What’s Your Workout Routine/ Diet. Because That Body Is Goals Sis 🤩

Teen should not be a porn category pass it on

Society does not like the idea of a spoiled black woman, much less a spoiled black dark skinned woman

My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them. My dreams are attainable and I will reach them.

Ig: creme_de.la_femme

Taking out my implants, focusing on getting skinny and entering the game again :)

Like don’t get me wrong I enjoy anal. But today a client shoved it in too hard. I had to end the appointment immediately after. So from now on anal is out the picture.

Rant:

As a sex worker I honestly just hate my body.

I’m thinking about getting a bbl and getting some ribs removed for the desired body I want. I feel like nobody in the sex worker world really talks about the eating disorders or the lack of self esteem that comes with being a hoe.

And if you wanna be honest. I didn’t really start hating my body until I become a sex worker. 🤷🏽‍♀️

10 Questions to Ask a Pot, BEFORE Starting an Arrangement:

Its more common than we admit, that when we first begin to communicate with a “rich and generous” Pot, that we tend to tread lightly as we don’t want to (or are scared to) rock the boat. In my opinion, thats just bullshit. If I’m putting my time, my body, safety, energy, goals and dreams, plus my physical and mental health on the line, you better believe I want some answers first before crossing any lines and agreeing to any arrangement.

It’s important to ask thought provoking questions (not just the make-us-look-cute-small-talk kinda questions) and to really pay attention to their responses. Are they sincere, well thought out and organized answers or are they taking pick-up lines straight out of a book that could possibly be called “How To Get Laid For Free”

If I was talking to a Pot (or any man or woman at any stage) and they were offended/outraged or even hesitant to answer any of the questions listed below…that would give me something to think about. After-all, its not like I would be asking them to start a formal judicial hearing…I just want to know what I’d be getting myself into. Plain and simple.

1) Why are you looking for a Sugar Baby, and not a girlfriend?

* Maybe he doesn’t fully realize what a Sugar Baby is, and just thinks you’ll be a girlfriend that he has to pay for all your dinners together and get the popcorn while you’re out at the movies? It’s happened before. This is a simple way to put it out there, that there is going to be a definite difference between you and a girlfriend.

2) So far, (because its still new) what is your favourite aspect about me?

* This is important. If he is blunt and says “its your intelligence”, then go get some current news articles, or popular and classic books and stay informed my friend! If he says “its your athletic ability”, take him out to play beach volleyball on a nice day, or go to the gym together for a date. If he says “its your chest”…well then, that’s up to you to either play it up or smack him. In my opinion, I would do whatever I felt worked to keep him hooked…but without affecting my self esteem or self worth. His role is to help lift you up in life, not hold you down.

3) What are 3 passions that you used to enjoy and what are some new ones that you currently do?

* This will give you an opportunity to enliven some of your dates by sharing his past passions with him, and by making sure that even if you don’t enjoy his current ones…that you make the effort to either watch or participate in them for him. He will feel valued and it’ll help strengthen your bond if you can connect with things that he enjoys. Who knows, maybe he has given up on certain passions in life because his wife or current girlfriend hates them. It’s an easy and fun “in” for you.

4) What goals are you working towards now?

* A man without a goal(s) is a scary thing. There is not one person in this world who can honestly say that they have completed all of their life’s goals and can now sit on their butt, twiddling their thumbs for the rest of their life. Goals do not need to glamorous, extensive or expensive. They can be the very smallest of things, but to me, a person without a goal has no drive, lacks motivation and doesn’t have that “gusto” in life that I’m looking for. PLUS, if someone has no goals or lacks the desire to create one…how can I expect them to be understanding of, and to support me in achieving mine?

5) If we were ever seen out in public together, how would you want me to handle the situation. What could I expect from you?

* I have had this talk before with my SD, and thankfully so! There have been times where we have been out together and we have run into (or close to it) someone that we knew. Thankfully we don’t play in the same social circles, so it helps to limit our chances. One of our easiest “cover stories” is manageable because I am his daughters age. If someone comes up to us, I politely say something like this “Oh, I’ve kept you long enough. Please tell Tina that I said hi, and it was nice running into you!” And then I politely make my way somewhere else and just send him a text of where I am or whatever it is that I’ll be doing to keep me busy until he is in the clear. And I wait patiently. I do not send 20 texts and carry on a conversation with him. At this point in the game of privacy…I no longer exist, right ladies?

6) If we were to have a “sleep over”, would you be ok with me taking some time to myself? What do you feel would be an appropriate amount of time to ourselves before coming back together?

