My Fellow Narcissists (people Who Have NPD) Are One Of The Most Loyal, Resilient, And Straightforward

Sending good vibes to all my cluster B pals 💕

Me: ah yes it’s nice to be in a part of the internet where I can let my guard down and show my true—

My brain: impress the other narcissists

Me: what?

My brain: you have to impress them

BPD culture is I know everyone leaves eventually. I can't get mad at people for saying they're not going to leave me, they don't know they're lying yet. It's a lie they won't know they're telling until they're already half way out the door. I know how it goes. I can't expect anything else.

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shoutout to everyone with forget disorders (adhd, DID/osdd, ptsd/c-ptsd, asd, dementia/alzeheimers, schizophrenia, other psychotic disorders, major depressive, chronically ill/phys disabled people with brain fog, people with long-Covid, natural memory degradation, and etc.)

"my ex was a narcissist!" and it's just a random dude who can't take accountability because patriarchy

Fake claiming is wrong even if:

(Tw: post mentions RAMCOA, CSA, abuse, medical neglect and abelism)

- you’ve been diagnosed your whole life

- you’ve been researching your whole life

- they don’t fit the DSM criteria exactly

- they are undiagnosed

- they are a minor

- they have a large system at a young age

- they don’t feel safe getting diagnosed

- they don’t talk about being a system

- they talk a lot about being a system

- they’re fictive heavy

- they’re factive heavy

- their host is a fictive

- they remember most of their days but not their trauma

- they don’t remember anything

- they remember day to day life but don’t remember trauma

- are happy as a system

- are unhappy as a system

- they do not have daily flashbacks

- they have “weird” triggers

- they are open about being triggered

- they don’t say when triggered

- they are still learning about their system

- they have subsystems

- they are a RAMCOA survivor

- they are a victim of CSA

- they are frequently re-traumatised by their own thoughts

- they are neurodivergent

- they are not on medication

- they ARE on medication

- they were not abused daily

- they were abused daily

- they went through and are vocal about their biggest trauma being medical neglect

- they call out fake claiming as what it is, abelism

Fake claiming is and always has been wrong no matter what the “justification”

Nadia from The Circus Tent System

people with personality disorders: it was difficult to survive on the ground, so i climbed in a tree and now im stuck and can’t get down

mental health workers (and everyone really): it seems that they climbed in trees to manipulate us. they are fully capable of getting down but doing so would make it harder to abuse us, so they stay there

NPD (+ bpd?) culture is loving the idea of being hated by someone only to get upset when it really happens because you're sensitive

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Unpopular opinion: It doesn’t matter how much study you do. You will never know more about the experiences of a disorder than the person living with it does.

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.