Normalizing loving plurality. Not even your own.
Normalize treating new potential headmates in other systems like a default positive until otherwise. Normalize hearing "I think there's a new guy in here" and saying "Wow! Do you wanna talk to them?" instead of "Oh, no :(" And, of course, normalize treating new headmates who front out of nowhere with no idea where they are with kindness, patience, and understanding. Normalize being a rock they can stand on while they get their footing.
Normalize being frustrated you can't physically hold all your friends in a separate system the way you might hold a non-plural friend group. Normalize adoring your friend's headmates. Normalize being happy for them when they talk about their plurality.
Normalize loving plurality.
Plural culture is buying a tub of microwave Mac and cheese that serves 4 then calling 3 other alters to co con to eat with you
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really sucks how i cant be honest with my doctor for fear of losing access to transition healthcare.
like i could use a therapist to help work through the realisation that im probably plural but then they would add it to my medical records and i just cant take the risk of that.
ive heard of people being denied trans heathcare because of depression (which is like denying an appendectomy cos of stomach pain), a DID or OSDD diagnosis would almost certainly be used as an excuse.
Randomly questioning whether you might legitimately be traumagenic because you most certainly have childhood trauma, but not knowing whether that trauma is why you're a system or not O.O
i assure you, my brain contains the normal number of voices.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN THE NORMAL NUMBERS ONE!!
My superpower is there’s a bunch of people in my head
My weakness is they all have ADHD
its so nice to take a break from fronting all the time. im always so much more relaxed when i come back.
its great and i really have to do it more.
Honestly I love super niche origin terms. The why and how you exist is something that can be super duper important to someone – just look at how many religions try to answer that question about the human species or individual people, as well as all the philosophical debate about the meaning of life, or even just the personal family stories of why someone's parents decided to have/keep them – and it's no surprise that we (plurals and headmates in general) like to answer this question for ourselves when we have such unique paths and causes for existence. I just finally figured out how to put into words my own reason for existence and I'm really happy about that! I hope all headmates out there who are struggling with "why do I exist" are able to find a satisfactory answer too, whether that means you find a specific origin term that fits you, you coin your own term, or you decide to forgo origin terms and describe yourself in a freestyle way. You're not alone in searching for answers – not in this community, and not in general, either. A lot of folks out there are asking the same questions you are.