You Are A Bad Person If You Didn't Believe The Gaiman Allegations The First Time.

I struggle to throw myself into traditional black power spaces not just because they are either unrealistic or overly confident in the power of assimilation. But because in a lot of instances, one of the most core issues is not being properly addressed or solved: the safety and prosperity of black womyn.

Too many times, these groups want to reestablish conservative control of womyn (stay home, have babies, "the black family," stop "acting like a man",) but just hang a pan african flag on them. Never mind that in so many instances, the first man to hurt a black womyn is a black man. Be that in parental neglect, sexual abuse, public degradation, and the ever popular sport of comparing black womyn to other races of womyn. You want this "black family" to preserve the black culture in the U.S. and want to restructure the very framework of the U.S. (which, yes, good) but don't want to chide and punish the men in the movement who are able to commit violence of varying forms against black womyn without much more than a "be better, my brother" or telling his victims to forgive.

I'll get more into traditional black power groups when the black men start whoopin the asses of the other black men abusing their "black queens." But until then, the only black power movements I'm interested in are the ones led by and, at this point, entirely composed of black womyn.

by insisting humans are sexually dimorphic, the evil terfs apparently reinforce inherently racist western white beauty standards... unlike the good and righteous cosmetic surgery industry which heroically charges people to pursue those exact standards (a reasonable, freestanding desire uninfluenced by any systemic bias) at the risk of their lives and health

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Why isn’t the left trying to appeal to the ‘Work is shit’ girls and young women?

Girls and women are expressing a dissatisfaction with labor as it exists currently in the western world especially, a system where the rich have obscene amounts of money to spend on bullshit while people starve. A system where they work for hours and hours get no free time and at the end of the month barely have enough to scrape together for rent, and if they get into medical debt? They’re fucked and they know it.

The Right says ‘that’s because you’re a woman, and woman are built for the home’ and the Left is going… ‘you dumbasses don’t you know that when you aim for that Tradwife bullshit you’re setting yourself up to be abused? You’re setting the feminist movement back. I hope you get abused.’ While males are allowed to make the same complaints about work and it’s NOT considered a natural result of male biology OR a justification to take away the rights of males.

”Feminists think the goals of Tra’s and MtFs are unconnected-“ and you spent an entire book giving me really good reasons to continue to think that. This book says that the reason males are misogynistic is their fear of being perceived as feminine, therefore feminism should focus on helping males out of that brain hole. And the thing is… Feminism has tried that. Libfem bullshit has BEEN babying men and blaming women for males cruelty for supposedly being the people who won’t let them hold purses or whatever the fuck.

Has it worked? I wouldn’t say so. I look around and still see women suffering. I think the reason males are misogynistic is because they benefit from a hierarchical system that treats women as property. I think this happens regardless of any secondary factors. I’ve seen too many feminine males defend pornography to think defense of pornography comes from some place of self loathing instead of their desire to get off no matter what. The goal of radical feminists is female liberation from a system that sees them as the property of males. The goal of ‘trans feminism’ is the liberation of femininity from the shackles of masculinity. I can say that’s a fine goal, but they are so fundamentally different that they require different movements.

like i really hope you understand those people really really REALLY believe WHOLEHEARTEDLY that you can escape misogyny and oppression if you try hard enough. and if you can't, that's because of your lack of effort. it is your fault, your individual fault you're oppressed. don't ever think about reaching out to other women and helping each and fight against sexism together. do NOT gain class consciousness, only think about yourself. you're NOT like those weak women, they deserve the oppression but not you!!!!!!

Me: passionately argues with ignorant, misogyinist people who throw tantrums about feminism 'just hating men and inventing problems', I use the real ideas of feminism, statistics and real stories from real women, to prove that what they say is full bullshit

Also me 10 minutes later: sees a radfem acount talking about how the Y chromosome contains sociopathic behaviour making every men (including trans women) evil from birth, and every woman who dared to get married or give birth betrayed women, with hundreds in the comments praising 4B

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look I'm not even on the "you gotta always vote" train but it is funny how the people who didn't vote for harris are like...able to conceive of voting as a collective action when it comes to them not voting, but then uhm also it's just one vote in a blue state it doesn't even matter guys. okay which is it is it a collective act or like an individual nothing matters thing to do like does voting matter enough for not voting to matter or does voting not matter enough for not voting to not matter like which is it 🎤

once again men cant decide what they want from women. one minutes its "women are nothing without makeup" and the next theyre finally willing to admit how damaging the beauty industry is to women.

it's funny because my job involves a lot of using a box cutter, so you'd think that's the thing I'd accidentally hurt myself with the most

but nooo no no no. the box cutter is my colleague, my ally, my friend. you know what is truly bloodthirsty in a print & signage shop? literally Anything Else that's able to cut but not supposed to. cardboard, sheets of plastic, the humble paper of course, corrugated polypropylene, aluminum composite sheets - i nicked myself on a sheet of magnetic material today?? it bled. kinda profusely.

basically:

box cutter: a trusty companion, might hurt you if you handle it wrong, but that's understandable

stuff you use the box cutter on: they know you as their enemy. they know the rules of this life: kill, or be killed. they know what they have to do.

I’m thinking about a stray post that I saw a while back that went something like, ‘You don’t think of ‘privilege’ when you think of gay males’ in the context of male privilege. And it kind of makes me think about… How privilege is talked about at all. I’d say a major element of privilege is blindness towards the ways it benefits you. It’s not just that you’re able bodied, it’s that you don’t have to have to worry about any kind of accommodations being made for you to exist in public because the world was already made with your needs as a central focus as an example. In that sense, it’s easier to look at the ways a person knows they are disadvantaged. So Gay Males are noticeably discriminated against on the basis of their homosexuality, and that’s the first thing a person will think about when they hear Gay Male. What NO ONE thinks is, ‘that’s a gay male, he’ll never have to worry about being forced to give birth. That’s a gay man, he lives in a world where seat belts were made with his safety in mind.’ And that’s usually fine, the ways that gay males benefit from manhood isn’t something that always needs to be brought up- the same way that a white woman’s whiteness is not always relevant to the conversation.

HOWEVER, it becomes a problem when we’re talking about misogyny and people start pretending oppression exists as one scale instead of multiple axes. Admittedly this is VERY Intersectionalism 101 (and people understand this concept weirdly well when we’re talking about rich white women) but it still feels like it needs to be stated on this site.