5 Easy Steps For Being More Submissive In A Relationship:

“These are all BDSM memes that I have seen, and our daily life doesn’t overlap with any of that.” We have been around the block a few times, and our lives don’t look like the memes either. And when we have conventional sex it doesn’t look like a porno. I like the Internet and media but it can screw with expectations. Would you recommend chastity to others?

This is a great question. I don’t know if I would “recommend” it any more than I would recommend buying handcuffs or blindfolds… which means no, I guess I wouldn’t. Both Tom and I are fortunate that this appeals to the both of us, but it’s obviously not for everybody. So, if one of my friends mentioned that her love life was getting dull, I probably wouldn’t suggest this.

However, if one of my friends happened to mention that her husband wanted to try it, well, then I might try to see how interested she is before saying something. I have no idea what I would say, maybe something like “Tom and I tried that, and it was a lot of fun.”

I have a hard time imagining these situations beci know that most of my friends are more straight laced about this than I am. 😅

Your ass is your most important feature. Make sure it’s a good one

Why Chastity?

Before listing some key reasons, let’s emphasize that chastity encompasses more than just caging a penis. Submissive men with great self-control can be perfectly chaste through obedience alone, a very impressive feat. Dominant men may also prefer a sub with an unusually small penis to have it fully visible. So with both options (caging and pure obedience) in mind, here goes:

Ownership: It reflects someone’s ownership over your body. He decides when it’s right for you to climax. Your orgasms are secondary. It is about the fact that you have ceded control over them to the man who owns your body. He can decide to have you beat off on a whim, or deny it for discipline.

Arousal: Chastity will make you unusually horny. Being unable to release that sexual tension makes you sexually charged. Your feelings of sexual attraction are revved up, and you become more open to new sexual experiences. Paradoxically, you feel more like a sexual person than when you were free. You are always in a state of readiness.

Realignment: Chastity leads to drastic changes in sexual behavior. Being unable to jerk off leads to exploring other forms of sexual activity, such as focusing on your ass, mouth, and nipples (and male breasts for those who have them). 

Self-Control: This is particularly true when chastity is achieved through pure obedience. For those unprepared for this leap, who cannot control their own urges, a cage is like a bike with training wheels. Your key-holder can help you learn the virtues of chastity, to the point where you are eventually able to exercise full self-control. Admittedly, some may never reach that point, and may need to remain caged.

Role Clarity: You enjoy being in a relationship characterized by well-defined and contrasting roles - Dominant and submissive, top and bottom. Sublimating a defining trait of masculine identity - seeing your penis small, limp, and useless except to pee - is psychologically potent. It helps you focus on serving your obviously more masculine partner, both in and out of bed. Especially when caged, it unmistakably signals no need for reciprocation. Your penis is clearly marked as not a sexual organ, focusing your partner’s attention on your ass, mouth, and nipples.

(Inspired by an illustrated post by @chastestories, but extensively rewritten to expand the concept beyond caging)

text and layout by me.  featuring @tooprettytolive, @stoneyslavegirl, and @ropebaby

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