Messy bi who dresses like a four-year-old despite being in my 30s
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Izuku is special because of who he is, not because of what his genetics happened to be.
His bravery, curiosity, determination, empathy, and so many other great things about him make him the perfect recipient for OFA. Not the fact that he happened to be quirkless
I am actually not a fan of the whole “OFA kills any holder who has a quirk so Izuku was the perfect successor” thing.
Not only because that reveal wasn’t delivered well, but because I think it undermines Izuku and makes his quirklessness the most special thing about him when it comes to One for All.
To me, Izuku wasn’t the best candidate to be an One for All holder because he happens to have the prerequisite not to die from it. He is the best candidate because he is the one chosen by All Might, because he was given a quirk incredibly difficult to handle and not only made it his own but reached the level of his classmate in less than a year, because he is smart, because he had empathy, because he will always choose to help people, and so on.
Honestly, this shit with Hogwarts Legacy is just like what happened with Chick-fil-A like ten or fifteen years ago. Some of y'all might be too young to remember it, but it went almost exactly like this shit today, only the target was technically gay people (not like we aren't all lumped together when push comes to shove, but gay was the political scapegoat in US politics at the time, as trans people were still on the fringes of social awareness).
It came out that the people who own Chick-fil-A were donating to organizations in other countries that were actively working to get gay people there killed, and were also very monetarily invested in stripping gay people of any legal rights they'd amassed in the US. So a lot of queer folks were asking for allies to boycott Chick-fil-A to show solidarity.
And it turned into a giant fuckin circus for bigots to rally around. There was even a support Chick-fil-A day, I remember it because I was a server at the time and our restaurant was empty most the day - while the line for Chick-fil-A down the road was like a mile long consistently.
But while that was obviously annoying, that wasn't what hit people the hardest. Cuz we expect clowns to wear the shoes, right, it's not shocking.
What disappointed people, or really demoralized a lot of young queers at the time especially, was the allies who would still go there. Because they like the sandwiches or fries or whatever. The people who'd march with them in the parade or be supportive of marriage equality, who would then turn right around and give their money to people who were trying to actively harm their friends.
Because the chicken was good.
I remember a friend of mine being really just absolutely broken up over that, trying to understand some of her friends reasoning and at the time I couldn't give her an answer. I could now, though.
And it's this:
Talk is cheap.
It costs nothing to say things. A person can say whatever the hell they want, any feel good flowery thing, and it doesn't really cost them.
But when they are asked to actually give something up - or put their money where their mouth is and just....can't do it. Well then there isn't much else for them to say, is there? At least nothing that's worth anything.
Some people had to find out the hard way that the choice between a chicken sandwich and funding people who did not believe in their dignity as a human being was, in the eyes of certain allies, apparently really hard. Too hard, in fact.
These allies would march in the colorful parades and go to the bars for drinks, but in the end, you couldn't actually depend on them to inconvenience themselves. They were fair weather allies, and they were there for the party and that's about it . They wanted entertainment, and it didn't matter if that came from having fun gay friends or a tasty sandwich.
This is the same thing, really, or pretty close to it.
These types of people just wanna have fun. Either you, their friend or whatever, are fun or the game is fun, and if you stop being fun by incidentally making them feel a little guilty about where they spend their money , then they might just choose the thing that doesn't make them currently uncomfortable.
And I'm not saying these people who say trans rights online but who also really, really want to play wizard game and already have are horrible people or anything - they're just not very good. They have no real character. And unfortunately there's not much you can do to change that, other than investing time and energy in people who do.
I got reminded of the movie Mighty Aphrodite today.
And, like, how did we ever think Woody Allen was okay?
It's about a man, played by Woody ofc, who adopted a son and wants to meet the kid's birthmother (Mira Sorvino) to find out what she's like in case the kid wants to meet her when he's older. Sounds okay so far, right?
BUT! It turns out that she's a sex worker. She's a prostitute and she's done porn in the past. Well that's just not acceptable to poor flustered Woody. He worms his way into her life, without letting her know who he is, so that he can save her from such a terrible lifestyle. Iirc she's actually pretty happy and isn't struggling. Not that her happiness or quality of life anything to do with his motivations - he just doesn't the woman who birthed his son to be involved in sex work.
So yeah, lies to her constantly to get involved in her life. He decides that she needs to quit sex work and get herself a husband. So he sets her up with....some dude. Some dude who has obvious anger problems and a clear hatred of women. He then lies to the dude about her career and convinces her to lie as well because no respectable man wants to be involved with a prostitute.
