Ever Since I Found Out That Replies From Blogs You've Blocked Don't Show, I've Had The Happiest Time

so is this your girl???

THEY'RE BACK. AND NOW THEY'RE COLORFUL

no but seriously look at this ad

Oh, my!!!

Question to everyone but especially US Americans: do you guys have a problem with love?

watching TV shows it seems like two people are essentially a couple. they're kissing, they're fucking, they care about each other, they go on dates, etc. But they never say "I love you", they never officialize a relationship, they never put a ring on their fingers - unless they're literally getting married, which kinda seems to come out of nowhere to me, like they're missing important steps in the relationship? First you establish how you feel ("I love you"), then you start Officially Dating (being each other's boyfriend/girlfriend/partner), have a ring on their fingers, *then* it's appropriate to ask if they wanna marry you (and subsequently get married).

But it seems like it's quite normal to be acting like they're together for months or years, never defining anything with words, and it's CLEAR that they both love each other. and then suddenly one day they're like "i can't imagine my life without you (I've noticed they often don't even say "I love you" at this fucking point???? but sometimes they do), will you marry me?" and finally offering a fucking ring.

like. is it just a dumb TV show thing? or is it normal irl as well, to simply not have a logical progression, and just assume the other person loves you back without ever having them say that to you or you to them, in order to ask them to marry you? idk

in my country it's very normal to be like "casually dating" someone (exclusively! bc it's different if you're both just "seeing people") like these TV shows show, for a while (usually 1-3 months, seldom more than 6 bc that would be considered leading someone on), until you both decide you have strong feelings for each other and want to officialize a relationship. at which point it's expected you'll both start wearing rings (simple bands, often silver, on the right hand) to show your commitment. at this point, you have already said I Love You to each other - if you spend 6 months with someone and those words haven't been said yet, either you're both just hanging out with no intention of getting in a relationship ever, or someone's being led on.

like I'm just confused. I've seen this happen in a bunch of different shows. the participants are all grown adults, so it's not like they're teenagers fumbling their first love (hey, it happens to the best of us). it's shown like the normal thing. what the fuck sometimes they're even cohabiting, how do you live with someone you kiss and fuck and love without telling them you love them??? mindblowing

please tell me it's just a TV show thing. thank you

HAPPY BIRTHDAY KATNISS EVERDEEN

tshirt that says "IF U ASK ME ABOUT MY CAREER I WILL KILL MYSELF IN FRONT OF U"

When it comes to things that are unfortunately true, but are mainly repeated by people who either took it out of context or themselves never even understood what the thing they're saying is supposed to actually mean, there's "life's not fair." People who like saying it like it because it is true, but when they say it, they mean "life is full of stupid, shitty things that should not exist, and unfortunately for you, I am one of them."

But what it really means is that reality does not give a shit about what you think would be fair. Your opinions of how the world should work have no influence on how the world actually works any more than anyone else's do. You have to take the tools that you have available and put them into work yourself, and if you don't, someone else will. And a lot of the time, the world works the way it does because someone else has, and the tools they were given were better than yours were. That doesn't mean that their idea of justice would be better than yours, or that they were more justified.

You have all the right to think "it is not fair that things are the way they are, they should be some other way." And everyone else has the right to think so as well, and many of they will think the things should be different in a completely opposite way from what you do. The matter is, this alone changes nothing. Your thoughts and ideas alone will never be so noble and correct that the world will move to be in accordance to them. You cannot move the physical world with the power of your mind, you have to move your hands to change it.

And sometimes, there are things that will never move. You will have to go around them, even if you don't like it, and even if you don't want to. It isn't enough to be right, and believe that other people have the moral duty to change their minds to be in accordance to yours, you will still have to find a way to convince them. And you won't make yourself heard if you make yourself unpleasant to listen to. People will block you and ignore you, and will continue to do and think whatever they think they should do, and what is right and just.

Nobody moves the world with the power of their mind. Your mind can only move your hands, and the world is moved by the hands of people working together. And regardless of whether your idea of what should be right is achievable at all, just crossing your arms and going "I shouldn't have to do X, other people should just do Y on their own" and sulking until the world makes that happen is going to achieve absolutely nothing.

at the airport rn and there's the cutest twin little girls running about with the cutest crochet-top-fabric-skirt red dresses ever.