Pronouns are legos, and I'm a caffeinated 12 year old.
pronouns don't mean gender and it should not be the base assumption that they do. send post
I should preface by saying that my mother isn't actively (nor passively) homophobic or transphobic (or in my case, biphobic) in any real way.
But there have been exceptions.
When I was around 14, I said to her I thought I was bi, and effectively got "it's probably just a phase, you're too young to decide that sort of thing". This was after I had already gotten quite frisky with another boy in my year, mind you, and as someone AMAB, this has to be queer in some sort of way. But at the time I wasn't sure why it bothered me as much as it did.
I have since, and in part thanks to the queers and allies on this platform, realised two reasons it bothers me.
One: Even if it is a phase or temporary, it does not invalidate whatever your sexuality is. You are allowed to change over time, and if that includes who you're attracted to, that's fine. I had long thought "maybe I was wrong", but I had never thought "maybe it doesn't matter". I have since had complete confirmation that she's changed her mind somewhat on this issue, as she herself has admitted she feels she's currently asexual, despite previously having been heterosexual.
Two, as OPs post describes: As much as she said "I'd be fine with it if you're gay", this was very much on the assumption that by default I was straight. When I was young, heterosexuality (such as my first girlfriend) was simply accepted as "the way things are", and anything else was merely a hypothetical, or assumed unlikely. It was rarely ever, by anyone, considered as real that I might be queer until I said I felt that way. And the first time I brought it up to an adult (never my peers, thankfully), it was just
"You're too young to decide"
And that's why it bothered me so long. It was a tiny thing really, but from the person I'd relied on most for my entire life, it hurt. I don't think she thought anything of it, nor do I believe she had any ill intent or secretly dislikes gay people, but I think that most people, and even some queers, do not take young people seriously, and still assume heterosexuality to be a default.
I imagine all these thoughts have almost certainly been iterated better than I have put it, and I recognise this is really a minor thing, and not some major instance of homophobia. I'm lucky to have been brought up in an area that didn't give me much trouble for being queer.
Sorry for the very long text post, it's just my two cents. Feel free to tell me if I'm wrong or you disagree about stuff, I don't usually talk about this type of thing.
I like how teens are too young to figure out their sexuality unless its heterosexual
My eyes have always been good so idk what I expected
How well do you see color?
I’m cry I scored 60, I feel blind
3ds hungry feed it ten million pirated games
Was at christmas dinner and my aunt is talking about some French celebrity I don't know about because I don't live here and just says "I was fine with her until she turned out muslim" and i genuinely was unable to speak for several minutes because it came completely out of nowhere. Just silently sat like
and my whole family just kept talking like nothing happened wtf.
This mf really got the perfect name for their job
Source (I was looking this up cause I realised I had had both in quick succession numerous times, and was curious):
I'm locked out of my house
No-one:
My 2am suicidal thoughts: Give up, Wah-ha!
From now on, all of my intrusive thoughts will be voiced by Waluigi.
I am a human I swear / 18 / Pan / Any pronouns / I do not post much
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