The dude beats her up after seeing her in a porn film he was watching with his buddies. Because it's totally fine for him to consume the content, but absolutely wrong of her to create it. He then leaves her. He's not treated like a villain btw. If anything, the movie seems to think she was in the wrong.
After this, Woody finally decides that he has no business meddling in her life like this and takes off. Doesn't cop to who he is or what he did or anything, but he at least left her alone.
And then the movie ends with them running into each other like two years later. And he still lies to her. And it turns out that she married a pilot that she met because of him, had a baby, and now she's a stay at home mother. Her life is all sunshine and roses now thanks to Woody Allen deciding to be her savior. Everything he did was good actually because she's a tradwife now.
I...just...how do we let men tell on themselves this much and then hand out Oscars for it??
Replies to this post regarding Hogwarts Legacy
This is one of the most bad faith takes I've seen on this, and I've seen some pretty bad ones.
I'm not going to argue on this. I mean, that whole post is about how there really is no more arguing to be done here, you either value people's lives or you value personal entertainment. You've gone for the latter. You just don't want to admit it so you spew out this garbage to justify it to yourself.
If you want to play the game, just play the stupid game. It's not like anyone is going to physically stop you. But for goodness sake, shut up about it. You're all just making yourselves look even worse.
BTW your transmedicalism and antisemitism are showing. Thought you might want to know
People really out here replying to my posts and immediately blocking me
I wonder what's next from streamers like the one I talked about in this post
A live reading of The Turner Diaries to raise money for the Holocaust Museum?
Or Elliot Rodger's manifesto with the promise to give some money to a DV shelter?
Oooh, what about a shot-for-shot remake of Birth of a Nation and donate to a Black charity?
After all, according to them, any amount of bigotry is canceled out by money.
Saw a streamer claiming that it's okay for them to stream Hogwarts Legacy because they're donating money from the stream to a trans charity.
How much? Don't know. They didn't clarify that.
It's pretty clear what they're doing, though. It's not really about wanting to raise money for trans charities. If it was, they could have picked any other popular game for their stream.
They just want to play the game and use the controversy to boost their channel. The only reason they included the charity thing is to use it as a shield against anyone who rightfully calls them out.
You can't claim to support the trans community while actively promoting and supporting transphobia.
Also pretty, uh, interesting how transphobia is the only issue they saw fit to address and ignored the racism altogether
I am so done arguing with people about Hogwarts Legacy. At this point, if you don't get why supporting the game is harmful, it's because you've chosen not to.
The reasoning has been laid out in the most hand-holding way possible by so many people. Many of whom have been extremely nice and calm about it. But that doesn't stop y'all from whining about how everyone against the game is a mean ole bully harassing you for no reason. (I am begging you to read the last part of that sentence in a highly condescending old-timey prospector voice)
I could go on all day about the bad faith arguments that keep popping up about why the game is good actually. Nevermind that it's about stopping a rebellion by Jewish stereotypes because it would be disadvantageous for the oppressors Wizards to not have them be subservient. They also really want to gloss over the game having an MtF character with a fully masculine voice and face named Sirona Ryan.
(Sorry, tangent, this is a world wherein people use magic to alter the appearance of themselves or others in literally every book, but it's not possible to fully transition????)
Anyway! I don't want to, and shouldn't have to, spend any more of my time explaining why capitalism isn't a free pass to buy a game that supports a racist, transphobic, and honestly just plain evil person. If you can't comprehend why using Twitter is different from spending $80 on a game, it's because you don't actually care. It's not because the Jewish and trans communities didn't spend months explaining it to you in ways that infants could understand. You just do not care about those communities.
And I wish you would just admit it.
Just say that you value your personal entertainment over other people's actual lives.
Stop pretending that it is anything else.
It isn't. And you know it.
Another thing pissing me off this morning is fucking allistics thinking they need to teach me "manners"
So fucking what if I said hey instead of good morning. Don't fucking lecture me over it!
Hogwarts Legacy is really bringing out all the fair-weather allies, ain't it? All the people who will totally say that they support the trans community, that they're willing to fight antisemitism, and talk about how important it is for the non-marginalized to stand up for the marginalized.
