Time Management

Beautiful Sintra, Portugal.

by @saintjoan

THAT Depression Elimination Post

Most depression is worsened by environment. Like the friends around you, your shitty boyfriend, the godawful job you have, the crap diet you're eating, the 4 hour crappy quality sleep every night. It all contributes to your life. And it's damn time you take all those under your control and take control of your reality and reshape your mindset.

It's ridiculous how there are so many depressed people out there, and it's time to spank things up and change that.

You want to heal, you want to be happy. Which is understandable but you can't rely on keeping buying makeup for that temporary boost in mood or popping in the prozac pills and doing JACK SHIT besides those fleeting pleasures. All they give you are temporary solutions, if you don't attack the fundamental problem it will always persist. Clear and simple.

FIX YOUR GODDAMN SLEEP.

Go to bed at the SAME time everyday

Wake up EARLY AT THE SAME TIME.

If you lacked sleep on your previous night, GO TO BED EARLIER. No 'maybe' or 'I don't wanna go to bed so early!' WHO SAID THEY WANTED TO HEAL UP AND BE FUNCTIONAL? Do it immediately, for the NEXT night. People are gonna understand if you say you want to sleep earlier, trust me. Nothing more attractive than someone that takes care of her wellbeing.

No cellphone 1h before bed. No peeks, no last texts, nothing. You close your phone totally one hour before bed. That's it.

Your brain is a stupid simple organ, if you associate a place with anything than its intended purpose, the brain is going to associate that place with the unintended use. The more you do it, the more your brain is gonna make the alternative undesirable association. That's why you never "lounge" in bed, because you're destroying that association bed=sleep which makes you sleep quick and fast. Bed is only for sleep and that's it. If you wanna lounge, go to your living room or chill room. Never the bed.

If you can't sleep or have anxiety around bedtime, rise up from the bed, leave the covers open so it aerates, go read a book for 20 min then come back. A chiller room also is incredibly helpful for bedtime. If it doesn't helps, look into weighted blankets.

Wash your bedsheets every week. I do them every Sunday, that's my routine and I can start my week with fresh sheets that feel SO right. The more your life is routinous, the better it actually is for the mental because there's LESS DECISIONS to make, and the brain is LESS overwhelmed. Fresh sheets and well made bed are a great foundation for great quality sleep.

Don't dismiss the influence of good sleep and bad sleep on your mood. Bad sleep makes you rave more junk food that makes you feel like shit afterwards, bad sleep affects your patience and mood and you're more likely to be sad and have depressive behaviour.

DRESS THE FUCK UP AND GROOM YOURSELF.

Clothes ABSOLUTELY influence your mindset for the day. If you dress in sweatpants and ripped t-shirt you're gonna feel like shit for the day. I JUST KNOW IT, BECAUSE I FELT IT. If you're broke and have nothing clean and intact to wear, check out the thrift stores for basic clothes like black pullovers and so on. Minimal, easy to wear rand always looks chic and gonna make you feel chic.

Etablish a ROUTINE (Routines are KEY to good mental health) for the laundry. I wash my clothing every Saturday, but you can choose the day of the week that works best for you. Start some music to fold and tuck away your cute clothing, associate that with POSITIVE VIBES. Hard to enforce habits are made easier by bringing in positive vibes into the experience.

Clean clothes, clean body, good smells signals to others that you like yourself and that they can't push you down. It's your weapon.

What is your favourite scent? Your favourite color? Pick a shampoo, soap and conditioner that has those scents. Again here, if you have difficulty showering yourself and grooming yourself, it's all about positive vibe association. Your favourite scents are in your shampoo bottle so you're more likely to go wash yourself. Same thing with other grooming accessories. My favourite colors are pink and lavender so I pick grooming tools in those cute colors to make me more likely to do it.

Just a water shower is better than NO shower at all. If you don't have energy to go wash yourself, go stand under the water for 5-10 min and just enjoy yourself under the warm water. I swear the shower is like a glowup machine and makes one feel so much better. I've never seen someone become WORSE after a shower.

