… This Book Is So Dumb In Such Obvious Ways That It Makes Me Think The People Who Keep Recommending

Mind, I’m bi, but mono-sexuality isn’t this mystical impossible to understand thing unless you insist your experiences of the world are universal. It’s actually really easy to believe someone likes one thing and dislikes another even if you enjoy both things.

“Female-assigned intersex kids’ vaginal canal size is also assessed by doctors, to ensure that it’s long enough to fit a penis inside of it. Doctors might surgically construct or re-construct vaginas, which can result in a host of health problems and necessitate multiple, multiple surgeries. This is especially the case since most intersex kids have these surgeries very young, and when their bodies grow into their adult forms, more surgeries are necessary to keep their vagina size in proportion. Non-surgical methods are also used to increase or maintain vaginal length by regularly using medical dildos to stretch the vagina over months and years. (It’s kind of like braces for your vagina, but much, much worse.) Just like there are no standards for how long a clitoris “can” be before it’s classified as a penis, there aren’t absolute standards as to how long a vagina is for it to be of “normal” length. I had a dilation procedure performed for almost every exam I had with intersex doctors from the time I was 8 until I was 16, so that they could check how long my vagina was as I grew. I absolutely hated these procedures. I mean, imagine a man as old as your father or your grandfather, who you don’t know, inserting a medical dildo into you each time you saw him, knowing that you can’t question the doctor’s orders and just accept that you have to undergo these uncomfortable procedures for your health. Imagine a decade or so later, realizing that these procedures did nothing to track your health, and had everything to do with grown men feeling good about the fact that you could fuck some dude someday like a “normal girl”. That all those traumatizing procedures weren’t actually medically relevant at all, and it actually was within my right to refuse those examinations. I didn’t know any of that at the time. I also had no idea that I wouldn’t want to ultimately have the kind of sex they assumed I’d be having, adding yet another layer of this-was-totally-unnecessary/messed-up to my history. Other kids shouldn’t have to go through this. Other adults shouldn’t have revelations some day far into the future that what was happening to them WASN’T okay, and their traumatic feelings ARE valid, and the whole system of how intersex people are conceptualized and “treated” IS entirely fucked. And it’s gotta change. We’ve gotta change it.”

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—-Claudia at Autostraddle

I just read this article and was reminded once again how invisible the intersex community often is… we need to signal boost this shit to let people know that this kind of “medical treatment” is NOT okay.

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Felt straight-up ill reading this. This is the institutionalized rape of children. It’s beyond unconscionable that procedures like this are normalized and considered “treatment”.

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jfc

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Revolting and repugnant.

See why intersex folk don’t like their medical issues being used as a rhetorical gotcha?

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When you make a joke about how if men could get pregnant they’d sell abortion pills in vending machines only to get hit with “trans men exist”

Yes, I am aware that women who change their pronouns are still capable of getting pregnant. It comes with the female reproductive system. This is not revolutionary information, nor is it an example of males getting pregnant

Don’t walk yourself into getting your feelings hurt if you can’t handle that being pointed out

hey um gyns did you hear? Yeagh. Post about 3 men helping with shopping cart?? Systemic misogyny GONE. systems of male control POOF. Men good always. Men amazing. Radfems should go outside and meet 3 shopping cart men who are so kind and cute. Then they'll change their evil Minds.

Op is saying that therapy is the wrong tool to use against bigotry, not that no bigot can ever change their beliefs. If a rich person believed ‘poor people are poor because they’re born genetically inferior’, that belief likely wouldn’t cause them problems in their day to day life. It’s probable that it wouldn’t come up at all and it’s not really a therapists job to make them confront that belief or change it in any way if they’re fine holding that belief (ie the belief isn’t pathological). That doesn’t mean the belief can’t be changed *at all*- Evangelical Christianity is an ideology that therapy isn’t supposed to fix but it’s something a person can be talked in or out of believing through books, dialogue with peers etc.

you cannot therapize misogyny out of a man because values are not pathologies. him not believing women are human will not be fixed by cbt or exposure therapy because it is not a cognitive health issue. it is an ideological one.

… What do people even expect the answer to be when someone rejects them and they ask, ‘why?’ Because the ‘why’s’ going to hurt their feelings no matter what, it doesn’t feel good to not get what you want and all. It always happens too, people rarely go, ‘Will you go out with me?’ ‘Oh, no thank you’ ‘understandable have a nice day’ it’s usually ‘well why won’t you date me?’ What do they want from that? To be told they’re not attractive to the person? That they don’t share a lot of interests? There’s no answer that gets people into that, ‘understandable, have a nice day’ position… Part of me thinks it’s just to justify their anger over the situation. ‘I’m not mad that I was told no- I’m totally fine with being told no- but it’s kind of fucked up to not want to be in a relationship for <Any given reason> isn’t love supposed to be beyond that sort of thing?’

no wonder mommy has to march

I feel sick

I'm on holiday at a mall and there's a family getting candyfloss, I don't know what religion they were but all the females, even the little girls (5 or 6) are fully veiled

And the little boys are eating candyfloss off sticks together and the youngest girl is crying and stamping her foot because she can't eat hers due to the veil and she has to take it home in a bag

What the actual FUCK.

to keep it simple, i don't think any abuser deserves the privilege of being able to go "but im sorry!!" and be forgiven by the internet for what they did. i dont think any victim should have to see their abuser be put on a pedestal. only victims can forgive our abusers. and we do not have to