But ask them to not buy one single game out of the hundreds that will be released this year? Then it's all "you can't tell me what to do; you're never satisfied with anything; this is why people don't support you; buying the game doesn't support rowling at all; no ethical consumption under capitalism"
Like, thanks I guess for letting us know that you don't actually care about marginalized people. Now we know who actually gave a shit and wanted to help and who just wanted a new space to dominate
Ides of January Reading Update
The Cloisters got DNF'ed. I don't like to do that, but I had to. It was so fucking boring. The stuff about tarot was interesting, but it would only be focused on for like two paragraphs and then utterly forgotten so the protag could whine some more about not being cool enough. It was also all tell, no show. At one point, it's said that the MC has been having trouble distinguishing between fantasy and reality and might be having full-blown hallucinations. And....that's it. We never get to see it at all. If it weren't for that line, there'd be no way to know that was happening. And it's like that with everything. Awful book.
Babel is good, but it's taking me forever to get through it. I like it, it's just slow going.
So This Is Ever After is the only romance I've ever enjoyed reading. It's funny, sweet as hell, and Queer af. I don't even know why I decided to read it because I don't really like the romance genre, but I'm so glad I did.
Maus made me cry and that's all I'm ready to say about that.
Iron Widow is one of the best books I've ever read. Wu Zetian is an absolute gold medal badass and I love everything about her. I don't know if I want to be her friend, her girlfriend, or just be her; I'll even accept being her enemy if I have to. I'm just obsessed and want her in my life somehow. It's fucking brilliant and I cannot wait for Heavenly Tyrant.
The Weight of Blood is very good so far. It's a Carrie retelling set in a 2014 Georgia high school about to host its first integrated prom. I'm only about a third of the way through it right now, but I'm really enjoying it so far.
The absolute panic when one of your favorite tumblrs changes names and you didn't know about it so you think they deleted
I'm gonna throw one of my hot takes out here real quick.
Speed reading is just skimming. You're missing out on so much of the book when you do it. It's really not worth it just so you can say that you read 90 books in one month. We need to stop encouraging it. The quality of a read is so much more important than how quickly you finished it. Might be mean, but I won't take your book opinions very seriously if you're just skimming.
Ever since the latest Dune adaptation came out it's been like the thing for booktubers, booktokkers, etc., to talk about how much they hate the book.
Now, Dune is literally my favorite book. I've read it so many times. I am in love with it. Not so in love with the son's additions to series, but that's a whole vitriolic rant that I don't want to get into right now.
Anyway, despite how much I love it, I absolutely do not fault people for not liking it. I can see why people would dislike the characters, would find the plot boring, think the political structure is confusing. I don't agree with those criticisms, but whatever. You don't have to like what I like. It's fine.
What isn't fine is the amount of people talking about how they hate it when they clearly didn't try to engage with it in good faith. I mean, they are really people out there saying that it lacks depth, that there's very little worldbuilding, that the characters are one-dimensional.... Honey, I don't know what you read, but it sure as hell wasn't Dune
Reading The Cloisters and can't help but wonder if Katy Hays has ever actually dealt with the kind of man who constantly invades your personal space and is always touching you in some way.
Leo isn't coming across as hot and flirty. He's activating my fight or flight every time he shows up.
He's the kind of guy I wouldn't want to be alone with
I am so bored with the trope of the poor character constantly trying to emulate a rich character, negatively comparing themselves to the rich character, wishing they could be more like them.
Like, where's my poor girl who doesn't care how her secondhand cardigan measures up against the rich girl's Balenciaga sweater? Where's my poor girl who doesn't gush on and on about how graceful the rich girl is while disparaging herself for how she occupies the same space?
Why does the poor girl always have to hate herself and be embarrassed about her background? Why does she have to idolize her wealthy counterpart?
Why can't authors imagine someone coming from poverty who doesn't feel the need to put on the mask of class privilege? Who doesn't wish they could perfectly imitate and perform an extremely limited view of sophistication? Who doesn't automatically see those with more privilege as being automatically better than themselves?
I'm just so freaking bored with this stock Poor Kid Character. I know there are people born in poverty who desperately wish to be accepted by a higher socioeconomic class, but there are plenty of us poor people who don't care about their acceptance of us. And I wish more authors knew that.
Man, Dark Academia as a literary subgenre is something that I have struggled with.
On paper, it ticks all the boxes. A heavy focus on academic life, learning for the sake of learning, a love of history, linguistics and myth, the cutthroat nature of elitism, the hollow feeling of disillusionment. Just everything that should make me absolutely love it. Seriously, compiling all of those things together into a book should make that my favorite book.
