Taught To Diminish Ourselves As Little Girls, Taught To Diminish Ourselves As Trans People, When Will

Please stop forgetting nonbinary people!

Theyfab isn't a transmasc-specific slur. It's always been used against any nonbinary person assumed to be AFAB.

Though the AGAB of nonbinary people is nobody's business in the first place, it bears repeating that not every AFAB nonbinary person is transmasculine, just as not every AMAB nonbinary person is transfeminine.

These bigots aren't just transphobic towards trans men/mascs, they're exorsexist as well. We'll be stronger if we stick up for each other and push back against them together!

Aside from the compulsion to claim historical trans men as women for feminist history, I've also noticed attempts to neutralize trans men into non binary figures.

Of course, language surrounding non binary identities in the western world is relatively new, so someone from the 1800s might have had some long winded way of saying they were non binary.

But take the case of Megillus from Lucien's writings in Ancient Greece, who will say "I am entirely a man" and still have people being like, oh they're just a confused little girl product of restricted language. There is no way they really mean it when they say explicitly they are 100% a man. Obvious example of non-binary identity.

Obviously non binary people deserve to see themselves in history, but like...c'mon...

Just something I've noticed in my research into trans men of the past

trans men who talk about how much ~male privilege~ they have are fucking class traitors lmao. like congrats on your extremely fucking conditional shield from violence but a lot of us don't pass like that and even if we do we're still at risk of violence if anyone figures out we aren't actually what cis society considers "real men". stop throwing other trans men under the bus just because You Specifically have managed not to be clockable in cis society, lol.

5.) If your Tumblr feed is more queer focused then you will see forcefemme content everywhere with multiple dedicated blogs pushing their kink content onto otherwise SFW posts, which,

A.) is not very consensual of them when I was under the impression that even force femme ought to involve consent in the same way that CNC is CONSENSUAL non-consent and not just sexual assault for funsies

B.) if trans mascs started doing the above with trans masc we would be fucking DOGPILED

I can't take the whole discourse around people going "forcefem is better than forcemasc because it's subversive! People who like forced masculinization are just STEALING from forcefem!" seriously because of these 4 points:

1. Forcefem started with cis men who enjoy being feminized as a from of humiliation, and they make up the majority of practitioners today. Yes, it's also really important to the transfem kink community and it brings many people gender euphoria, so that's great! But... you really can't steal a kink. There's no kink plagiarism. You're not getting kicked out of Kink University for enjoying similar themes.

2. It's not your business what other trans adults do in the bedroom/kink spaces. What causes dysphoria for you might make someone else euphoric. Don't yuck my yum or whatever. Just block the tag if you don't like it, we're all grownups here. I have both tags blocked bc they make me dysphoric, but you don't see me throwing a tantrum about it.

3. Imagine doing this with any other kink.

"Spanking is better than waxplay because it's subversive! You candle-lovers are doing painplay all wrong!"

"Bondage with handcuffs is way better than bondage with ropes, because when you use handcuffs you're RECLAIMING that from cops! Rope bunnies are just coping because their kink doesn't mean anything!"

4. The people who spend all their time arguing online about kink discourse probably aren't getting laid, anyway.

So it's really not as pertinent to their lives as they think it is.

Genuinely, there is nothing wrong with a trans guy headcanoning a female character as a trans man. We’re allowed to have our headcanons and see ourselves in our favourite characters. It is not misogynistic and it is not erasing women. That is the exact argument that TERFs use about real life trans men taking away real life women or lesbians or whatever it is they’ve been fearmongering about, so don’t start spreading that shit around fandom spaces like it’s progressive.

This doesn’t just happen in fandoms either, we literally never get to claim anyone as a trans man. Every time there’s historical evidence of trans men existing, we have to always assume that maybe they were actually a woman who was just “escaping” the patriarchy because god forbid we ever point out that they were most likely a trans man. If we do, then we get pushback over “erasing their womanhood” but what about their transness? Why are you allowed to erase their transness in the name of feminism? I agree that female historical figures deserve more recognition, but not at the expense of taking historical figures away from us. We can have both. We should have both, because both are marginalised people who deserve representation. We’re not taking anything away from you, so why the fuck should you be able to take representation away from us.

Trans male headcanons are not anti-feminist. They’re not erasing a woman to make way for a man. They’re representation that a marginalised group of people deserve to have, because we already have so little in the first place. Why are you physically incapable of viewing trans men as different to cis men when it comes to our experiences with oppression.

yknow whats funny though

i never quite connected with mulan growing up

i always connected more to ariel... which i mean she is kinda more of a story of transition now that i think about it

she has dysmorophia/dysphoria(?) over not having human legs and being a human, she even collects things of humans so she can pretend to be one, and once shes been outed to triton he tries to destroy her connection to things that bring her euphoria

and then when she finally does "transition" to be a human, shes robbed of her voice, basically becoming almost invisible to the people she does care about

i think ariels story is definitely one that a lot of trans men/mascs could relate to, and i know i sure did

Me: *sees a good anti-jkr post pointing out that its still fucked up to interact with the fandom*

Me: yeah I agree it's not great and it signals to--

Post: Also I noticed it's mostly transmascs ://// I don't think there's even a single trans woman in the fandom :///// that says a lot ://////

Me:

Me: ah, you're not actually here for the discussion about jkr's hate and how it harms the community. You're just here to shit on trans guys. Damnit.

what the fuck

"Transmascs are 3 months away from becoming detrans terfs" and then all the posts about transmascs are "kill yourselves" and "transmascs are disgusting evil wannabe privileged males and they should all die" and "masculinity is disgusting and anyone who isn't a feminine person is not welcome in the community". I wonder why transmascs detransition btw. I wonder why it's so easy to radicalize a group of people who gets shit from their own community and also has to deal with transphobia from the real life world along with SAAB based oppression. One can only wonder.

> See another Fuck Trans Guys Specifically post

> OP going on about how REAL trans men SHOULD act and how transmascs who speak on their oppression should be hunted for sport, transmascs are too visible their audacity etc

> Open OP’s blog

> Cis

Yeah this is normal ❤️ This is a normal attitude for a cis person to have towards transgender people. Y’all are super normal 😀❤️