Shoutout To The Headmate Who Does Things That Their Headmates Can’t Do Anymore In Their Place Because

chronic hyper vigilance is ah yes, i have my survival mode. and then i have my SURVIVAL MODE.

"I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy" nah fuck that I would. Actually if I could choose to have any superpower, I'd want the power to make people feel whatever I've felt at any point of my life, at my choice. Someone mildly inconveniences me, I'm letting them have 30 minutes of being five years old and trying to learn how to cry silently because you know nobody's coming to help you and if someone hears you, they're coming to make it worse. Fuck you and your eyebrows.

my dumbass read that as leek and now all i can think of is this stupid fucking meme

plural joy is doing something nice for your headmate and feeling their smile leak across onto your face

Sometimes when somebody makes me food they have to take a break cause I infect them with my "!!!! :D :D :D !!! :D" hehehe

Syscourse Speedrun

- Endogenic means a system formed for reasons not correlated to trauma

- Endogenic does NOT mean a complete lack of trauma in an individual

- Endogenics, Pro-Endos and adjacent fundamentally view systemhood differently and outside of solely disordered experiences

That said...

- Complex Dissociative Disorders (DID/OSDD/Etc) have well known and studied ties to trauma, with complexity rising from prolonged and severe cases.

- Trauma is not part of diagnostic criteria to include those who cannot remember their trauma due to dissociation. Not because it isn't an important or known factor.

- Integration =/= Fusion, Integration is the lessening of dissociative barriers and a systems ability to function together. Fusion is the merging of parts.

- Final fusion and functional multiplicity are both viable end goals and up to the systems desires and needs. Integration is required for both of these.

- People are allowed to be affected positively AND negatively by their disorders and life experiences.

- People are also allowed to view their disorders in whatever way they desire

- It is not your job to police people because you think what they're doing is harmful for them.

- It is also not your job to tell people they have trauma that they just don't know about.

- Dissociation is a spectrum.

- Other disorders experience dissociative parts with less elaboration like those with DID/OSDD/Etc

- Westernized Tulpamancy and Tulpas as known today are not directly related to Tibetan Buddist Nirmanakaya or Sprul-pa. Westernized Tulpamancy comes from 20th century mystic explorers, who developed these ideas mostly independently.

- Vajrayana and Mahayana Buddhism are open and inclusive religions anyway, but what Tulpamancers practice is very different.

- There is a conversation to be had about the suppression of religious freedom that has affected Tibetan Buddhism, but it's still not a closed practice.

- Something here about Theosophy in relation to Westernized Tulpamancy

- Plural is not solely synonymous with system, and not everyone who identifies as plural is a system.

- Not every system will identify as plural either.

- The term plural has ties to other non-system communities such as alterhumanity.

- Plural is an inherently inclusive term.

- People are allowed to be wrong about their origins in whatever potential way.

- Being wrong is not equivalent to faking.

- Origins are self applied labels and tell you very little about a person and their system

- Origins can and often do overlap.

- Endogenic origins does not mean a system cannot be diagnosed and meet criteria for a CDD.

- People are allowed to view and label their parts in whatever way is best for them.

- System accountability is important. You are one tangible entity and you take responsibility for the things that occur because of your system.

- Discourse stances do not make a person or space inherently safer or more dangerous.

- People's actions speak louder than labels, and anyone can be a horrible person.

- Its up to a system to determine their own boundaries and needs.

- You don't need to argue if your boundaries differ from someone else's; enforce your own.

- Block people and topics that make you uncomfortable and especially if they're potentially triggering.

- Genuinely, please just learn to be friends with the block button.

- Harassment is bad no matter who you are.

- Yes it's still bad if you disagree with someone or think they're in the wrong.

- Criticism is not harassment.

- Even if you don't intent to change your mind, facilitating genuine conversation with people instead of assuming things about them or their experiences will contribute to a better interaction for both sides.

- Ableism is bad.

- Stop using things like delusional as Insults or treating people with ficticious disorder poorly.

- Stop treating mentally ill adults as inherently incapable of functioning or dictating things for themselves.

- Sanism is Also bad.

- Fake claiming is bad.

- Stop insinuating that pro-endos (and adjacent) aren't traumatized, aren't systems or can't have CDDs.

- Yes, again, fake claiming is bad even if you don't like or disagree with someone.

- Stop saying its "so easy" to tell who fakers are.

- The psychiatric and mental health systems are full of flaws.

- Diagnosis is a privilege for some and isn't for others.

- Some people may not want or desire a diagnosis for many reasons. This does not make their problems any less than.

- Being medically recognized is just as valid as having a diagnosis.

- Yes, therapists can diagnose people with things. A title does not equal credentials.

- If a therapist cannot diagnose you due to their credentials or other factors but suspects something, they will refer you to another professional who can for evaluation.

- Some therapists will choose of their own volition not to diagnose patients for varying reasons.

- Self diagnosis and self suspecting isn't a bad thing. Research is always encouraged for accuracy of what you suspect.

- The resources people find through self diagnosis even if not the right thing to suspect can be helpful for someone's situation.

- Reiterating here again that being wrong isn't faking, and that being wrong isn't a bad thing.

- Being able to help yourself cope is a good thing.

- Recognizing your symptoms if you intend to speak to a professional is also a good thing.

People are all different, be kind.

If you have questions I'm glad to talk, if you are aggressive or just trying to start something, you will be blocked :)

BOO……. Haha got you

the horrors.............

past us: “im genuinely so glad we aren’t finding more fictives or just new alters in general! we must’ve finally found a headcount that’s able to handle our daily life and struggles!”

..so about that. -blurry

suppressed memories are so confusing because like you go your entire life not knowing that anything similar to that situation ever existed but one day it just clicks and it’s just there now?? like HUH?

cw: medical shit , flashback mentions

nah i fucking hate going to the doctors because when they even slightly touch me every part of me screams to bolt like please stop touching me im 5 seconds away from having a panic attack 😭😭

as an alter human deer alter we can confirm this is true

plural system who keeps splitting into more deer alters: I feel like a million bucks

We've come out to roughly three parties about our plurality in which we were in a covert space. 1. Our immediate family. They didn't take it too well- Well, they kind of did. It's just that they didn't really understand and made several hurtful remarks and eventually straight-out claimed that we were faking. So, I think either way it probably would've turned out like this, due to the nature of my family, but to perhaps recommend more research on plurality (EVEN MORE. We still recommended them but it was less direct), might've changed that outcome. 2. One of our closer online friends-- They brushed us off. I have to admit, the one who came out about it was extremely rushed about it, and it was definitely a mistake on our part. We eventually grew apart. I believe if we had more experience in that department could explain more thoroughly, it probably could've turned out different. 3. One of our real life friends- This one was recent, as you saw us yapping about it. It went very well. We took a moment aside to explain our situation, and they asked questions and we answered them. They also said they'd do some research on their own time? (What did I do to deserve you........) Overall, for those who wish to come out to others, it's very important to be completely open to questions, suggest research in their time if they wish to learn more, explain clearly and directly about what it is (especially since a lot of people may be completely unaware of its nature other than the typical stereotypes), so making sure to knock those out of the park are very important. - blurry

question 77: if you've ever come out to anyone as plural, how did you go about it? is there anything you'd change about how you did it? do you have any advice for others looking to do the same?