think the fact that the spn writers absolutely did not understand queer people or autistic people is precisely what makes dean as a bi man and cas as an autistic man so appealing and interesting. because they literally did not mean to put it in there, it just sorta happened, and isn't that just the way life works? if they'd tried to make cas autistic it would have seemed artificial and would probably have ended up being really bad representation. but the fact that they didn't mean to give cas autistic traits means that dean--as well as other characters, get to love those traits (staring, being literal, infodumping, etc) because they're what makes cas who he is. if they'd tried too hard they would have ended up making it weird. same with dean's queerness, dean ended up being queer on accident, which makes it so believable. imagine if the cw had tried to write a bi man, in 2005. that would have been a shitshow of problematic and unrealistic representation. so i'm not saying that they were right not to try, i'm not excusing queerbaiting or nonexistent canon queer and nd rep, i'm just saying that joke's on them bc by not realising queer and autistic people existed they ended up creating some of the most authentic queer and autistic characters i've personally ever seen on my tv.