A bit of brushing is better than no brushing. If you hate having to brush yourself or that you have a difficult time doing that, pick a wet brush, they make detangling so easy and have TONS of cute designs to make yourself more excited about that time. Brushed hair is going to make you look and feel better.

If you can't wash all your body, focus on the armpits, underboobs and privates area. Washing them is the minimum and neglecting them is going to cause smells which are gonna make you feel worse about yourself. You don't want this. Wash those areas.

If you got body complexes, a way to partially fix this is WELL FITTED UNDERWEAR. Tight panties cut into the hips and give you a muffin top even if you're skinny as hell. Too tight bras or bralettes give a similar effect. More comfortable underwear is going to make your figure look fantastic. In a time like this no need to worry about looking sexy, you need to feel comfortable, so don't shy away from "grandma panties". (Flashing news: guys don't give a fuck about your underwear.)

Covid special: you can find cute special color throwaway masks that are gonna make you feel so sharp and nice. Pick those in your favourite color and every time you look at yourself in a mirror you'll like it 😘

BAD VIBES, FUCK OFF KINDLY.

If something makes you unhappy, wether it's a friend that drags you down, a irritating object, etc. Get RID of it. No pity, no maybes. Just good vibes around you thank you. If that thing is actually helpful to your life despite it bringing bad vibes, seek to CHANGE it so it fits better into your future life.

Konmari is a lifesaver for me I swear. It helps determine what really matters in your life. DM me if you want resources about Konmari. I'm not a shill, just a fan 🤣

Going out of depression starts with the mindset. If you carry on blaming life, people, objects, circumstances, etc for your depression you're going nowhere and are gonna stay in your shitty situation. The majority of things you blame for your depressive mood probably CAN be changed. You CAN seek another job if you are your current job. There's certainly another job that pays better, treats you better etc. You CAN dump a toxic friendgroup and it's actually better to be alone than be with toxic friends that drag you down. You CAN dump your abusive boyfriend, being single is BETTER than being with an abusive asshole ass. If you settle it means that they're winning over your mind and you're allowing them to work themselves into your mind. Thus worsening your situation.

If you find yourself going on a depression loop ("I feel bad, I am bad, I don't deserve to exist"), go MOVE. I mean it, GO MOVE. Go walk outside, go walk the dog, go clean up your room, go to the local cafe with your laptop to scroll Tumblr, MOVE. Those depression loops are your brain being hyperfixated on one thing because it lacks distraction. It lacks direction, it is staying too still. Go MOVE. Go see the ducks at the local park and give them some seeds, go call a friend to walk together or just talk together. I'm sure they're waiting for you to initiate something together, they're probably hesitating to call you because they don't wanna bother you. Your dog is probably looking at you hoping you'd bring her on a FUN walk and your dog is always gonna be happy doing it. Even if the idea of moving seems so exhausting it's the first steps that take the most effort but once you did it you'll feel so proud of yourself. You did it.

If you respect yourself first, by your self-care, environment and grooming, you're signaling to others that they must respect you. If you don't respect yourself, it signals to others that they can walk all over you and stample you down further into depression.

DON'T EAT CRAP AND EAT WELL.

Junk food is really comforting isn't it? But you absolutely know that it contributes to bad health overall. It makes you feel nauseous, makes you gain weight like crazy and doesn't gives your precious body cells the nutriments they crave so much. Do yourself a grace, eat nutritious meals at least once per day.

Meal prepping is your friend. Again, it spares you the precious mental energy waste and you can redirect your small mental energy on the stuff that requires it. Do 2-3 days at a time, it's so less daunting to do and doesn't gets as boring as 7 days meal prep.

Half your dish should be veggies and fruits. 1/4 your dish should be carbs like pasta, rice, etc. 1/4 should be your proteins.

If you can't muster up the energy to make nutrious meals, at least pop in a multivitamin. Vitamin D deficiencies are strongly associated with depression, and most multivitamins have vitamin D too. Consume while eating a meal for max effect.

Don't drink coffee/tea one hour before a meal and two hours after a meal as it will decrease your iron absorption (iron deficiency = weakness + lack of energy)

DRINK YOUR WATER. It's insanely important and enough water will make you feel more energized.

