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like i really hope you understand those people really really REALLY believe WHOLEHEARTEDLY that you can escape misogyny and oppression if you try hard enough. and if you can't, that's because of your lack of effort. it is your fault, your individual fault you're oppressed. don't ever think about reaching out to other women and helping each and fight against sexism together. do NOT gain class consciousness, only think about yourself. you're NOT like those weak women, they deserve the oppression but not you!!!!!!

When prison abolitionists argue that economic equality will help ease some crimes, they are right. When prison abolitionists argue that economic equality will stop wife beating and spousal abuse, they are falling for the male apologist lie that men only beat their wives and girlfriends when they have a good reason. Rich men, men with great social networks, well-liked men—all men who might beat their wives just as much as an angry working class drunk.

In the spring of 2023, several news outlets reported the heart-warming story of a fourteen-year-old autistic boy who made a poster and presented it to a female classmate, asking her to be his valentine. The girl said no, whereupon the boy's mother took to social media, recounting the tale and emphasising just how 'shy and socially awkward' her son was. The story got national attention and 'the next day at school, a number of [the boy's] classmates approached him with kind words and offers to be his valentine'. One girl 'presented him with a poster like the one he had made to ask the girl the day before'. He became a high-status victim, at least for a day; the girl he had initially asked out, a heartless bully. Yet what exactly had had she been supposed to do? Say yes when she didn't want to in order to spare him humiliation?

The story illustrates many of the problems with 'just' being kind. In the eyes of some, the boy's autism elevated him above the other boys who pressure girls to do things they do not want. His shyness and social awkwardness were problems the original girl could have solved simply by saying yes. Maybe she judged boys like him just because they were different. Her rejection became, not a simple expression of her desires – just as his choice to ask her, rather than another girl, had been – but a judgment on his worth as a human being, one which the rest of the world set about correcting. To some, the boy had a right to kindness and validation which the girl was withholding. But what of her right to have her needs respected? There's a suggestion that while all girls have the right to say no, it would make life a lot easier if they could train themselves not to, coupled with the old message that girls are better than boys at manipulating their desires – see how many of them were willing to approach the boy the next day! There's so much prejudice in the world, but if girls agreed to offer themselves to the boys who felt most left out, we'd have begun the work of removing it. Taken to its logical conclusion, this is incel thinking.

– Victoria Smith (2025) (Un)kind: How 'Be Kind' Entrenches Sexism, pp. 105-6.

not even lukewarm but cold take: if you're a childfree woman that experiences opposite sex attraction you should only be with men that are VEHEMENTLY child-free. Men who get a vasectomy or refuse to have any sort of sex without protection. Any man that's on the fence while you're strongly convinced about the fact that you do not want children, will eventually turn on you and want children.

The comic plays with the idea of 'a wolf in sheep's clothing (An aesop fable about how sometimes people who may look nice might actually intend to deceive and hurt you) for comedic effect. Like in the original story, the wolf enters the flock with the intent to eat the sheep and bring it's kills back to the pack. 'he he he they don't know I'm really a wolf.' In the second and third panel though, the sheep are open and friendly to the wolf, complimenting it and offering to dance and graze in the meadow and the wolf is charmed by them. The punchline is in the third panel where it's revealed that the wolf was so charmed it abandoned it's pack entirely to pretend to be a sheep forever, subverting the original story.

I don’t go on Facebook very often, and when I do it usually doesn’t recommend me anything, but WOWZERS. feels like we’ve come full circle in the “almost getting the point but not really”

women’s bodies weren’t “made” to do anything, nature didn’t “intend” anything, no human action is “unnatural” and there is no inherent “purpose” to a human life

why can't i mock your religion lmao U literally think i'm going to hell

challenge for tumblr: view a post that says "it's good when women reject societal pressure and forgo shaving + make-up" and accept it at that. maybe even add something productive. anything but tired what-about-isms. please