Majexs03 - Aprilph

hearts of darkness (1991) dir. eleanor coppola, george hickenlooper, fax bahr

Any advice for how to deal with people being entitled to know your business? I'm often accused of being guarded and standoffish when really I'm just setting up boundaries. For example, I've been working towards an advanced degree for 3 years now. I have a well thought out, elaborate plan to achieve my goals. This is my business but people still get upset when they look at my life and say "you're not doing anything with your life". To them it looks like I just go to work and travel.

I say that I'm working towards something. But this never shuts them up. Then the questions "Well what is it?! What are you doing?! Do you have a plan?! Have you applied to school yet?! Have you thought about this, this, this and this?!!" They always word the questions like I'm incompetent and lack foresight. I always feel cornered when this happens, like my agency has been taken away. I usually just end up explaining my long, drawn out plan to them and I feel ran over afterwards. I've had people literally get mad and lash out when I keep details to myself. "What's with the attitude? I'm just asking a question, you don't need to give me an attitude." So it's easier to just give in.

"This is my business but people still get upset when they look at my life and say "you're not doing anything with your life". To them it looks like I just go to work and travel."

Why not just let them be upset? 70% of people who knew me in the past still think I'm broke and not doing anything with my life and I just go along with it. Let them create their own thoughts and ideas and tell them that they're absolutely right. At the end of the day what they think about you just isn't your business.

"I say that I'm working towards something. But this never shuts them up."

Unless they are someone important that you might need to use in the future, it's totally unnecessary to let them know anything at all.

"They always word the questions like I'm incompetent and lack foresight. I always feel cornered when this happens, like my agency has been taken away."

Because it is taken away. Corner them instead, let them know you're living on autopilot with no current ambitions. Like I said if they are no one important to you WHO CARES???

"So it's easier to just give in."

It's actually much much easier to let them think what they want... don't let yourself feel pressured and cave in. You can literally make up any lie and say that your focused on becoming a yoga teacher or something.... anythingggggg.

100 Days of Nun Mode

you have got to learn how to style your hair and wigs.

I’ve been styling and making wigs, doing hair, and enjoying playing cosmetologist since I was young and I’ve found that it’s saved me so much money and gotten me so much clout within my friend groups. I’m known as the one who can do hair and I take a lot of pride in it, it’s important to know how to do something and know how to do it well and it’s important to take a lot of pride in your work. I have specialised hair, I’m not always able to find a stylist who I trust and I don’t mess around when it comes to my hair and making sure that it looks good, it can be incredibly annoying to have a mishap and have to figure out what to do last minute and it can be a nightmare to take care of wigs and buy them, below are videos on how to make your own wigs, style your wigs, dye your wigs, install your wigs, and care for your wigs so that you have hairstyles that last.

here’s the list.

beginner braid pattern for a wig install.

beginner middle part braid down tutorial.

arrogant tae swoop tutorial part one.

arrogant tae swoop tutorial part two.

full frontal install with detailed plucking.

lace frontal and closure plucking masterclass.

how to bleach, pluck, and customise a closure.

how to install an HD lace frontal for beginners.

how to tint your lace to the correct colour.

how to cut and style a blunt cut bob.

how to do a bald cap installation.

how to install a lace frontal perfectly.

how to make a closure look like a frontal.

how to create wispy bangs.

how to use a hot comb correctly.

how to dye your wig blonde.

how to pluck da fuck out of a hairline.

how to tweeze a perfect middle part.

how to do a 360 lace install with waterproof glue.

how to highlight your wig easily.

how to highlight like a pro.

beginner friendly detailed highlighting.

how to highlight with a highlighting cap.

how to dye a wig jet black.

how to dye a wig red/burgundy.

how to dye a 360 lace wig bronze.

how to dye a wig honey blonde.

how to dye a wig ash blonde.

how to dye a wig half and half.

how to dye a wig chestnut brown.

how to do bombshell curls on a wig.

how to cut layers in a wig.

how to install a frontal wig and cut layers.