AVOID ALCOHOL as it is a depressant (aka it worsens the situation). All it is gonna do is give you a temporary happy buzz but it doesn't attacks the problem at the core.

No junkfood in the house, avoid bringing them inside the home. Just don't. If you family brings those in, you could discuss with them about a specific place to store them, away from immediate view.

I know it looks so daunting all those tips together but it did work for other people and for me. If you want to heal and become better, write those down on a sheet of paper and place those on your fridge, to remind you of what to do.

Those seem to be superficial tips but trust me, a shitty lifestyle only worsens the situation and makes you even more miserable.

I strongly recommend to check your therapy solutions, a good vent/cry relieves the heart and the therapist is going to give you journaling resources and advice. Check our your local universities for cheap therapy solutions, teletherapy, if you're still a student see if your school offers therapist/counselor times. You're not obligated to go every week, you can go once per month or at need if you don't have the money for that.

I am a former depressed person, and all those are solutions that helped me the most and I'm passing those on for anyone that might need a lifestyle revision. It sucks immensely, I know but don't give up. Its not always gonna be like that, the more work you pour into it the better it actually gets. 💎

You must get it together honey. Your life is your responsibility. It’s something YOU must decide to do. Discipline. Stop acting like you have nothing. Life doesn’t have dead ends. Stop being dramatic. Something can always be done. I have so many posts on changing your mindset on here. I’m not here to baby an adult. You must wake up👏🏼 There’s an entire life to live🥂

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♈️ Aries: you’ve been to hell & back, but baby look at you now.

-Knight of Swords & Six of Swords-

Aries.. whew, you went through it, huh? It wasn’t easy, was it? I know it was a lot to deal with it, and at the time it seemed completely unfair & overwhelming, honestly it may have been rather paralyzing to feel so much at once...

♉️ Taurus: Unexpected, but you’re on the come-up!

-0 • Fool & Three of Swords-

Okay Taurus, yep, that hurt. You were dealt a card you weren’t expecting more than likely, this could be a big heartbreak from someone you never expected it from, this could have been a disappointment from something you were expecting..

♊️ Gemini: Secure your bag, but don’t fizzle yourself out before then.

-King of Wands & Knight of Wands-

Okay Gemini I see you 👀 you’ve been really moving lately, huh? It feels like life may have thrown you some curveballs these past couple weeks, but don’t let that stop you..

♋️ Cancer: Time to clear the air about what happened— let’s be real.

-VIII • Strength & XI • Justice-

Okay Cancer, lets talk about it. Something didn’t go exactly like you had been planning either a situation or it was a connection with someone, whatever it is it’s got you seriously bummed out..

♌️ Leo: You had a Tower moment, it kicked ass, but you’re on your way back up— better than ever.

-X • Wheel of Fortune & Knight of Pentacles & Five of Pentacles (Card jumped out)-

Oh Leo, where do we begin? It appears we’ve all came out of a really funky situation & time where releasing our need for control & submitting to the Universe was literally our only &..

♍️ Virgo: How we look at the past is completely up to us, it’s time to move on.

-Nine of Swords & Knight of Cups-

Viiiirgo, lets talk. Specifically about what’s on your mind right now: the past. You know you can’t change what’s happened, right? So.. why worry? You’re only hurting yourself, and honestly..

♎️ Libra: Work it baby, you’ve been on the MOVE, just take some time to relax.. also, there’s love in the air 👀

-Four of Cups & Page of Cups-

Libra, can you hear me? are you paying attention? snap out of it for a minute. I can see you’ve been hot & heavy on self-growth and deep, personal-introspection lately, you’ve been reeeally inside yourself and reflecting..

♏️ Scorpio: You know & I know you’re on the ball, but there’s some things we should talk about.

-Three of Wands & Knight of Swords-

So, Scorpio, congratulations on all the progress you’ve made, I’m REALLY proud of you— like seriously. But let’s try and get realistic a little here. So, there’s no denying you’ve made progress, but how are you feeling?..

♐️ Sagittarius: It’s over. It’s done. But it’s also okay, let’s work through it.

