THIS WILL *ACTUALLY* CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
do you know how many people are waiting until next year to glow up and actually start to become their dream self? now just think, if you started now, before 2025, how far you would be. how much more skills and knowledge you would have. you're literally getting a head start. so what are you doing dilly-dallying until 2025? heres your guide to ending this year accomplishing everything you need to and starting 2025 with everything you need.
in this post i will include mindset shifts, how to become a better person, actionable advice, actually becoming a new person <3
who do you want to become at the end of this year? what does your dream girl look like? what kind of body does she have? her clothes? who are the people she hangs out with on a daily basis- friends?
create a very clear version in your head and use pinterest to show photos of what your goals are- for ex: girls at the gym, journalling, writing, studying, reading, learning, walking, with friends, spending time outside, going swimming, playing sports, doing a skill/ hobby.
you can also find an idol/ an inspiration- a youtuber, influencer, parent, anyone who you look up to and want to somewhat have a similar life like them. (for ex: thewizardliz, tam kaur) whatever is important to you this goes hand in hand with the next point:
any unfinished projects, any goals you said you'd do in the beginning of the year, get them all down on paper. if you've finished any of them, great!- tick them off. but if you haven't then its time to lock in. pick the ones that are most important to you. that you know that achieving these will 100% get you closer to your goal. doing this makes sure you get rid of the ones that you think are "productive" when in reality they just help you procrastinate.
finish any unfinished projects or books you have before the new year begins because 2025 is about bringing in new, fresh opportunities and things. for me personally, i have a few crochet projects that i want to finish before the end of this year so i can start the new year with nothing old from the year before!
you are going to be becoming a new person- new mindset, new values, new perception on life, etc. the people in your life currently probably won't align with this new version of you. because if the people around you still only know the old you, your growth won't happen because it will feel extremely unnatural without the right people around you. this means you're going to have to decide whether you are letting any of your friends go. if they don't serve you or make you feel happier or bring in any value to your life, im sorry but its time to cut them off.
but of course if you actually have good, kind, loving friends who grow with you and support you all the way, keep them. the goal is to remove the people who don't serve your highest self. not remove the people who you know will be there for you.
but along with this, if you notice that those people are acting a bit more weirdly/ strangely now that you're improving- giving you backhanded compliments, talking about you behind your back, or just giving you a weird vibe in general, trust your gut. those people don't want to see you going to a higher place where you're thriving- keeping them in your life can be terrible for your highest good.
remember that doing this doesn't mean that you're not going to get better because BETTER ALWAYS COMES. god will give you more people who you couldn't have ever dreamed could be so amazing. so never keep toxic people in your life out of fear that you'll be alone forever. (remember: 8 billion people in the world.)
dont wait to change your mindset only once you achieve the dream body or the best grade- start now. people can take away everything from you but they can't take away your mindset, skills, and knowledge. here are some mindset shifts to develop:
the abundance mindset. know that everything happens for your highest and greatest good only! everything will work out in the end for you because God hasn't put you on this earth to suffer. if you are religeous (God) or spiritual (the universe) or even believe theres a higher faith, why on earth would you willingly believe that your purpose here is to have a bad time? obstacles will come your way and you will make bad decisions and mistakes. but all these jsut contribute to the person you are today and the person who you'll be in the future!
i will make it. believe in your vision and yourself so fiercely that you know in your bones that you will achieve your goals. you will travel the world and discover new places, you will get to retire your parents, you will get to buy expensive bags for your mom, you will be that rich sister/daughter/ wife, you will help people around the whole world, you will have people around you who love and care for you, you will achieve whatever dream you had since you were a kid and whatever dream you have right now. you will you will you will! know this so strongly but also know that i will achieve there one day, but i also am so blessed and grateful for the life i have right now! i have so many privileges and such an amazing life that i would never trade away for anything.
growth mindset if you fail, IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. please stop being afraid of failing, be afraid of never trying!! you have no idea how freeing failing is because once you do, then you'll never have that "what if" in the back of your mind, never have that small voice asking what could have happened if you had done that thing. so if you do fail, perfect! that means that you won't waste any more time wondering what would have happened. having a growth mindset means that you know you're human and you'll make mistakes, but that doesnt make you a bad person and it doesn't take away your capability to still accomplish your goals. if you fail be able to brush it off, and keep trying again and again. Thomas Edison had 1000 failed attempts to make the light bulb. yet he learnt from what didn't work, took that into consideration, then tried again. and again. and again. and now? your probably sitting in a room with light that you have because he persisted in his goal!
stay positive always have a positive outlook and perspective of life. look at the beauty and what you have instead of what you lack. feel happy joyful energy vibrate through you everyday. do things that just make you a more positive person in general! feeling happier makes you look 100x more attractive and will change the way you interact with the world!!
