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Stop giving your time and attention to things that are stealing you from your life. Stop vicariously living through others and calling it inspiration. Stop idolizing random people on the internet to a point you spend hours defending them knowing they have no idea you exist and they'll make bank anyway Stop playing PR for celebrities and your gurus Stop identifying yourself with a random ideology / political stance / set of beliefs so hard that an enemy to it is an enemy to you and whoever buys into it is a God Stop seeking instant connections and calling random people you just met bestie Stop arguing with people knowing full well your 20790880 word virtue signalling will not change their mind just give you props for status seeking Stop trying to change people that have not asked for your help Stop making excuses for them Stop denying yourself the pleasures you've worked so hard to enjoy Stop measuring your worth against external opinion Stop trying to do everything at once Stop trying to coach people into being decent towards you and others Stop thinking you're the exception of the rule Stop that magical thinking bs that disempowers you Stop watching those videos that you know you won't really actualize Stop mindlessly consuming content Stop that black and white thinking Stop valuing passion over mastery Stop with the self help books and gurus Stop with the excuses just. Stop floating across your achievements like you didn't pray for them seeking the next Stop picking sides on random stuff Stop that hero worship thing Stop buying into that feel good bs Stop listening to music that is insulting to you stop reading the comments knowing they'll annoy you stop going back to people that have shown you they do not care for you stop trying to defend yourself against people that have already decided you're guilty stop defending your tastes and preferences to people that just don't get it Stop Stop just. Stop

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“I just don’t want that for myself anymore” is a valid reason to stop anything.

Hormone balancing juice:

• Pomegranate: Rich in antioxidants, supports estrogen balance & heart health

• Beetroot: Boosts circulation & helps detox the liver, key for hormone regulation

• Carrots: Supports the liver in flushing out excess estrogen & promotes healthy skin

• Orange: Packed with vitamin C, helps regulate cortisol & improves overall energy

• Ginger: Reduces inflammation & aids digestion, which is crucial for balanced hormones

Additional ingredients you can add:

• Turmeric: Anti inflammatory & supports liver detox, helping regulate hormones

• Apple: Adds natural sweetness, fiber & supports liver health

• Lemon: Boosts digestion & further helps with liver detox, supporting hormone balance

• Flaxseeds: Rich in omega 3s which help regulate estrogen levels

• Cucumber: Hydrating & soothing, helps flush toxins and balance hormones

• Spinach or Kale: Provides essential nutrients like magnesium, which supports hormone regulation & reduces stress

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Hey! Hope you’ve been well. I know you smell incredibly well, so I need your tips. Please, what do I need to smell good all through the day, everyday? How do I know what scent I like and would fit me? What steps do you take and what are your favourite scents? Thank you!

Hi! I love this question

Smelling good starts from the inside : make sure your gut is functioning properly (are you having daily bowel movements?), support lymphatic drainage by moving everyday even if its just walks, drink water and other mineral rich drinks such as herbal infusions or broths, add chlorophyll to your water from time to time, and have a mindfulness practice that you do everyday (stress greatly impacts our body odor!)

Then, when it comes to your daily hygiene, use soaps/gels that don’t interfere too much with your skin’s microbiome, as that can also cause bad body odor, even if the soap/gel smells nice! I recommend the oil cleanser by la roche posay « Lipikar », followed by a neutral shower gel for further cleansing. Use a feminine unscented wash for your intimates and don’t forget your butt too lol, the Rael gel is lovely for that. Exfoliate your body once or twice a week.

Do armpit detoxes : clay + acv and rinse when it dries. You can do this once a week, and then bi-weekly or monthly for maintenance.

Instead of using deodorants, I suggest swiping a very gentle aha/bha toner it neutralizes odor and helps with brightening your underarms. I tend to use pure musk after that as well, just for the scent.

