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A moment of light during the siege
Im happy this was my biggest post this year!
I want PIMOs here to know that there are "worldly people" kinder than you can imagine. Friends you'll gain that aren't conditional in their support. New experiences you never even considered, but that bring you immense joy. Parts of yourself that you'll find and can now let free.
Your life isn't over for waking up, it's about to begin.
Here's a reminder to remember how far you've come ✨️
✨️ Being mentally out is a huge fucking accomplishment, you had a fight with your own brain and won! Look at you!
✨️ Doing mundane shit you enjoy that's "against the rules" incredible 👏 you're enjoying your life!!!
✨️ Being physically out?!?! You're a rock star, that's a fucking leap and you did it!
✨️ Working towards your aspirations that you never thought you'd be able to due to pressure not to go to school, or be a part of this or that, holy shit that's amazing!!!
Confession booth
Drew this for an upperclassman’s exhibition on spirituality/religion and LGBT
You're very right but I gotta point out something insane in this image
WHY IS THE RAINBOW FLAG UPSIDE DOWN?! IS IT SO CURSED IT CAN NOT SAFELY BE DEPICTED IN RELIGOUS MATERIAL? DO THEY OBJECT TO GOD'S PROMISE TO MANKIND THE RAINBOW ??!
at least the watchtower images are still funny
Me, holding Apostle Paul up by the scruff of his neck like a kitten to a group of christians: Is this really your mans? Is this really who you listen to? Pathetic.
I thought suffering would make me beautiful. How catholic, how cathartic. Martyrdom, to die in blazing glory.
But it enduring pain only made it bigger. It seemed everlasting.
I thought it would make me less of a burden. Less human. More saint. And all saints are loved, and respected by all they sacrificed.
But no one remembers saints these days.
To be a sacrifice slaughtered by my own hand became so unfulfilling. It became dull, and pain is excruciating.
These days, I wonder what it means to endure, and what I want to endure, and why should life be made of painful endurances for me. Why I deserve punishment and nothing else.
These days, I want to endure joy until it breaks me, enough for me to reach into myself, remove the roots of the weeds that have spread all this hatred inside me, enough for this joy to be planted into my heart, and hopefully it will grow in me. Hopefully I can help it grow it others too.
I want love for all people, myself included, to be the only thing I ever endure.
Heather Havrilesky, How to Be a Person in the World
Temples are built for gods. Knowing this a farmer builds a small temple to see what kind of god turns up.
i really do wish there was more support in place for ex-muslim women, online or elsewhere. it feels like most of us hesitate to speak too publicly about this because we're scared it will just feed into the islamophobic and racist sentiments many people already have, i know i do.
but alot of the major ex-muslim orgs and spaces i've come across are full of men who might have left the religion but not the misogyny lmao. hell even on here most ex-muslims have just decided to trade one bigotry for another and go full blown t//rf. like there really isnt a space we can talk about and criticize our experiences without people using it as fuel for their own personal bigoted beliefs, whether its racism or misogyny or transphobia.
Yes I am aware he has committed atrocities but have you considered that he’s my special guy
Reminders for the angry apostates
💥 You are allowed to be furious with your abusers 💥 You are not obligated to forgive anyone to be a good person.
💥 Cutting someone abusive out of your life is self care.
💥 Wishing someone who hurt you would die so they can’t hurt you anymore is not an evil thought. You are allowed to wish for relief.
💥 Just because someone is related to you doesn’t give them the right to hurt you, nor the right to be in your life. This goes for parents and siblings as well.
💥 Only you get to decide if what happened to you was abuse. They do not get to tell you it wasn’t “bad enough”.
💥 You are allowed to ghost people who make you feel shitty. You are not obligated to be the bigger person and explain why you are leaving.
💥 You are not required to fix anyone, to explain why their actions have hurt you or give anyone another chance.
💥 You are not evil or corrupted for being angry.
💥 Your anger is there to protect you. Make sure it doesn’t end up hurting yourself or your actual loved ones, but don’t be afraid to let it out when you need it.
Before anyone tries to clown around on this post because it doesn’t align with your personal morals, please note: make your own post.
am done behaving i want gay things to happen now
The weird thing about moving out and building a life where it’s okay to go hang out in the living room is that sometimes you still spend all your time in your room
Let's Go Lesbians!
In other news, they’re making what seems to be a new Neeta and Jade series (It has an intro so I assume there will be more coming) and they live together in the same apartment now.