-Ten of Swords & Two of Pentacles-

Oh Sagittarius honey, y’all went THROUGH it. Most importantly, for some of y’all still feeling stuck, listen to me, it is OVER. Something has/had left you absolutely defeated, it all was just a lot on you, and I get that..

♑️ Capricorn: Look, you literally cannot do everything alone, nor can you juggle a million things at once.

-Three of Pentacles & Two of Pentacles-

Okay Capricorn, this is looking pretty neat and straightforward. This is telling me that it’s wanting you to know that it’s okay to let people help you, whether it’s in terms of a work environment &..

♒️ Aquarius: You’ve been through the ringer, but you’re gonna pull out of it— if you try.

-Six of Swords & Six of Wands-

Aquarius, listen in. It seems the majority of you are going through a pretty rocky time right now emotionally & spiritually, well I’m here to let you know this isn’t a resting place, it’s a transition from instability to stability;..

♓️ Pisces: Ideas, ideas, ideas. Family, family, family. Here we go!

-Page of Swords & Ten of Cups-

A sweet pull here, Pisces. I’m seeing some pretty direct and easy energies here. You’ve been having a lot of ideas lately, a buuunch of thoughts, this is all divine and creative inspiration!..

Love & Light to you all! ✨💛

“Lord, what fools these mortals be!” ~ A Midsummer Night’s Dream

"No one will love you before you love yourself" is a really fucking bad way of articulating "if you don't see your own value you're more likely to allow other people to mistreat you, so be extra careful when entering relationships if you're struggling with low self worth."

The sun watches what I do, but the moon knows my secrets.

wearing lace dresses, reading Dostoevsky and Tolstoy, being obsessed with the art and classical music, drinking coffee with your friends where you discuss the latest finished book

i’ve been lowkey suicidal and depressed for the past month and i want a complete life revamp. starting from the ground up and completely LEVELLING UP. where should i start (somethings that are relatively cheap) to start this complete overhaul?? do you have any other advice or tips as well??

Oh sweety I’m sorry to hear this. Please remember everyday is a new day! there are people around you who love and care about you. You’re not alone nor will you ever be, my inbox is always open

Step 1, Levelup Your Daily Routine

Every Morning set your intentions. For an example, “Today I will remain positive no matter what”

“Today I will complete One important task”

“Today I will do something out of my comfort zone”

Every Morning say your gratitude (THIS ACTUALLY CHANGED MY LIFE IN THE SPACE OF 3 MONTHS)

Say what you’re thankful of, roof over your head, hot water, heating, your health, food, clothes on your back etc.... no matter how depressed or sad you feel remind yourself of the good things you have ALWAYS.

Routine

- Wake up with the sun

- Have a good deep cleansing shower (I have a feminine energy playlist when I shower)

- Have a Daily skincare Routine

- Deeply moisturise your body

- Do some beauty maintenance I.e pluck brows, paint your nails, deep conditioning your hair

- Drink 2.2 Liters of water daily

- Eat healthier (have more fruits, more vegetables in your meals) please, please, please, drink some green tea

- Workout if you have the time, or even do yoga

- Try your best to avoid sad music.

Someone once told me the lyric you sing is a form of manifestation so make sure the music you’re listening to is something you want to speak into the 3D and if you ever feel sad or depressed try your best to get out of that emotion, I personal stand up comedy and boom I’m back. I 1000% recommended Dave Chappelle

Step 2, DETOX

Detox all the toxic people in your life!! You need people in your circle that want to see you win!

Types of people to keep

- Someone that motivate you & chasing there dreams

- Someone who is loyal

- Someone who have who has an active lifestyles

- Someone that push you out of your comfort zone

- Someone who is emotionally and financially stabled

Remember your circles says a lot about you. These are type of people that will bring balance back into your life

Step 3, Plan + Action

What monthly or yearly goals do you have? Wake up with a purpose and spend each day getting closer to your goal. For an example, if you want your dream job. Research what experience you need for that role and each day set yourself a task to get closer and closer to it.

THE BEST LEVEL UP IS TO BE EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY AND FINANCIALLY STABLED

An early foggy morning in a cabin by the lake, Finland. Sound on ;) (by Milamai)