how to do a wolf cut on a wig.

how to do curtain bangs with layers on a wig.

how to do voluminous layers on a wig.

how to do a roller set on a wig.

how to do a flexirod set on a wig.

how to do a middle part flexirod set on a wig.

what you need in a wig kit.

the best wig glue.

how to make a synthetic wig look natural.

how to straighten a part.

how to straighten a wig with no frizz.

how to fix a hole in your wig lace.

how to straighten a blunt cut bob.

how to make a closure wig.

how to make a flat closure wig.

how to make a closure wig using a sewing machine.

how to make a u-part wig.

how to install a u-part wig.

how to make a u-part wig for beginners.

how to make a natural part u-part wig.

how to do a flawless u-part wig install.

how to install a versatile u-part wig.

how to turn a closure wig into a u-part wig.

how to make a synthetic wig look natural.

how to customise a synthetic wig.

how to install clip-ins like a pro.

how to flawlessly blend clip-ins.

how to install clip-ins on relaxed hair.

how to install clip-ins on pressed hair.

how to install tape-in extensions.

how to blend clip-ins with relaxed hair.

how to do a frontal ponytail.

how to do a frontal high ponytail.

how to do a frontal low ponytail.

how to install a 90’s style wig. 

how to install a half up, half down swoop wig.

how to do a simple quick weave.

how to do a diy versatile quick weave.

how to do a detailed middle part quick weave.

how to do a natural quick weave with leave out.

how to do a versatile sew in with no closure.

how to do a sew in with a closure.

how to do a flawless 5x5 closure sew in.

how to do a beginner friendly closure sew in.

how to do a sew in with minimal leave out.

how to do your own natural looking sew in.

how to clean and wash your lace front wigs.

how to wash your hair underneath your wigs/sew ins.

I’ve also thought of this a lot and I can finally say that I truly believe that while the quality of the hair and the products you use are definitely extremely important, so is the technique you use. You could spend a full $1k on a wig but it wouldn’t look good unless you knew how to pluck and install it, there are plenty of really hot affordable synthetic wigs and synthetic/human hair blend wigs currently on the market, there are ways to install wigs that are simple but still end up making you look like you’re on fire, and there are wigs that are on the more expensive end that just won’t look good if you don’t know how to install them. Knowing how to do your own hair is truly an S-Tier skill, some salons and stylists are so expensive these days that it’s just not feasible to go in every week to have your hair done and it’s great to be able to do your hair whenever you want to and make it look good, you’ll end up saving so much money and exchanging only time, you can learn how to do your own styles, and you can even take all the skills you’ve learned and make a profit from them.

Ligeia.

hold on a second man…

Sabrina (1954) dir. Billy Wilder

Zendaya photographed by Raoul Alejandre.

4 Types of guys I will not date:

1. Guys who are in love with love They are obsessed with the feeling of being in love than the person they're with. They chase the honeymoon phase, the high of attention and connection but when the relationship becomes real they check out. It's not about you, it's about their addiction to fantasy and when they are done with you, they will jump to someone else

2. Guys who want a wife This sounds good on paper until you realize they don’t care who the wife is. They’re in a rush to plug someone into a role, not build a life with a specific person. These guys want the optics of commitment without the emotional maturity or compatibility required to sustain one. A man who wants to get married < a man who wants to marry you

3. Guys who want kids These guys aren't necessarily looking for a deep connection with a partner—they just want the title of "parent" or the idealistic perception, not really about being a father. It’s more about the next step in their life plan than the emotional bond that should come with it. A man who wants to be a father > a man who wants kids

4. Guys who don’t love themselves, so they’re looking for love outside of themselves These people are searching for validation, comfort, security from others because they haven't learned to give those things to themselves first. They look for relationships to fill the emptiness or fix their own internal struggles. Without self love, any love they find is only a temporary fix

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After writing this, I realized that these are typically all the same type of guy. Also this should have been gender neutral cause it applies to everyone

Slowly becoming the person I should’ve been a long time ago.