Social Variants' Blind Spots Explained

*planet explodes* *removes one earbud* what

- 8w9s are take a more diplomatic “take you under my wing” approach to control. they are more likely to want to control their intimates on an interpersonal level and are more into maintaining than pushing outward. despite their more gentle demeanor (externally at least) the 8w9 is often more intrusive than the 8w7 in this way and is intent on keeping his post as the head of whichever organization/group he is overseeing. - 8w7s on the other hand are more openly aggressive, but they are less into/don’t really care about interpersonal control. if the 8w9 is the Patriarch maintaining his realm, the 8w7 is the conqueror, expanding outward and trying to grow his territory. as such, the interpersonal control of the 8w7 is more limited to “you there! do this for me!” after which point they really won’t think of you because their desire for power is turned more towards tangible ambition, such as financial success, personal/career goals, skills acquisition or resource acquisition. - 7w8 is the bad boy of the enneagram. the 8 wing gives them a more visceral feel, more drive, more focus, and more ability to stomach the unpleasant aspects of pursuing their goals. 7w8s are impulsive, action oriented people and are usually more thrill seeking and competitive than their 7w6 cousins. 7w8s like to play rough and often enjoy pranks or practical jokes that cause the “victim” a little bit of pain. overall, the 7w8 has an energy like a race car, zooming toward the object of it’s desire. Examples: Jack Nicholson, Joan Rivers, Steve Jobs, Scarlett O'Hara 7w6: for comparison, 7w6 is typically more imaginative, fantastical and has an energy more like a fox (7w8 typically comes off more like a wolf, hyena or chimpanzee). they typically have a slightly nervous energy about them and a more childlike charm to their personalities. being 7s, they are still core assertive types (3, 7 and 8), but the 6 wing softens 7’s narcissistic tendencies (in contrast to the 8 wing, which magnifies them), adds a touch of caution and often results in a stronger tendency to second guess oneself. 

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Why do we love the people that rejects us and reject the people that loves us?

That dreadful moment when the conversation switches from logical and rational subjects to emotional subjects

10 things ENTPs want you to know about them (us):

1. We are sense makers. We try and make sense of things. We do this all the time and we do it by making connections between bits and pieces of information relating to things we saw, heard, read, etc. that we most have at our disposal.

2. We understand that the world is complex, people are complex, their problems are complex, their feelings are complex, and their ideas are certainly complex. We work very hard to break down those complexities into something that is easier for us to understand and explain to others. Unfortunately, sometimes it comes off as obnoxious.

3. We can be very social and outgoing, however, underneath that friendly exterior is an often misunderstood (not so much MIS-understood more like NOT understood) person longing to find someone who sees through (transparently through) us and realizes that we too are complex (very complex).

4. We try and make the world a better place by concocting big ideas. Nothing makes us happier than sharing those ideas with others (many, few, or just one person).

5. We see potential in lots and lots of things (not everything, but lots) and can sometimes get lost by all the paths we could follow. Making us commit to one path or another, whether a relationship, a career, a place to live, is NOT easy. It takes a special person, job, location, for us to close the door on all other possibilities. We just might, in due time.

6. Just because we are thinkers doesn’t mean we don’t have feelings. We do. Lots of them. But, most times, those feelings are pushed aside. We push them aside. For us to actually delve into our own feelings and deal with them is to enter a world we are mostly unaware of (and unfamiliar with). It can be a bit scary for us.

7. To further the previous point, unlike our own feelings, we are somewhat insightful about other people’s feelings (at least more than our own). As thinkers, we tend to dissect, analyze, and communicate our thoughts about those feelings from a logical standpoint.

8. Because of our ability to see lots of different perspectives, we are fairly good at interacting with different kinds of people including children. We can intuitively understand children particularly if we can adapt ourselves to their way of seeing things. (Disclaimer: I myself am not a parent; any input by parents would be appreciated.)

9. We have big hearts, but… we are protective of them because we know the consequences of being vulnerable. So for us to commit and open up to someone means that we fully trust that person and believe that he or she will not hurt us. If they do hurt us, it means to us that our intuition was wrong. It would be very hard if not impossible to regain that trust again.

10. MBTI is a really insightful tool for ENTPs because it helps us make sense of things we otherwise might not have understood. It helps us relate to INFJs who are otherwise a big (huge) mystery to us. But also people in our everyday lives (especially those we otherwise butt heads with). Once discovering MBTI, we probably got really (really) excited and ran around telling everyone we know about it, explaining all the conceptual nuances of it, typing people and explaining to them how this theory plays out in their lives. After all, we’re just trying to help them out. Let’s just hope they thought so too

NTs: I'm having feelings again. Like some kind of fourteen year old kid. You remember feelings, right?

Person: Yeah, I have feelings every single day of my life.

NTs: Do you?

Person: Are you saying you don’t have feelings?

MY LIFE

The types in highschool

The bullies: estp, estj, entj

The don't care squad: intp, entp, istp

The just wants to be liked squad: infj, esfp, esfj, enfp, infp, isfj, enfj

The too school for cool squad: istj, isfp, intj

*crushes my emotions with my bare hands* as I was saying,

there are four types of people:

neon signs, biting your lip, adrenalin, late night talks, vintage vinyls, raspberries

journals and stationery, whispers, feeling sleepy, browsing wikipedia for 2 hours, streets in foreign cities, sculptures

daisies, the sound of laughter, pressed flowers, genuine compliments, oversized sweaters

marble, sarcasm, old books, lightning, skyscrapers, crystals, proving them wrong