Syn • They/Them • Adult • ♓ sun, ♐ moon, ♎ rising. Year of the Earth Snake. INFJ. Mostly reblogs and screaming. Check out my side blog here for DC content and x Reader fanfiction.
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I think what singlets forget when meeting systems Is that..
That system friend, has always been a system. DID/OSDD forms In childhood. Let's say your 18 year old friend came out as a system; they're not a 'system now'. They were always a system, they just found out, that doesn't mean they JUST became a system, they were always a system, they just discovered their disorder and alters. I think this type of misconception leads to a lot of things like: ''i don't wanna meet any of your alters'' ''i only wanna talk to you'' You have already talked to their alters before. They are an alter too, always has been. Their disorder didn't just pop out of nowhere. They're not the 'original' or 'core' because there never was one. You have already talked to their alters, and they're not any different from the other alters. Please don't disrespect them and their system. sorry this is kind of badly worded, let me know if you need any clarification
mushroom chat just dropped
can we call introjects that have the same source "source twins" instead of calling them "doubles"
idk i feel like saying "omg we're source twinning!" is so much more respectful to someones individuality than saying "omg youre a double!"
it helps steer away from the idea that introjects are "copies" of each other, and it helps give introjects their own sense of self that isnt 100% tied to their source
id love to hear other peoples thoughts on this term concept ^^
~Selever <3
grabs your ankles in a dark cavern and gives you drugs and recites orphic plays while I wave a candle in front of your face going "ITS WORKING"
It's so weird to have had a "friend" I used to talk to for months only to have them absolutely lose their mind on me when I started making other friends...
choosing to allocate spoons to hanging out and having a good time at the cost of perfectly completing all your work is not a failing it is in fact an act of survival. “too sick to work = too sick to play” is in fact ableist bullshit that you don’t have to buy into. and the fact that leisure time is treated like a privilege is a fucking travesty
madoka kaname
I love you systems who...
- Cannot cope with alters going dormant
- Are afraid of switching out and "letting go" of front
- Are almost always blurry
- Have demonised and stereotyped alters
My bad bro - Parker
Forever mad that people continue to shit on "stargender" as an example of an outlandish nonbinary identity. Women and men have claimed the sun and moon a million times over in different configurations. Why shouldn't we be beautiful, infinitely varied stars?? Which are also sometimes suns and moons and planets! What about our heavenly bodies makes you cringe?
Being killed in an accident would be like winning the lottery
embarrassment has good bones
We cannot keep telling disabled and mentally ill people that "maybe someday, if you work really hard, you can become a valuable person." We're valuable NOW. Even if we can't work. Even if we can't study. Even if we need help. Even if we can't provide for ourselves. Even if we struggle. Even if we fail. Our worth is inherent because we're here and we're human and we cannot live a happy life on the hope that maybe someday we can become good enough for society. We're already worthy and valuable as we are and we need y'all to acknowledge that.
u know someone’s about to get dragged through the mud when an academic uses the phrase ‘it’s tempting to assume’
Autistic people sometimes struggle with apologizing, because they're never taught how to do it the right way.
When autistic people are taught how to apologize, they're often taught that the sincerity of the apology is determined by how well they can hide their disability.
Not enough eye contact = insincere apology
Struggling to phrase it = insincere apology
Wrong tone = insincere apology
Asking questions to figure out how to prevent doing it again = insincere apology (and "arguing" or "making excuses")
Meanwhile, neurotypical people can continue their patterns while still being considered sincere by these standards.
