When Rumi Wrote, “You Have To Keep Breaking Your Heart Until It Opens,” He Was Referring To Breaking

when Rumi wrote, “You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens,” he was referring to breaking our heart by giving and receiving love from other people, to fully trust them, which means, if they break the trust, our heart would break. If this repeats, either with the same or different partner, we will eventually wise up by opening our heart to ourselves: by loving ourselves, by being accountable. To ourselves.

Only when we open our heart to ourselves first, we can have a healthy relationship with ourselves. Anyone who has a healthy relationship with themselves will have a healthy outlook on life and relationship with others. It’s similar to the saying, “you can’t pour from an empty cup”. Fill your cup first. Take care of yourself first. Love yourself first.

Once we love ourselves, we don’t feel the need to completely depend on others for our happiness. Sure our happiness gets affected somehow, but if they decide to betray us or leave us, instead of kicking and screaming, throwing tantrums (or shoes, or plates), we’ll peacefully let them go. I’m not saying that we won’t feel sad or angry. The uncomfortable feelings are inevitable, but when we love ourselves, we will not avoid the responsibility to take care of ourselves.

In the long run, we’ll naturally repel anyone who is not right for us