AND YET.....every dark academia book I've read as been absolute garbage. Books so bad they made me forget why I love reading.
Donna Tartt, Alex Michaelides....it's on sight with these fuckers. I get genuinely angry thinking about these books. I was not even able to write actual reviews of them because I got so fucking angry whenever I tried.
Other DA books I've read have been mostly just meh. So forgettable that I couldn't even give a synopsis of them.
It's a subgenre that I want to love, but all of my attempts have failed so miserably.
I'm currently reading The Cloisters and Babel right now and if these are bad too, I'm just giving up.
I've heard a lot of praise for Babel so I'm hoping it's going to be a light in the darkness for me. But I also heard people praise The Secret History to the moon and back and that book's so horrible in every way that I literally want to burn it.
Please let there actually be good Dark Academia books out there. I can't take anymore disappointment
Hard to swallow pills:
“Alienating allies” is not a thing; actual allyship is not about you. Sit down, shut up, and LISTEN.
Some good feminist YouTubers for y’all!
Annamarie Forcino
Tara Mooknee
Shanspeare
Chad Chad
Noah Samsen
Ro Ramdin
Samantha Lux
Kat Blaque
Jessie Gender
Ethan Is Online
Feel free to add!
Few things in life are more irritating to me than someone recommending something to me and then constantly bugging me until I check it out.
Them: "Hey, I heard this song I think you'd like, here's the link for it." Me: "Okay, I'll listen to it later." The rest of the damn day Them: "Have you listened to it yet? Have you listened to it yet? Hey, I sent you that song, you should totally listen to it. Listen to the song! Why haven't you listened to it yet? I just sent the link again, you should totally listen to it."
Okay, so here's my problem.
I have issues and criticisms of Contrapoints and Lindsay Ellis that I would love to actually discuss with people who would actually know who and what I'm talking about, which excludes everyone in my real world life.
But I also can't really discuss this sort of thing online either because both of these women have hatedoms that will glom onto any reason to harass them and I really don't want them using anything I might say to do so.
Like, look at the contrapoints tag here on tumblr and, aside from the fans just enjoying stuff they like, you'll find that most of the criticism is either full TERF bs or quickly attracts full TERF bs.
And I want nothing to do with that. I don't want to read the nasty vitriol they spew out or in any way contribute to their gross bigotry.
My issues/criticisms really don't have anything to do with either of these women being women. And I don't want to get mixed up with the crowd for whom that is their issue.
I just really don't like feeling like I need to bite my tongue because bigots want to act in bad faith
People either forget or don't care that defense lawyers are the foundation of our justice system. 'innocent until proven guilty' doesn't work without them
You know our society is fucked up when people seriously think being a criminal defense attorney is like. A moral evil. Like people seriously jump to “wow you defend murderers” as if the majority of “crime” that happens on a daily basis isn’t literally stuff like addicts being caught possessing drugs or homeless people being arrested for loitering or fucking poor women stealing food and clothes for their kids like… the average person is just one or two paychecks away from also being deemed a “criminal” by society but yeah sure you should definitely act like needing to be defended against the state makes you an automatically morally bad person
I was talking to my mom and I told her that I think I might have autism and she told me that I do, and she's known about it since I was 5
And she just decided to never tell anyone, including me, about it
It apparently took three decades for her to decide that I might find this information helpful
So many things about me and my life make sense now
I really wish I had known this sooner
whats crazy to me is ppl saying all x reader is badly written when i've read several x reader fics that blow published books out of the water. like idk what ur reading man ... but to generalize like that is fucking wild
Why the fuck do guys seem to think that every conversation is an argument of some kind??
Like, Zan and I were talking about the usage of the word "simp" and that the online circles I move in tend to use it as a sort of compliment rather than an insult. Like, "oh, a guy who's kind and is willing to help me out and stand up for me when needed and doesn't treat me like garbage or meat? Fucking neat!" and he starts talking about how that's "anecdotal evidence" and that it isn't "admissible". I'm confused af at this point, cause when tf did we go to court over this?
I had to actually explain to him that I wasn't arguing over anything. I was literally just pointing something out. There was no counterpoint or opposition in that instance, no argument. Just a thing I had noticed.
And, fucking hell, this happens a lot when trying to talk to men. They always assume whatever I'm saying is some form of argument that they have to take the opposing side of.
WHY????
Why can't a conversation just be a conversation? Why does it need to be an argument or debate? Why can't we just talk?
I am so frustrated. It makes me not want to talk at all.