My Friend Is Experiencing Non-binarity And Are Actively Experimenting With It And Describing Their Experiences

the moment of being arospec where, you want it to be known that you are interested in having a romantic relationship, so that someone interested in you can hopefully confess their feelings, so that you can finally develop these romantic feelings and reciprocate them, and maybe get into a romantic relationship with them, but in the end never actually doing it, because you are afraid that people will call you not actually aromantic and just faking it

literally seconds later AHAHHDJS

THE DREAM KEEPS GOING!!!

AHHH, IT'S BEEN DONE

thank you to all that have contributed, your efforts are sincerely appreciated!

although, even though i hit the max... I AM NOT STOPPING!! IM KEEPING THE BOOPING ALIVE AS LONG AS I POSSIBLY CAN!!!

i will say also, absolute shout-out to YOU!

crown of boops goes to you, frankly -- couldn't not have done it without you 🫶

okay i am losing my mind over this and i need outside opinions

i showed my friend alien stage the other day and in their opinion, the most "honorable" way that everyone could've resisted the aliens was mass suicide, or "refusing them their entertainment" - and that mizi and sua just shouldn't have sung at all and get themselves killed there on stage, and i guess that goes for the others as well

I NEED y'all's opinions on this, like, agree?? disagree??

NEVER feel bad for doing jack shit. if you didn't get anything done today, that's wonderful. and I love you.

Lost a friend today because he refused to listen about how harmful the concept of narcissistic abuse is, despite knowing I have NPD and that I'm a victim of the exact same kind of abuse he was (literally, he described my experience down to the letter).

He was one of my and my partner's closest friends, so today has been really rough.

Please listen to people with NPD about how this harms us. We're neurodivergent people with a largely traumagenic disorder, usually from abuse and/or neglect. We're not monsters, predisposed towards an abusive nature, or capable of a unique kind of abuse. We're just people who struggle with self-esteem because we base our ego primarily on our perception of what others think of us.

We're not saying this can never influence toxic behaviors, we're just pointing out that that's not more true of our disorder any more than any other health condition, from autism and ADHD to OCD to PTSD to addiction to eating disorders to bipolar to depression to anxiety.

We're also not trying to take language from other abuse victims. We're asking you to not be ableist (a form a structured societal abuse) towards other abuse victims. Call it what it is: emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is such a wider category than people realize, and it's important to talk about that. I hear what people are saying when they say they're wanting to describe a specific subtype of emotional abuse, so let's make words for that!

Manipulative abuse, coercive abuse, gaslighting abuse, guilt-tripping abuse, even safety abuse - that last for when people use their own mental health state and threaten self harm or suicide to get their way.

These can all be factors in emotional abuse - what's commonly described as narc abuse is what's standard for emotional abuse, involving a wide variety of tactics to exert control in the absence of physical or sexual abuse - which also can and usually are partly emotional in nature as well.

I'd love to open a conversation about terms that better describe what we went through! I'm just asking that we don't use the ones that further demonize a badly misunderstood disorder, and that people be willing to recognize that their understanding of it is based on a LOT of misinformation.

Just, please, listen to us. Be willing to be open-minded. We aren't your abusers, and we know that you deserved better and deserve a chance to heal to the fullest extent possible. We do too. Please, help make a safe space for us all to do so together.

HOW DOES ONE INTERACT WITH OTHERS

i literally have no clue and keep getting so much anxiety when trying to talk on online spaces!!! (public discord servers)

literally like i need pointers on how to do it

also like, finding servers to begin with....

hi rb to give an aromantic a home cooked meal

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Let's say goodbye to 2024, and welcome in 2025, because...

Happy New Year, everyone!

Onto a new one! (Hopefully, this time we might actually get around to fulfill our resolutions..)

Best of luck and wishes for everyone!