"ohh 00s diet culture isn't back because of ozempic, you're overreacting"
idk i keep seeing previously size-inclusive brands remove plus-sized versions of their clothes from their catalogues entirely, even lines specifically aimed at bigger sizes are cutting their size range down and chopping the bigger ones. i keep seeing mean skinny tiktokers get famous because they said something rude about fat people. when i ask my doctor about weight loss (which my country's gender treatment clinic requires before i can access even preliminary talks about hrt), i'm immediately offered drugs about it - drugs which, according to the doctor, we don't know the long-term effects of. but surely! surely it can't be worse than being fat!
like why are people acting surprised? we've made being extremely wealthy the aspirational aesthetic to strive for, made 'being skinny and having a lot of time and money to stay beautiful' a not only viable but lucrative carreer for people, and then released a drug that is wildly expensive and will make people thin.
of course people are gonna make being thin the ultimate status symbol again - it more than ever before signals wealth and leisure-time.
like, do you think it's a coincidence that people are back to constantly spouting 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels' again? and pretending being fat is a matter of lacking self-control around cake or whatever? as if people haven't spent decades trying to get these fucks to understand that actually healthy produce and the time to maintain your body are extreme luxuries in our society?
anyway my broke fat ass can't find pants i like and can afford because the size-inclusive lines i'd have shopped at previously have axed anything over a size xl
and like. i'm not even that fat. what the fuck do people bigger than me do. it's really heinous right now for fat peeps.
things I've been learning since moving out of my (abusive) family home:
if you immediately stop having rage spirals that make you feel ashamed to be alive the moment you stop being around someone, they were probably the problem the whole time
having boundaries doesn't make you selfish. wanting to stop talking to your family doesn't make you selfish. you don't need to be grateful for what they did for you
you're probably not the worst person to exist. or the most worthless. or fundamentally awful. you're probably not the best either. chances are you're just normal. surprisingly hard to come to terms with this
if people offer to take care of you, it doesn't always mean they're saving it up as a reason to manipulate you later. sometimes people just want to help. and it's Good to let them do that
hi, a lot of you need a perspective reset
the average human lifespan globally is 70+ years
taking the threshold of adulthood as 18, you are likely to spend at least 52 years as a fully grown adult
at the age of 30 you have lived less than one quarter of your adult life (12/52 years)
'middle age' is typically considered to be between 45-65
it is extremely common to switch careers, start new relationships, emigrate, go to college for the first or second time, or make other life-changing decisions in middle age
it's wild that I even have to spell it out, but older adults (60+) still have social lives and hobbies and interests.
you can still date when you get old. you can still fuck. you can still learn new skills, be fashionable, be competitive. you can still gossip, you can still travel, you can still read. you can still transition. you can still come out.
young doesn't mean peaked. you're inexperienced in your 20s! you're still learning and practicing! you're developing social skills and muscle memory that will last decades!
there are a million things to do in the world, and they don't vanish overnight because an imaginary number gets too big
Me: I don't get it. I thought I was doing a lot better than I was a few years ago. I'm like 10 times more on top of things than I used to be. How does everything feel terrible now?
The Tiny Me in OSHA-approved Hi-Vis Gear Who lives in my brain and pulls all the levers: Boss, it's the fascism. You're completely gunked up with cortisol due to the fact that your entire daily life is now underscored with a haunting awareness of the rapid erosion of your rights, dignity, and any and all social safety nets, and you're also bearing witness to the most vulnerable people immediately being persecuted. This creates a natural stress response that basically means you're going to continue having memory and organizational problems, as well as emotional imbalances.
Me: BUT I HAVE A BULLET JOURNAL AND I MEDITATE NOW.
Tiny OSHA Me: BOSS, THE FASCISM.
having depression makes your friends seem like the coolest most put together people on earth like wow... you got out of bed, had breakfast, went to work, AND spent some time on a hobby when you got home....? that's so impressive you're like superman or something. can i borrow your power.
The biggest “your experiences are not universal” thing I feel is whenever anyone talks about the universality of girls planning their weddings since childhood because. Well. Not me. God bless
do y'all remember when they found all that tf art in Osamu Tezuka's drawer post-mortem because I think about it often
anyway keep chasing your bliss and draw weird shit, god knows we need that right now
YALL LOOK WHAT I MADE. I RECREATED THE MEME AND I CANT STOP LAUGHING 😭😭
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