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today's mood: big old house on the outskirts of old town, having your own art gallery at home and enjoying beautiful pictures, spending time by candlelight, listening to the harp and reading classical novels

Keep your goals and news to yourself no matter how little or big. You speak too soon and it’ll all go downhill. Trust me on this. People are out there waiting to give you the evil eye. Manifest your success in silence, let your results speak for themselves. No one can touch you once you’ve accomplished what you desired.

Don’t you owe it to yourself to live your dreams, to at least try? To wake up and put your best foot forward, to do the things you’ve been saying you’re going to do. To make some fucking moves. You know how powerful it feels to make progress, so why are you holding yourself back? Why are you blocking yourself from your dreams? What matters right now is that you get out of your own fucking way, that you push forward. You pull your shit together and you make today fucking count. You pull out your to do list and you start stabbing through those tasks like a beast. With so much force and energy within you, that you’re ready to destroy today. Destroy it in a way that reveals all the trapped energy, stagnant energy that has been dormant inside of you. That you finally come alive and snap out of this low, inefficient state. That today you are finally awakened. 

I can’t emphasise this lesson enough.

The ONLY way to truly grow, flourish and get what you want is to do the OPPOSITE of what your comfort zone tells you to do.

Everything you dream of in life? The incredible potential within you that is ready to be fulfilled? That’s all waiting for you on the other side of your comfort zone. When you’re faced with a decision that needs to be made, doing the scary thing will be what gives you the opportunities you need and desire; as well as turbocharging your inner evolution into someone stronger, self-respecting, smarter, savvier, happier and more confident. 

Not too long ago I had an anon ask me how to fake it till she makes it in manifesting her luxury lifestyle. I gave a bit of advice (you should read that before finishing this) but I want to elaborate more on a certain aspect that is crucial to obtaining an ideal life: becoming your ideal self. That ask was focused on lifestyle, but what about the self glow-up? That’s where this guide comes in. I see a lot of guides where the OP tells you the type of woman you should become, and it’s usually based on their own idea of what is desirable. This is different. This is a barebones guide that requires you to think hard about yourself and what would satisfy you to live in your own skin. To no longer wish to be anyone else. To be the best version of YOU. Who is the the ideal woman you are aspiring to be?

Here’s how to start:

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Step 1: describe your dream girl and create a list of 12 essential qualities/skills she has. Things that are controllable by a person themselves, not reliant on another person or location. (Good: she drinks tea every day. Bad: her boyfriend makes tea for her every day)

Step 2: make a list of how you can acquire those qualities

Step 3: dedicate one quality to each month of the year and for every single day of that month, cultivate habits that will make those qualities now belong to you. 30 days is a great amount of time to build a habit that you can continue on with even after the target date has passed. It’s not too long to feel scary but it’s long enough to make really good progress. Plus you won’t feel overwhelmed about doing all of these new things at once. Just one quality at a time :)

Step 4: after 12 months, you will have dedicated 365 days to your own personal growth and transformation and will now emerge a brand new woman.

To make this even easier on you, I will create an example using a mix of things that are about me.

My dream girl is: a beautiful and fit domestic goddess who speaks multiple foreign languages, plays instruments, is a wiz in the kitchen, and has a killer style

12 qualities to create her:

Takes expert care of her outward appearance

Eats healthy and works out every day

Speaks french

Speaks korean

Speaks spanish

Plays piano

Cooks a proper meal every day

Always dresses well no matter what

Keeps her home spic and span

Manages her emotions well to always be kind and composed to others instead of combative and volatile

Is a minimalist

Studies hard in school

(When you make your list of 12 qualities, don’t worry about making them perfectly correspond to a certain month just yet. First, just get them all written down and then you can rearrange it later. For the sake of this, let’s just pretend that mine are in a perfect order as is)

January: takes expert care of her outward appearance

For January, I will spend 31 days focused on beauty. Every single morning and night I will do my skincare routine, a face mask, use my serums and exfoliants (when necessary), and make sure to apply sunscreen. I will get a skincare consultation if needed, I will schedule a dentist appointment or do at home teeth whitening treatments. I will take a bubble bath once a day and always make sure that I’m exfoliated. I will always make time to shave/wax/epilate/whatever and maintain manicured nails and eyebrows. My hair care will be completely on point because my hair will always be deep conditioned, well moisturized, and styled to perfection.