new year new you right? so its time you up level the way you talk and treat others. because the goal isn't to be A b*tch, the goal is to be THAT b*tch! so going around being rude isn't going to do anything for you. being kind however- having manners, checking up on people, asking how their day was, being charismatic, etc- thats what can get you so much more opportunities! you're going to be kind, but not a people pleaser- ofc prioritise yourself always but also at the same time- if you have made a commitment to be somewhere for someone at a certain time, honor that commitment. be the friend you wish you had.
being mean to everyone just because you were hurt by someone else is not it. yes, so you were hurt. grow, evolve, heal. you're stronger than this. you're stronger than you think. you can overcome anything and you can become an even better person, capable of loving fully and wholly!
change what you consume. start watching thewizardliz, tam kaur on youtube. have an inspiration/ idol to look up to in life.
workout. i dont care if its not one of your goals to have a fit body, but don't workout for that. workout because you love yourself. because its actually proven to make you happier, because you deserve a healthy, fully functioning body.
DRINK WATER. do you know how many benefits something as simple as that has? clear skin, unchapped lips, better digestive health, weight management, better health, feel more alert and energized, better for immune system, increases brain power, eliminate toxins, ETC ETC!
have a morning routine that literally sets yourself up for success. stimulate your mind with reading self help, learn something, study, focus on a skill, do something that makes your mind active.
journal & check in with yourself.- document your progress! write about how you felt after everyday. did you feel esp happy during anything? do you feel satisfied at the end of the day? or do you find that your day made you feel tired and drained? do you feel regret and wished you did more at the end of the day?
diary- links with the earlier point. document the day. you can write about it, or what i also like to do is video myself yapping to the camera. talk about whatever you want and let your mind wander free!
you are that it girl! dress the part, smell good, make yourself feel so good that you just can't help but feel like you can conqure anything!!
make sure you're consistently reminded of your goals. what do you want? why do you want to achieve it? reminding yourself of your goals will actually motivate you and make you stop procrastinating. for me its that i don't want any old projects or books having to continue into the new year so i've made a plan that will definitely get it done before the next year!
"I'm having suicidal thoughts again and I want to tell someone. I want to open up and ask for help but I'm scared that they'll see me different so I just face it alone until the thoughts eventually win."
— my thoughts are killing me slowly
I’ve started to notice a growth in both anti-TCC blogs and new TCC blogs so I thought I’d put together an informational guide for anyone new to the true crime scene- antis and hoes alike!
With every other community/fandom, there always has to be some inside jokes within them. The most prominent ones are mostly from the home videos Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold from the Columbine case such as, “What the hell are you doing to my sister’s bike?!” or “No, you goddamn piece of punk ass shit! Do not touch that friggin’ kid!” or even, “Fucker should be shot,” (which is the only example not from the home videos). It’s important to know the source of these for any newcomers. If you’re an anti, then it won’t be as important, but if you want to binge the tapes, then go ahead. Another inside joke is Dave Cullen who wrote one of the most inaccurate books on Columbine. You’ll start to notice how much of an influence Columbine has had on the TCC as it’s one of the most documented cases in the tags. Also, a lot of girls think Eric Harris was fuckable.
TCR is an acronym used for “True Crime Research.” Do you want to find information on cases without being bombarded with imagines? Then, the TCR tag is the one for you! This also goes hand-in-hand with “I can’t even read about (insert serial killer/mass shooter here) without getting a bunch of oneshots!!” Tumblr is a completely customizable experience. If you follow the right people in the TCC, you won’t have to deal with seeing imagines unless you go looking for them.
This one mainly goes out to the antis. I see you guys making this mistake most of the time and here’s a little cheat sheet for you! <3 Aren’t I so nice?
Serial Killer- A serial killer is typically a person who murders three or more people with the murders taking place over more than a month and including a significant period of time between them
Spree Killer- A spree killer is someone who kills two or more victims in a short time, in multiple locations
Mass Shooter- A mass shooter is the perpetrator of an incident involving multiple victims of firearms-related violence
Anyways, that’s it for now! Have a great day, night, morning, or evening!
workouts to do in bed!!
