I know the aroace community is not a monolith. I know we all have very diverse experiences. But I was thinking about how so many aroace folks had the "I think I'm bi or pan" moment because they felt the same/nothing for all genders.
I had the "I think I'm bi" moment too. But for me it was because I DID feel something for different genders. I felt incredibly strong tertiary attraction to boys and girls (this was 10 years ago and I was queer-sheltered so I had yet to meet an out nonbinary person), and bi felt like the right descriptor. I didn't have to "fake" crushes like so many aroaces. I just confused my squishes for crushes and blended in.
Even after I realized I'm aromantic asexual, bi still feels part of my identity. I relate to a lot of the bi experience. I feel strongly for several different genders, but I'm attracted to them differently. The way I'm attracted to guys is totally different than how I'm attracted to girls and nonbinary folks.
This is why the term "bi-oriented aroace" means so much to me. It describes my experiences with tertiary attraction perfectly.
I noticed that there seems to be three flags for demi-aroace (That I've seen) so now I'm curious, which flag do you use/do you think should be used?
This is the one I use/like best, and it's just a mix of demisexual and demiromantic.
This one, which is the demi triangle with the asexual and aromantic colors (or something I'm not sure)
Or this one? The Demi triangle on the AroAce flag?
also please tell me if there's more I missed!
@demolisherspork on tiktok soo talented
i need people to know that labels aren't mandatory.
Use all the microlabels you want. Go wild.
But at the same time, if you don't feel like going down that rabbit hole, just using the umbrella-term of whatever the hell you identify with is perfectly fine too. Some people don't want to be any more specific and that's totally valid :)
damian's portraits + previous eps | batman: wayne family adventures
wfa #103
wfa #1, #18, #36, #99
what's it say about me that i immediately knew not only which episodes but also the exact panels each of these portraits came from?
do i reread wfa too much? yes but i also don't care enough to stop lmao
bonus: i know tim's is clearly a joke and likely not referencing anything specifically.......but
wfa #14
i'm just saying i can see some similarities LOOOL ššš
I feel like I put way too much effort into something only Iāll find funny
I feel a connection to jason toddās character because I understand what it means to have all this anger stored inside you that stems from love. from wanting love. I think all hurt children do.
yes, it feeds and grows from your vulnerability and insecurity, its planted from the seeds of never having been given a consistently supportive community during the formative years of your life. and so now, you donāt know how to trust any form or expression of love even the slightest bit different from your own. itās never trustworthy. youāve never been able to rely on anyoneās feelings except your own.
you love so intrinsically. every connection youāve made leaving a lasting mark on your soul. yet you canāt see evidence of your existence leaving the same mark on others. so you get angry. and you try to hold on to that hate born from love. your love is bright and blazing and passionate and slowly dying from a lack of fuel.
but what makes you the angriest is that you still love every single one of those people; the people who have left you, disappointed you, or abandoned you and yet the only thing you seem to want, to need is for them to still love you too. despite it all.
through the anger and hate and dreaded indifference, the only thing plaguing your mind is why you can never seem to make the people in your life whoāve told you they love you stay.
Yeah Iām aromantic, asexual, and agender, but you know what else I am? Iām aerodynamic. Anxious. Angular. Aromatic. Alien. Aimless. Aching. Ancient. Iām not a triple A battery, Iām an elevenfold A battery and counting.
Robin 80th Anniversary 100-Page Super Spectacular #1 - āMore Timeā (2020)
written by Judd Winick art by Dustin Nguyen & John Kalisz
Wow, okay, I thought it was going to turn out that Zur was largely in control of Bruce's actions during Gotham War hence the whole Jason thing, but both Bruce and Zur confirmed Bruce's actions weren't Zur's doing.
DC cannot make him do something so incredibly unethical and then try to pass him off as this loving father who only wants what's best for Jason. I mean, sure, the road to hell is paved with good intentions, and Bruce obviously views what he did as an act of love, but if you play a card like that, you damn well better show the repercussions of it, which would be Jason cutting ties with Bruce completely and forever.
But nooo. You know what they made Jason do after all this? Offer Bruce emotional support after Selina "died." Get bent. They should've had Jason walk over to the pit looking distressed over Selina's fall, had Bruce try to put his hand on Jason's shoulder, and then had Jason smack Bruce's hand off with a, "Don't you ever touch me again you piece of shit."
Like fuck! Where's the lingering feeling of betrayal?! The lack of trust?! Don't give me this "you did a terrible thing to me, and I haven't had any time to process it, but I still care about you and love you, so I'm here for you" type of bullshit. Siiigh. I'm so tired.
DC PAY FOR MY FUCKING Therspy bill istg