(Keep a log and make sure to do this every single day. You will now be in the habit of taking care of your external appearance and will be used to looking and feeling a certain way)

February: eats healthy and works out every day

For February, I will find a list of healthy breakfasts, lunches, and dinners and make sure to use them as my eating guide. I will watch my calories and eat foods that nourish my body. I will cut out sugary drinks and extra sweets and do a workout for at least 30 minutes every day. I will watch a lot of content on health and fitness to keep me on track and make sure that I know what I’m doing.

(Keep a log and make sure to do this every single day. You will now be in the habit of making and eating healthy foods, have a 30 day workout streak, and will have a new relationship with your health and fitness. Because you have successfully committed a whole month to this lifestyle, it will be easier to keep it going to reach your body goals)

March: speaks French

For March, I will study french every day for at least an hour. I will watch french movies and tv shows, learn grammar and memorize vocabulary. I will always keep my flashcards on an app and study them frequently so that I don’t forget anything. I will find a french language exchange partner online and talk to them everyday so they can correct my mistakes.

(Keep a log and make sure to do this every day. You will now be in the habit of studying a foreign language for a dedicated amount of time each and every day. This will get you to a strong start and make it much easier for you to continue learning the language as time moves forward)

November: is a minimalist

For November I will focus on living a minimalist lifestyle and being intentional with the items I allow into my space. I will go through my whole house and declutter all of the things that I don’t need. I will not buy things this month unless they are essentials to me and my growth. I will watch/read a lot of content on consumerism and try to understand why I own so many things. I will have a better relationship with my possessions and take better care of the things I own so that I won’t need to keep buying new ones.

(Keep a log and make sure to do this every day. You will form a better relationship with your possessions and learn to let go of unimportant things. This will build the habit of being mindful of the things you allow into your space and allowing you to make better buying choices in the future)

You get the idea. So basically you will elaborate on each of the 12 qualities and make it very clear what your daily goals are for that month. The most important thing is to stick to it. You have to build the habit so that it becomes your new normal. This is how you acquire a new lifestyle and persona. You do it every day until it’s your default setting. You don’t call someone an a good student because they got an A one time, right? You call them a good student because they consistently demonstrate the actions that makes one a good student on a daily basis.

“But 2pretty! How can I stick to these things every day? What if I don’t feel like it sometimes?”

It’s all about discipline and consistency. Having your effort correspond to how badly you want something. Focusing on the big picture and sacrificing a little bit of comfort. Choosing to be your most excellent self rather than the easiness of staying the same. Growth is hard! But that’s what makes it worth it.

You all can sit here and read level up posts until you turn blue in the face but the fact of the matter is, The Ideal You can only emerge if you put in the work to become her. I believe in you.

I can’t wait to meet the new you in 12 months. See ya then.

Your average woman spends....

7 hours a day on her cellphone

49 hours a week,

210 a month,

2520 per year,

And finally, 25200 per decade. That's 2.9 years of her life spent on Instagram, Tiktok, YouTube, et cetera, doing useless activities that she'll not even remember, out of 10 YEARS of her life.

Even dedicating one third of that total time spent on screens on activities that provide an actual feeling of furfillement would reveal itself to be incredibly more fruitful.

We're assisting to a massive collective time sinking right now, and it should worry every single one of us. Even you, dear reader.

Your average woman is putting off excercise, skipping cooking healthy meals and going for the junkfood, avoiding studying new things that will enrich her life by going on Instagram Reels, odds she's skipping socialization opportunities with family or friends, she's probably missing out on activities because she's being overwelmed by the SELF-CAUSED lack of TIME. Your average woman is very likely to report lack of focus and feeling less productive than she feels she could be. She's also likely to report having mental health issues, from anxiety to depression, compulsion or apathy, or general lack of energy even.

Those two different issues, time wasting and lack of satisfaction with one's life, are absolutely linked.

And in my honest opinion, dedicating maybe one hour or two per day to reading, self-improvement, journaling, meditation, excercise, actual in-person socialization, and so on is going to help a LOT those issues.

