Weird Noises: Happen In The Wee Hours

Hospitals are full of people having the worst day of their lives, the best day of their lives, the last day of their lives, and the first day of their lives.

Enneagram eyes

I’ve seen this kind of observational post done for functions and MBTI types, but not for Enneagram I don’t think?? Disclaimer: based off personal observation.

Feel free to contribute :)

One: (Note: I don’t know many of this type) Least relaxed, gaze can become fixated on one thing in the environment esp. when talking/trying to explain something, bright, slightly strained.

Two: Expressive, attentive, anticipating, reactive, open (but can also look very closed-off if unhealthy - focus overwhelmingly on the other person); often cheerful, ‘alight’.

Three: (Note: I don’t know many of this type) Level, straightforward, superficially expressive, confident, shiny, can look very inexpressive/serious when not interacting with people.

Four: Tired, often compassionate, self-absorbed, self-deprecating, can look cynical; soft, starry, ‘piercing’ but in that you are drawn to look into their eyes not necessarily that they’re invading your soul.

Five: Quiet but not absent, observing, piercing, detached but only purposely, from withholding (compared to 9’s typical ‘floatiness’), direct-facing but not so challenging (as 8) more matter of fact.

Six: Searching and responsive, like they’re waiting for you/the world to make the first move; petitioning, checking, may make a lot of sideways glances in person and in photos.

Seven: Lively, outwardly-focused, often flitting between things in the environment (more so if Ne, more acting-on if Se). When they make direct eye contact and speak, you may feel like they’re using you as an anchor as they run along with their thoughts.

Eight: Very outwardly-focused, intense, direct and challenging like laser beams are coming from their eyes; can look cold, kind of lizard-like but if warm, purposeful.

Nine: Relaxed around eyes, not showing much strong emotion, staring into the distance slightly glazed over, eye contact can be genuine but generally doesn’t emphasise strong ‘alliances’ as such; can look enigmatic.

“She has a charming nature; rather whimsical, and even sensual.”

— Virginia Woolf, from a letter to Vanessa Bell written c. July 1910 (via violentwavesofemotion)

Stop being tormented by everyone else’s reaction to you.

Joyce Meyer (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

TBH ENTP #119

basically shower thoughts 24/7

A collection of So-blind descriptions

Here are some theory-grounded descriptions of So-blindness that we relate to:

“ Soc blind spot 

It’s hard to concern self with another’s agenda. Don’t want to deal with ‘their stuff’ 

Dismissive

Cynicism around idealism—connecting socially will cost me something. Interactions are draining

Fear of being emotionally crippled

Can’t connect with people

You’re ‘broken’

A self-knowledge of being ungracious

It’s hard to take in the gifts and generosity of others

One doesn’t let oneself try to interact or find out

Projected fear - if I ignore others, they will ignore me

There’s an expectation of humiliation

A desire not to impose self on people in fear of not being wanted, or being klutzy

And you can’t repair the social blind spot in isolation. You need others. Ask for help ” 

“ So blind spot 

Neglect of social groups, detrimental withdrawing tendency or socially antagonistic streak, overemphasis on self or a partnership, lack or altruism, overindulgence, preference of a private setting, pessimism

Self-importance

Obsession/addiction, impoliteness, unrealistic views, misanthropy (!)

Snarky, desperate lone wolf. (You and) me against the world

Hatred for social gatherings

Rejecting everyone but expecting help/ pitying oneself when all hell breaks loose

Clingy

Assuming everyone´s out there to get them

Isolating self-image from societal context

Too rebellious for their own good ” 

“ More on SO blind spot 

When the social instinct is least developed, the individual [finds] it difficult to see why it is important to form social connections or to cultivate multiple relationships

This [leads to] a certain amount of social isolation

And, as we all must find a niche in the larger whole, those whose social instinct is least developed, can find it difficult to negotiate the needs of the social realm which make this possible

[They] find interdependence difficult and dependence on others barely tolerable

But all human beings are interdependent, and sometimes, dependent [for instance when they are] young, weak, sick, old, or dying

Those whose social instinct remains undeveloped are trying to attain a type of independence and self-sufficiency which is not possible for human beings

This ‘false independence’ almost certainly leads to unnecessary suffering and impoverishment of experience ” 

From these three descriptions it can be seen that the most negative aspects of So-blindness is not necessarily how one comes off to others (as in rudeness or creating an anti-social image, though that may be a by-product), but rather the problem that is created for the so-blind themselves when they over-isolate and try to be impossibly independent. These are key qualities of So-blindness, the rest is up to how the individual manages those qualities.

So apparently I’m really, REALLY bad at reading ENFPs…

INTP’s Functions

Ti: The logical overlord who loves defining things, understanding things, order and obtaining random knowledge

Ne: The crazy advisor who loves ridiculous possibilities, finding patterns, new projects and fantasy

Si: The nostalgic librarian who loves recording Ti’s random knowledge ‘because it might be needed one day’, rereading old books and thinking back on ‘the good old days’

Fe: The lonely child who loves fitting in, helping people and messing about with paint to express its emotions

anyone else in love?

The types in highschool

The bullies: estp, estj, entj

The don't care squad: intp, entp, istp

The just wants to be liked squad: infj, esfp, esfj, enfp, infp, isfj, enfj

The too school for cool squad: istj, isfp, intj