* Trust me, if you’re like me, you’ll want your own space so that you have time to relax, unwind, clean up, catch up on texts/messages, have a nap, enjoy a tea etc. He may be the type of person who doesn’t want or need to have time apart, but that doesn’t mean that you should hide/ignore your need for some space. If you do not have some sort of understanding beforehand, it could get ugly if you begin to get annoyed at or with him. I most definitely need my “me” time and I’m very upfront about it. Its simply easier to have the conversation and expectations agreed to BEFORE you decide to spend 24 hours together.

7) When we text, are there certain words/language/innuendos that you’d prefer to avoid?

* If he is the “nervous first time SD” or if he has a curious wife/spouse, you may need to help him feel at ease, by stating that you respect this part of your arrangement and that you want to work with him to keep any suspicions to a minimum. It could help to relax you and him, if you both know what the rules and expectations are when communicating. You don’t want to be saying things like “Ok sweetie, I’ll see you tomorrow and I’ll wear the red dress you bought me. XO”…and his wife has access to his phone. That could back fire on you both, not just him. It’s simple and easy to create code words/sentences. For example: if you want to say “Thinking of you, good night”, you could say something like “I’ll see what Jackson says tomorrow”. And you’ll both know what it really means, and if anyone happens to pick up his phone and read it, its harmless and safer to cover/explain.

Remember not to take it personal that you are a hidden aspect to his life, that sometimes you’re simply not allowed to exist, that you are a “secret”…because you are. Do you want him as an SD or not? There are just some things that we need to put our pride aside for and do to keep their lives running smoothly, so that our lives do as well.

8) If I ever needed extra financial help, for whatever reason, and I felt that I wanted/needed to ask you for your assistance, how would you prefer me to ask? Subtly or straight to the point?

* Some men are turned off by feeling like a bank machine, while others get turned on by it. It’s important to know which kind of response you could expect from him by asking for extra help. This way, you’ll have a better idea of how best to use your allowance when you get it. If he’s not the easy going-extra-help-kinda-guy, there is nothing wrong with that at all…it simply means that you need to prioritize your wants over needs and use your allowance, or money that he does give to you, responsibly.

Some arrangements have more wiggle room for “extras” while others are based on strict numbers and rules. If you do feel that you are going to ask for extra support…start small and assess his responses/reactions to you. You’ll get a feel of whether you should push the boundaries or simply enjoy the benefits of what you already share with him. “Don’t throw away a dime in search of 10 pennies”.

9) What is the safest way for you to give me my allowance, so that you don’t feel stressed each month in trying to hide it from your wife/girlfriend?

* If he doesn’t know what’s the safest way, he may be a ping-pong ball while he uses/tries different methods and amounts, until he can get it all figured out. This actually does take some time to plan safely and effectively, and most new SD’s don’t give it the due planning that it requires. Are you going to be patient and understanding with him? Or are you going to start heckling him and demanding quicker transactions? Either way, it’s best to have a conversation about it, and get it all sorted out before your allowance day arrives, and you have 3 bills to pay…while you’re waiting for him to do a google search on “email transfers”.

10) I recently watched a documentary on the Sex Industry and I’d like to hear your thoughts and opinions on both those who offer their services and on those who seek them?

* This is an easy opener to get the ball rolling for more questions on this topic. It will also give you some insight into his biases, narcissism and his general opinion on where you stand in your “arrangement” with him. Is he negative towards the Sex Industry or is he a whatever floats your boat kinda guy?

So…that about sums it up for today!

Of course, I realize that there are a ton of other questions that you could ask a Pot/SD etc, that all relate to things like allowance amount, allowance frequency, sexual expectations, gifts or no gifts, sexual health history, previous Sugar arrangements, any marital issues that he is seeking your comfort/assistance for etc etc, but at some point I need to stop today lol. I’m actually missing one of my favourite shows to write this. So, I hope that this list helps in some teeny-tiny way, and if anything, it gets your mind thinking of other possible scenarios that you may want to consider before agreeing to an arrangement with anyone.

Good luck ;)

To all my newbie SW girls out there

When I first started off escorting I didn’t want to take my own photos. I wanted to actually put my photos out there in a more professional way. I couldn’t call myself a high end escort if I didn’t look the part. So I found a app that connects you with freelance photographers for the low. You can literally do a whole photoshoot for around 150-250 dollars. This is for the escorts who are just starting off and don’t have the money to host a photoshoot that can cost thousands. Some of them you will have to buy your photos separately. So the whole procedure should cost around 400-500 dollars all together. But I met one lady who did some amazing shoots for only 200 and I got to keep 40 of my photos for free.

