I Genuinely Don't Think The Trans/queer Community At Large Has Separated Itself From The Transphobic

I keep meeting transfem(me)s IRL who genuinely believe that transmasc erasure is a real problem and that we transmascs have it just as bad as they do. Today I spoke to a gal who actually thought transmascs have it worse. I responded to her that I believe everyone in the trans community shares a deep pain, beyond quantifying, that there's not really a hierarchy to our pain. There are so many amazing women out in the world who get it, who cherish and love us and feel our pain with us, just as we (transmascs) cherish and love them and feel their pain with them.

The haters and the division-mongers are the outlier. They're just louder in online spaces. Hate and division will always lose. Love and unity is the way forward.

Tagging something like this as "fight me" then turning off reblogs and whining about people calling you a terf is a new degree of pathetic.

Also didn't this person block every trans woman who told him to stop?

Sure you ain't a terf, man?

Ironically, reblogs were off..

But let it be known that nobody ever said this and this entire fuckinb post is filled witb radfem shit.

helpful venn diagram of people who are against the term transandrophobia for those of you who arent aware of whats going on right now

Tumblr really be like "Wow, it was fucked up that we spent years shitting on asexuals and bisexuals and non-binary people for having completely innocent and harmless traits. It turns out we had it all wrong, and we shouldn't have treated them like pariahs. Isn't that crazy how that happened? Anyways, I fucking hate transgender men and bisexual lesbians and plural systems and I think they should all shut up and stop whining about their supposed 'oppression'. I am very smart and woke."

You're loved, you're appreciated, you matter <3

Don't ever forget that.

Aw, thank you!

(also your blog has very good therian stuff that I like to send to my wife! She got that dog in her so she loves to see your posts :3)

"when X trans group does this harmless thing it's cool and good and Praxis but when Y trans group does it it's cringe and bigoted and evil :( "

congratulations, you just reinvented the gender binary! should we all clap? should we hire a clown? should we tell the feds how you played right into their hands? should we all watch our trans ancestors roll over in their graves together?

if these people put half the energy they pour into discourse into something productive, like... calling their representatives, or putting up fliers, or volunteering for queer youth groups... the world would be a much better place. I'd much rather have a good cis ally than someone who's willing to exclude other queer people to keep him out.

Alright. I'm going to vague about some discourse I've been seeing because I don't want to argue with people. But I have to get this off my chest bc this is pissing me off.

Hey, asshole. Instead of being "frightened" that people (TRANS PEOPLE) don't like your take that cishet men should be excluded from queer friendly spaces, maybe take a second to think about why.

Maybe talk to cis black butch women who are often perceived as men and you'll understand why.

Maybe talk to trans women who don't pass/ can't pass and you'll understand why.

Maybe talk to trans men who do pass and you'll understand why.

Maybe talk to genderfluid people who present masc sometimes and you'll understand why.

It's not that we are obsessed with cishet men. It's that there is no workable solution to exclude people from queer spaces based on identity without also harming the above named populations. You can yap all day about excluding the cishet men from our spaces, but the question remains: how are you going to enforce that policy? If you talked to us, you'd understand that there is no way to enforce it without either interrogating us, excluding us, or both. And that should upset you.

Can you please spend energy caring about something that could actually bring good to the queer community???

chicken jockey being the last possible 4chan post is fucking hilarious but there's so many amounts of comedic irony to it.

it's like a tyrant dying from falling over a medium sized brick wall. humiliating end.

trans unity

I hope this isn’t rude, but can I add on to this?

Anon, I’m so fucking sorry that you’re dealing with this shit both online and offline. I can’t say much for what you’re going through at home- just know that it will pass, and one day you will be free of the people who are hurting you right now. It’s not your responsibility to educate them or justify your own existence; please just focus on keeping yourself safe and finding joy and gender euphoria where you can get it.

Online, we are obviously having a transandrophobia problem. It is rampant right now, yes, but the majority of the community does not hate trans men or transmascs. The hate I see all comes from a very vitriolic, hateful, and regrettably LOUD group of people. But this group is small. It may seem like they’re everywhere and everybody agrees with them, but nothing could be further from the truth. Hateful, angry people are more likely to leave comments and rude reblogs than the ones who sympathize, and this can make it seem like they outnumber those who care.

Most people are ignorant, not malicious. I’ve found that if you diplomatically and frankly describe what’s going on and what you’ve been through, they are usually understanding. Most trans people care more about solidarity than nitpicking or denying transmasc oppression. The invisibility of your community just means they usually need to be reminded that you’re here and you’re hurting too.

The ones that react poorly simply aren’t worth your time. My advice would be to block literally everyone who’s pissing on the concept of transandrophobia. Block ANYONE who gives you the slightest hint of negativity. And if this discourse is hurting you, you do not have to participate. The burden of defending the entire community should not fall on your shoulders, especially if you’re dealing with enough bullshit at home. Don’t feel obligated to speak to people who have dedicated their lives to misunderstanding you.

Curate your dash and fill it with good people and trans positivity. Unfollow anyone who’s putting upsetting shit on your dash, even if they’re on the same “side.” Much of your Tumblr experience is what you make it, and I think a lot of people on here would benefit from using it as place to find solidarity.

I’m honestly so exhausted. I want to keep fighting, because I know the trans community is worth fighting for, but being on tumblr doesn’t feel like the place for that anymore. I already have to face transandrophobia every single day from my mum, and coming onto tumblr just for people to tell me it isn’t real when I’m dealing with the very physical and mental affects of having my body controlled and harassed to ensure it remains “female” is making me want to scream. I know it’s real. I know it happens. I know how violent it is. How dare people try to tell me that what I’m dealing with is just me being in the wrong place at the wrong time, that the violent misogyny and transphobia is really just meant for other people, rather than a targeted attack against me being a trans man. I know that me being a trans man is the reason my mum treats me like this. She says she loves all women, trans and cis alike, but not men. Not me. She hates trans men. She calls them traitors, and confused, and weird. Right in front of my face. I know it’s targeted.

I feel like deleting my tumblr, but I’m all on my own and I don’t have a community to reach out to. Besides, I don’t wanna just be another statistic. Another trans person ran off the site that no one cares about, because it was the community that did it this time. I don’t get why people hate us. We’re all dealing with the same shit, but I just wanna talk about the stuff that’s specific to ME and MY life.

Idk man, I’m sorry for venting in your inbox. I’m just feeling hopeless right now. The trans community already has so few people in our corner anyway, so being a trans man feels like it’s just me and other trans guys against the world, except when those trans guys also decide to turn on us and call us theyfab trenders for not passing correctly. I’m fucking tired. We deserve better than this.

its us trans guys and our allies against the world ✊😔