Teaching children to always obey adults is grooming them for abuse.
Teaching children to accept unwanted physical contact (spanking, required hugs and kisses from family, required sitting on Santa's lap, etc) is grooming them for abuse.
Teaching children to take "mature" as a compliment and "immature" as an insult is grooming them for abuse.
Ignoring children's struggles, which could cause them to idolize the first adult who listens to them, is grooming them for abuse.
And people who do that on a regular basis believe that teaching children that some people have two dads is grooming. They never actually cared about protecting children from grooming.
TW MENTION OF SUICIDE
Jehovah's Witnesses used to straight up say you "will not enter paradise" if you commit suicide, but there's a little more leeway on paper now. Sure they won't say "you'll never see your loved one again", but no elder would be caught dead helping you with the funeral. I know of man who was forced to give his own brother's talk/eulogy cause everyone else refused. It's disgusting.
Was anybody else taught that you automatically go to hell if you commit suicide because you aren't "enduring to the end" or is that another specific microcosm of racist, backwater Idaho mormons?
terfs/radfems go fuck yourselves lmao
has everyone seen the blog lowspoonsfood?
the blog is food that can be made without too much effort, with a ranking system by how much effort it takes to make it
they also have category options for gluten free, vegetarian/vegan, lactose free, etc.
if you’re disabled and have trouble cooking, this may be worth it to check out. if you’re not disabled or you don’t have trouble cooking, it’d be cool to signal boost it for those who do need it. for people with very few go to meals, food can be boring and repetitive, so this is pretty cool :*
Who is God to put gates and keep out signs around Heaven. I thought he loved us all
Ask to be put on the Do Not Call list. If you think it’s necessary, ask to watch them get out the territory card and write it down, but realistically, Witnesses in my experience are pretty good about this and the only time it won’t be honored is if someone forgets to check your address or if it’s been like 10+ years
Tell them you are an apostate. They are not allowed to speak to apostates at all, ever, but especially in regards to their beliefs. They aren’t supposed to go to places/events where they know apostates will be
Argue with them. Jehovah’s Witnesses are instructed to end the conversation and leave if it becomes clear that someone wants to debate rather than just passively learn and accept that they were wrong before. This might get you put on the DNC list without even asking
DO NOT answer the door naked. You wouldn’t think this needs said, but intentionally flashing people is sexual harassment, and Jehovah’s Witnesses frequently preach with children— both as a training thing and because people are more likely to be receptive. They say every JW who’s preached long-term has gotten a naked householder at least once. Do not do this
DO NOT unleash your dogs in the yard. First off, your dogs aren’t as mean as you think they are lol. Second off, almost every JW has been dealing with giant jumpy dogs— again— since they were children. Letting loose your dogs will get their dress clothes muddy, possibly tear them, and maybe scare some children/a few adults who will simply pass the door to someone else. It will also make every other dog in the neighborhood start barking. This isn’t helping you or anyone else
DO NOT call the police. Evangelizing is fully legal in the United States and JWs are not soliciting anything. Some areas make Witnesses get permits to preach, but that’s it. One time an elder in my congregation had people raise their hands if they’ve ever had the cops called on them, and it was two thirds of the Hall. Witnesses use these incidents to further their persecution complex. If you call the cops on them, they will absolutely be back next week, even pushier and more determined
Humans pretend to be good in small ways for social clout but underneath where it counts, very definitely all selfish and bad.
Jws: One day god will rain massive fireballs down on our planet and the earth will crack open and swallow entire cities whole and many people you've known and loved for years will die horribly right before your eyes. Isn't that such a wonderful thought?
5-year-old me:
Reblog this if you’re polyamorous, searching for a cryptid, trying to communicate with demons, willing to throw a Molotov cocktail at a police car, really want more tattoos/piercings, or just really love nonbinary people.
No one will ever know which one 👀
Now that I'm POMO interactions with parents are weird. In a way I'm fortunate that my family is still willing to talk to me, but they still suck as people. Their abusive and continue to misgender me and be manipulative. It was really hard to say that "no, I don't want to meet up rn even for a meal" because I know how many people desperately wish they could have that offer. Even knowing how triggering it would be I almost said yes because I miss my parents. But I guess I more miss having parents I can trust and support me, than them specifically.
thinking about anti-role models. people you look at like "well whatever i'm gonna be in life it's not gonna be that"