But be careful and check the reviews. Some can and will take advantage of you or blackmail you into doing things.

Hope this helps some of you guys and good luck ladies

@societywh0re

How to screen your clients in Canada

These are all the methods that I’m aware of on how to screen clients in Canada. If you’ve worked here you’ve probably realized that clients aren’t too keen on giving out personal information but there are still some things you can do to keep yourself safe. If you know of another method, let me know and I will add it to this list! Of course these methods may also be relevant elsewhere.

1) The first thing I do when a client contacts me is google their phone or email or both and see what comes up. I also search their phone number on Facebook. You can also add them to your phone as a contact and find their Instagram/what’s app profile through that. This is how I often find out that I’m getting a fake appointment. I’ve had women and teenage boys contact me and this is how I weed them out. BUT….now that burner numbers are more and more popular this can lead to mix ups. I’ve had clients give me their number and then I search it and it comes up as a woman and I call them out, and they say that’s not them and have sent me alternative methods to prove their identity. Burner numbers get tossed around so much now that the info you find about it online may or may not be the real owner.

2) References

You can ask clients for one or two provider references. I always remind my clients to please ask or give their other provider a heads up that they will be using them, this usually allows for faster communication and also it’s just polite. When you get the contact information from your client, make sure it’s a REAL escort. If you search her email or phone number and nothing comes up, she is a fake reference. If she is a real escort you can send her a message that goes something like this

“Hey there :) just emailing you in regards to Jim, he said that you were a reference of his.

346-737-2222

Jimjohnson76@gmail.com

Thanks!”

It doesn’t have to be fancy or formal but it does have to be polite.

3) Email money transfer

Clients can email money transfer you a deposit or full payment to a discrete email addresss without getting any of your personal information. This also allows you to get their full legal name when you go to accept the transfer. I have two email addresses, one for my escort persona and a second discrete one that married men can send money to that looks like they’re just sending it to a man-bud. If a client wants to pay for their appointment via email money transfer be sure they send it ahead of time. I’ve had clients send transfers that took 1 hour + to get to me. Do not do anything until the money is in your account.

4) Hotel room call

If a client wants to book me for an outcall to their hotel room, which 80% of my appointments are, there is a super easy way to screen them. I often don’t even tell them I’m going to do this until the day of so that they don’t have time to argue. I tell them I want to call them on their hotel room phone to confirm our appointment and I need their full legal name to do so. Once you get it call front desk (from a burner number) and ask to be transferred to whatever room he is in. Front desk will ask for his name, you give it, if it’s correct they will transfer you through and you’re good to go. Usually I just say “hey confirming we’re still on for tonight at X time for Y hours” and tell them I like to hear people’s voices over the phone before we meet, which I do. Often clients give you fake names when they first start speaking to you so to avoid the awkwardness of them admitting that I usually ask “what name is the room under?” As opposed to “what’s your real name?”

5) Ask for a piece of mail with their name on it

Stolen from @bossyprada. If you’re doing an outcall to residence, ask for their name & address as well as a piece of mail with their name and address on it.

6) LinkedIn profile, work profile, Facebook

You can ask for their name and a link to their social media, LinkedIn or work profile. Use with caution as people can make fake accounts. I’ve seen some girls ask for LinkedIn + an email sent to them from their work email or LinkedIn + photo ID. Which brings us to…

7) Review board profile

I don’t really like this method, but often clients will give their review board profile username and you can check their activity on there and decide if you want to see them. Good things are him writing positive reviews, leaving nice comments etc Red flags: he writes critical reviews, complains about escorts et…if you see someone off a review board, be prepared to have a review written about you

Canadian review boards: PERB, CAF, TERB, MERB

8) Photo ID. You’re not going to get this from a lot of guys. I offer it as an option if someone is new and has no references and doesn’t want to send a deposit. I also never travel with a client without a copy of theirs ID and license plate.

9) Gut feeling. I’ve done plenty of calls that were just gut feeling. Rule of thumb, if it feels wrong something is wrong. Trust your gut.

How to stay safe on calls: The best option is to always have someone know where you are. However for most of this isn’t an option, so always let your client think someone knows where you are, even if you’ve seen them a million times. I always text people when I first get to an appointment and then I say “oh sorry I’m being rude, just letting my girlfriend know how long I’ll be here” you can also pretend to be on your phone. You can set your timer on your cellphone to sound like a ringtone and pretend to answer it when you and your clients time is up. There are also “fake a call apps” available for download.

Stay safe everyone! Xox