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how to not binge
first let’s understand why you’re binging…
you miss the food. you miss the flavor and you miss the freedom. that’s okay. restricting your diet is hard especially because you’ve had a taste for high cal foods and they taste great, i won’t lie. but i have been able to go about 2 months without binging, even though i miss the flavor.
my lw was at the beginning of the pandemic and i was eating like once every three days (because of my ocd). i got into recovery this year but i don’t think i was mentally ready for all the weight gain so i restarted my rexie journey about 2 months ago and i’ve lost a significant amount of weight (about 25 lbs)
now how to not binge!
actually enjoy your low cal meals. savor the flavor and really enjoy it. don’t eat them with the mindset of “this will make me skinny”, eat them with the mindset of “this is actually good food”. the more you start to look at these foods as delicious and tasty, the less you’ll want the high cal foods. look forward to the meals you cook. experiment with flavor and different textures. and remember it’s okay to miss that burger and that pizza, but there’s a whole world of different flavors you have yet to explore in low cal foods!
as i’m writing this, i’m having my breakfast: black coffee, a can of tuna with salt and pepper and some unsweetened applesauce. it might seem like bland food but i genuinely love the bitterness of the coffee and the sweetness from my saliva that follows after i’ve drank it, the savory and slightly spicy flavor of the tuna (i’ve always loved tuna since childhood so this one was pretty easy to like) and the applesauce, it’s like a treat and a fun little snack. i even consider it akin to candy, so i don’t feel the need to eat actually candy.
it’s a mindset to get into. just remember that you don’t have to suffer to be skinny, you can enjoy food while losing weight.
You guys just have to trust me on this one and click here okay?
Hello, this is a masterpost of how to press flowers correctly, taken from a 1984 book (more info at the end of the post) and it was all in portuguese, so I translate it all, but english is not my first language, if any sentence is messy, let me know and I’ll fix it. And this is a more “professional” way to do it, you don’t have to follow all the steps, but keep in mind that the result will be different if you don’t follow them.
When harvesting the leaves and flowers to be pressed, try not to break its branches, as this would damage the irrediavelmente plant.
Most species of flowers and leaves can be subjected to drying and pressing process, but the results may not always be satisfactory.
White or very light flowers often have a brownish hue when dried.
Blue and violet petals fade quickly
The yellow flowers are the ones that keep the color the longest.
Daisy, roses, carnations and tulips are flowers that, after drying, retain their beautiful colors very well.
Another thing to watch out for is volume: very large flowers and leaves should have their various parts pressed separately.
Picking the flowers: always pick the flower that already bloom. Try to harvest them when the dew has already evaporated, ie at noon. This will facilitate the drying process. Press them immediately after picking them.
Preparing the Flowers: Now that you have harvested the flowers you will use, it is time to prepare them for the drying process. Remove the stem leaves from the flowers, each part should pressed individually. Remove any kind of dirt from the flower.
More delicate flowers like pansy, poppy, buttercup, daisy and primrose, for example, are easier to press, put them face-down on the press pad (Tutorial below)
Flowers like the daisy should have some of their thickness removed.
‘‘Image 2. a. How to cut it / b. Cup-shaped flower‘‘ CORTE = Cut here
Small flowers such as lily of the valley and forget-me-not can be pressed whole.
Cup-shaped stem flowers such as jasmine, tulip and hyacinth should be cut in half and each part will be pressed separately
Very large flowers, such as carnation rose and chrysanthemum, must be separated into petals before being pressed.
Pressing Process: First things first always press more flowers than necessary as damage to plant parts in the drying process is inevitable. Keep similar flowers in the same layer, do not mix flowers of different thicknesses. do not let them touch each other and leave a safe space for the plants to be stretched in the pressing process.
Arrange an even weight, any heavy object will do (Big and heavy books can be a weight for pressing flowers.) and the thicker the flower, the heavier it should be. After 2 days, remove the weight from your press pad, and very carefully remove the layers of damp newspaper sheets. Do not open the paper towel layer at all! Remove the wet newspapers and put very dry new ones, put them back where they were, with the weight on it again. This should be repeated at least 3 times, if you do not remove the newspaper sheets, the flowers will scoff!
To absorb moisture from the plants, you will need paper towels (can be replaced by WHITE napkins or off-set paper), a good deal of old newspapers and two wooden planks.
Press Pad: To absorb moisture from the plants, you will need paper towels (can be replaced by WHITE napkins or off-set paper), a good deal of old newspapers and two wooden planks.
First of all, dry the newspapers to be used, do not use moist newspaper sheets!!
How to do it: Make two layers with newspapers folded in half, and place on one of the wooden planks, also fold the sheet of paper in half and place it on the newspapers. The flowers will be placed in the middle of the paper towel (as shown below), and the other layer of newspaper will be placed on the paper towel (with the flowers in the middle), and the other wooden plank will be placed on top, like a sandwich…
‘’Image a4 and b. How to improvise a table tennis net press’’
The book suggests leaving it for 6 weeks!
Book: Artes Aplicadas (1984), Rio de Janeiro (RJ)