As for knowing which scent suits you, try out different perfumes until you find one that literally merges perfectly with your natural body’s scent. When you find it you will know, because it’ll actually feel like second skin, you won’t be able to get enough of it. Once you find it, look up the notes and start experimenting with other perfumes that have similar notes, then you’ll have found your « niche » :)

There is a difference between being with someone because you want to get married and have kids & being with someone you want to marry & give children to

One is driven by a desire to fulfill personal goals, while the other is rooted in a deep connection & a desire to build a life together

If you’re ready to get married, date someone who wants to be a husband/wife and a father/mother, not a someone that just wants a spouse and a baby

You can't mess up anything that is meant for you.

book review: Stolen focus by Johann Hari

Major learnings from this book. It basically talks about focus, why and how we’re losing it. Why can’t we pay attention anymore? Are we individuals to blame or our systems? 

There will be a time when the upper class will be extremely aware of the risks to their attention (caused by tech, social media, our current generation) and the masses, with fewer resources to resist the temptation of technology, will be manipulated more and more by their computers. 

Multitasking is a myth. What actually happens when we multitask is that we “juggle” between tasks. This results in incomplete tasks, higher error rates, less focus, less creativity and memory decreases. 

Sleep is extremely important, especially sleeping according to nature - when the sun sets and sun rises. If the whole world slept the way we are naturally programmed, we would have an economic earthquake. Our economic systems run on sleep deprived people. 

Reading online and reading print has a huge difference. Reading online creates tendencies of skimming and scanning text. This prevents our brain from focusing intently on one story at a time, which print allows you to do. You also remember and understand things from printed texts better. 

Empathy. Certain research suggests that reading fiction and novels improves empathy, because you are immersing yourself in another character’s life for a while. Empathy has played a huge role in human advancements. If a group of white people did not realise that colonisation was wrong, if men did not realise that women deserve equal rights, we would not have independent nations nor be close to gender equality today. 

There are multiple types of paying attention. Focused attention is one thing. But day dreaming and letting your mind wander with no distraction (that is, being alone with your thoughts) is equally important. Some of the most important breakthroughs in human history were because the inventors were not actively focusing on solving the problem. 

Being on social media = giving a free pass to be manipulated. No thoughts, opinions, desires that you have are original. They have all been fed into you by social media and the online world. It is by their design that we cannot focus. 

Leaked internal records of Facebook show that they are aware that their algorithms exploit the human brain’s attraction to divisiveness. 64% of people, for instance, who join extremist groups join because FB’s algorithm directly recommends too. “Our recommendation systems grow the problem.” Zuckerberg eventually terminated the unit that was studying this. 

Diet and attention. The diet we consumed today is a diet that causes regular energy spikes and energy crashes. Our food does not have the nutrients we need for our brains to function well. Our current diets actively contain chemicals that seem to act on our brains almost like drugs.  

Be careful about reading research, especially when it’s funded by the industry itself. For 40 years, the lead industry funded all the scientific research into whether it was safe, and assured the world that it was. Lead later turned out to severely stunt your ability to focus and pay attention and that you are more likely to get ADHD. 

We define success broadly as economic growth. Economies should het bigger, companies should get bigger. Growth can happen in two ways - either the companies find new markets or they persuade the existing consumers to consume more. If you can get people to eat more or to sleep less, you’ve found the source of economic growth. It results in people working overtime, not having enough time with family, friends and themselves, stress and anxiety prone, lack of sleep and bad health, etc. 

Conclusion: use precommitment to stop switching tasks, try to focus more on intrinsic motivation than extrinsic, go off social media periodically (say 1 month at a time) and then extend those breaks; everyday spend 1 hour in walking in silence (no music, conversations or people- and if this is in nature, even better) to connect with yourself, 8 hours of sleep every night, build on slow practices like yoga, cut out processed food, take your PTO!!

Sorry to break it to you but you literally have to face your fears and slaughter them. Otherwise you will live a small life that you do not want. You literally have to view your biggest fears and attack them head on. You have to fall into the abyss to find your way out. The easy path does not exist. There is no get out of jail free card. You have to allow yourself to die a spiritual death over and over again in order to reinvent yourself into the person you are actually supposed to be. And you have to be painfully honest with yourself and the people around you. It’s horrible but it’s truly the only way.