Your average woman is actually simply NOT doing any of that.

And you probably deduced that being average isn't a great thing in that case.

You owe yourself your own happiness and furfillement. You owe yourself time to yourself.

You owe yourself an excellent focus, you owe yourself accomplishment and success.

You know how to do it. Eliminate anything that's on the way. Uninstall Tumblr and Pinterest and Tiktok and Facebook and Twitter and... You get it. You're way more likely to WASTE your precious time and STEAL yourself from great opportunities because you dead-scrolled.

Then, with the remaining apps, electronics, etc, severely declutter their use down to what you DO actually appreciate, to what you consider important.

Technology offers great benefits but it did stole our collective time. It made us insolated from each other, it made us hyperfocused on the fake PLEASURE that electronic device "interactions" offers, and made us skip the ACTUAL PLEASURE that life offers us.

I am not writing this to be angry at YOU in particular, I am personally pretty angry at the WHOLE situation that led us to that. And I personally feel pretty helpless facing this whole situation, people are aware of this themselves but they don't really realize how bad it actually is.

document your life: get a polaroid camera take loads of pictures, print them and stick them in an photo album, record videos and save them to a hard drive, record mini vlogs and upload them privately to your YouTube to watch later in life, journal about your hardest moments, collect things from the moments that brought you great joy and happiness….

but don’t forget to be present in the moment!

welcome to becoming that girl 🤍

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i’ve been lowkey suicidal and depressed for the past month and i want a complete life revamp. starting from the ground up and completely LEVELLING UP. where should i start (somethings that are relatively cheap) to start this complete overhaul?? do you have any other advice or tips as well??

Oh sweety I’m sorry to hear this. Please remember everyday is a new day! there are people around you who love and care about you. You’re not alone nor will you ever be, my inbox is always open

Step 1, Levelup Your Daily Routine

Every Morning set your intentions. For an example, “Today I will remain positive no matter what”

“Today I will complete One important task”

“Today I will do something out of my comfort zone”

Every Morning say your gratitude (THIS ACTUALLY CHANGED MY LIFE IN THE SPACE OF 3 MONTHS)

Say what you’re thankful of, roof over your head, hot water, heating, your health, food, clothes on your back etc.... no matter how depressed or sad you feel remind yourself of the good things you have ALWAYS.

Routine

- Wake up with the sun

- Have a good deep cleansing shower (I have a feminine energy playlist when I shower)

- Have a Daily skincare Routine

- Deeply moisturise your body

- Do some beauty maintenance I.e pluck brows, paint your nails, deep conditioning your hair

- Drink 2.2 Liters of water daily

- Eat healthier (have more fruits, more vegetables in your meals) please, please, please, drink some green tea

- Workout if you have the time, or even do yoga

- Try your best to avoid sad music.

Someone once told me the lyric you sing is a form of manifestation so make sure the music you’re listening to is something you want to speak into the 3D and if you ever feel sad or depressed try your best to get out of that emotion, I personal stand up comedy and boom I’m back. I 1000% recommended Dave Chappelle

Step 2, DETOX

Detox all the toxic people in your life!! You need people in your circle that want to see you win!

Types of people to keep

- Someone that motivate you & chasing there dreams

- Someone who is loyal

- Someone who have who has an active lifestyles

- Someone that push you out of your comfort zone

- Someone who is emotionally and financially stabled

Remember your circles says a lot about you. These are type of people that will bring balance back into your life

Step 3, Plan + Action

What monthly or yearly goals do you have? Wake up with a purpose and spend each day getting closer to your goal. For an example, if you want your dream job. Research what experience you need for that role and each day set yourself a task to get closer and closer to it.

THE BEST LEVEL UP IS TO BE EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY AND FINANCIALLY STABLED

You unlearn or reprogram by doing/saying/thinking the opposite of what you usually do.

Stop playing victim and start taking control whether it’s mentally, physically, verbally, spiritually.

Flip the script. Rewrite your story. Press it into your subconscious by repeating this new story to yourself. Change your actions. Change your speech.

You are important. You are number one. Start acting like it. You are already who you “aspire” to be✨