It Bears Stating From The Onset That Feminism Is A Broad Church. There Are Splits And Schisms Within

Naoki Ito: Urban Nature (2009)

just stumbled into a tiktok of a girl who was talking about her ex boyfriend, how he showed her the porn he’s into and it’s all pregnancy and childbirth fetish, to the point that he has a reddit account he uses just to jerk off to one of the most vulnerable moments of a woman’s life. she said he’s going to college to become an obstetrician.

i hate men i hate men I HATE MEN

.................it's always a mistake to underestimate how much time, effort, money, attention and focus men will dedicate to their perversions. "Nobody would go through the trouble of______________ to creep on women" A man would. A man would go through the trouble. Trust me.

Why is this guy monologuing like he's some sort of edgy anime villain?

To that “trans man” who keeps pestering me; shut up. You were never trans. You were always cis. You were always a TERF. You were born a TERF and will die a TERF. You can never be forgiven even if you try. What you attempt to salvage of your shattered life will be too little too late.

You keep trying to say things to me. But they don’t matter. They don’t matter until you give up TERFism. You don’t matter until you give up TERFism. But you won’t. Because TERFs don’t change. And me keeping you out? Me PROTECTING myself from you? You who pose a fucking threat to all trans people? That’s just natural. Those who hurt the pack are naturally discarded.

Stop acting like a victim. You’re a TERF.

You’re a TERF.

You’re a TERF.

You’re a TERF.

And that’s enough for me to want you dead.

No matter what you try and say or how sweet you try to act.

You’re a TERF.

I hate that every time I see "Be kind" now, I see "Be quiet".

It makes so much more sense now why its geared primarily towards women.

We always have to sit with our discomfort. Just shut up and go with it, regardless of how you feel.

seeing all the hatred against straight women by men is why we absolutely need to stand by them. straight woman are a vulnerable population and already deal with so much bullshit from men. they can't even have games with fictional males who love them without men shitting all over it and calling it "femcel gooner material".

One of the things that feminism needs to better grapple with is the difference between systemic and interpersonal issues.

The biggest reason that a lot of women push back from feminism with their additions to #NotAllMen is because those women know and love men who aren't rapists and who aren't physically abusive. It's entirely natural to rail against something that you see as attacking someone that you love.

When feminists advocate for single-sex schooling to protect girls, there's an automatic push back and outcry over the very real bullying that goes on in girl-only schools that have had long-lasting impacts on ex-students.

Glossing over the abuse that mothers put their daughters through often gives the impression that anything that counters any women-supporting-women narrative has to be stamped down on and ignored, or at worst, even denied, for the good of feminism.

It's far too easy as feminists to see criticisms like the above from women and then dismiss them, or repeat more statistics and then get frustrated at those women or call them handmaidens, instead of engaging and understanding why they're railing against what's being said.

No, not every single man is a raping woman-beater, but there are a ton more male abusers than female abusers, and a ton more female victims than male victims. That's a systemic issue, and we need to fix it. That doesn't make those loved fathers, brothers, cousins, friends or partners suddenly monsters out of nowhere.

No, female-only schools aren't perfect and there are bullying scandals in all schools, that doesn't excuse the individual abuse that victims have been through, but in general, they're safer for girls, and girls achieve higher grades than in mixed-sex schools, which is important to discuss and improve on.

No, abuse victims shouldn't be silent over what they've been through, and female abusers deserve to face justice. Continued cycles of abuse and female socialisation and mental illess etc might explain some of the abuse, but it doesn't excuse it. The point of feminism is to free all women from patriarchy, so that even the worst of the worst of women don't suffer with misogyny, not coddle the evil and the abusers just because of their sex.

There is so much difficult nuance, and there's too much reliance on the systemic to the point that the interpersonal is completely erased. It stops individual women from seeing anything in feminism that's useful to them. If they have counter-examples to any systemic issue, then they'll use those personal examples to dismiss that there's a systemic issue at all. If they're met halfway and the systemic vs the interpersonal is explained, then there's a much better chance that they'll pay attention or even go away to think about it to eventually become feminists, too.

The fact that you're trying to group abusive men with actual oppressed minorities like that's a gotcha is disgusting.

Why is it that women's rights being protected more hateful to you than a violent man gleefully promoting violence against women?

Don't bother to answer, I know it's your misogyny.

They're going to have to build a statue of JRK when this is all over. The most successful author in history and one of the most impactful British feminists in history being the same person is insane.

That is every single TIM (and lesser amounts of TIFs) that demands access to spaces, all the way down to demanding their choice of pronouns.

It's all very well and good being "kind" or thinking "I'll be respectful if that person's respectful," but at the end of the day, if they're AGPs (or the rarer female equivalent), what they're doing is forcing you to become part of their fetish play. Later, when alone, they'll revisit the sound of your voice, or they'll screenshot the image of your text, and masturbate to the memory of it, because they made you play along.

It's not only the fetish of being seen as a woman for those AGPs - it's also an exhibitionism fetish. Strangers being forced to play along into their fantasies are another layer of this.

There's a reason that it's marketed as "gender euphoria" instead of a cleaner, more sterile idea of "when I'm referred to as the pronouns I feel, I don't hurt the way I normally do." It's a state of pleasure. Whether it's the literal pleasure of playing a part, or the pleasure of having such control over others to the point that they deny science and their own eyes, it doesn't matter.

It's not just misogyny. It's sexual harassment and abuse.

Life. Death. Together. Gone, but still reaching for the sky.

The beautiful remains of some stained glass in the old church burned down during the world war in coventry...