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My Twitter is to grow my business not another provider. (No offense)

I repost other girls shit and they never repost mine. Which I don’t even care but I notice it. So this is why I’m limiting my Rts. I created it to interact with my clients.

10 Questions to Ask a Pot, BEFORE Starting an Arrangement:

Its more common than we admit, that when we first begin to communicate with a “rich and generous” Pot, that we tend to tread lightly as we don’t want to (or are scared to) rock the boat. In my opinion, thats just bullshit. If I’m putting my time, my body, safety, energy, goals and dreams, plus my physical and mental health on the line, you better believe I want some answers first before crossing any lines and agreeing to any arrangement.

It’s important to ask thought provoking questions (not just the make-us-look-cute-small-talk kinda questions) and to really pay attention to their responses. Are they sincere, well thought out and organized answers or are they taking pick-up lines straight out of a book that could possibly be called “How To Get Laid For Free”

If I was talking to a Pot (or any man or woman at any stage) and they were offended/outraged or even hesitant to answer any of the questions listed below…that would give me something to think about. After-all, its not like I would be asking them to start a formal judicial hearing…I just want to know what I’d be getting myself into. Plain and simple.

1) Why are you looking for a Sugar Baby, and not a girlfriend?

* Maybe he doesn’t fully realize what a Sugar Baby is, and just thinks you’ll be a girlfriend that he has to pay for all your dinners together and get the popcorn while you’re out at the movies? It’s happened before. This is a simple way to put it out there, that there is going to be a definite difference between you and a girlfriend.

2) So far, (because its still new) what is your favourite aspect about me?

* This is important. If he is blunt and says “its your intelligence”, then go get some current news articles, or popular and classic books and stay informed my friend! If he says “its your athletic ability”, take him out to play beach volleyball on a nice day, or go to the gym together for a date. If he says “its your chest”…well then, that’s up to you to either play it up or smack him. In my opinion, I would do whatever I felt worked to keep him hooked…but without affecting my self esteem or self worth. His role is to help lift you up in life, not hold you down.

3) What are 3 passions that you used to enjoy and what are some new ones that you currently do?

* This will give you an opportunity to enliven some of your dates by sharing his past passions with him, and by making sure that even if you don’t enjoy his current ones…that you make the effort to either watch or participate in them for him. He will feel valued and it’ll help strengthen your bond if you can connect with things that he enjoys. Who knows, maybe he has given up on certain passions in life because his wife or current girlfriend hates them. It’s an easy and fun “in” for you.

4) What goals are you working towards now?

* A man without a goal(s) is a scary thing. There is not one person in this world who can honestly say that they have completed all of their life’s goals and can now sit on their butt, twiddling their thumbs for the rest of their life. Goals do not need to glamorous, extensive or expensive. They can be the very smallest of things, but to me, a person without a goal has no drive, lacks motivation and doesn’t have that “gusto” in life that I’m looking for. PLUS, if someone has no goals or lacks the desire to create one…how can I expect them to be understanding of, and to support me in achieving mine?

5) If we were ever seen out in public together, how would you want me to handle the situation. What could I expect from you?

* I have had this talk before with my SD, and thankfully so! There have been times where we have been out together and we have run into (or close to it) someone that we knew. Thankfully we don’t play in the same social circles, so it helps to limit our chances. One of our easiest “cover stories” is manageable because I am his daughters age. If someone comes up to us, I politely say something like this “Oh, I’ve kept you long enough. Please tell Tina that I said hi, and it was nice running into you!” And then I politely make my way somewhere else and just send him a text of where I am or whatever it is that I’ll be doing to keep me busy until he is in the clear. And I wait patiently. I do not send 20 texts and carry on a conversation with him. At this point in the game of privacy…I no longer exist, right ladies?

6) If we were to have a “sleep over”, would you be ok with me taking some time to myself? What do you feel would be an appropriate amount of time to ourselves before coming back together?

* Trust me, if you’re like me, you’ll want your own space so that you have time to relax, unwind, clean up, catch up on texts/messages, have a nap, enjoy a tea etc. He may be the type of person who doesn’t want or need to have time apart, but that doesn’t mean that you should hide/ignore your need for some space. If you do not have some sort of understanding beforehand, it could get ugly if you begin to get annoyed at or with him. I most definitely need my “me” time and I’m very upfront about it. Its simply easier to have the conversation and expectations agreed to BEFORE you decide to spend 24 hours together.

7) When we text, are there certain words/language/innuendos that you’d prefer to avoid?

* If he is the “nervous first time SD” or if he has a curious wife/spouse, you may need to help him feel at ease, by stating that you respect this part of your arrangement and that you want to work with him to keep any suspicions to a minimum. It could help to relax you and him, if you both know what the rules and expectations are when communicating. You don’t want to be saying things like “Ok sweetie, I’ll see you tomorrow and I’ll wear the red dress you bought me. XO”…and his wife has access to his phone. That could back fire on you both, not just him. It’s simple and easy to create code words/sentences. For example: if you want to say “Thinking of you, good night”, you could say something like “I’ll see what Jackson says tomorrow”. And you’ll both know what it really means, and if anyone happens to pick up his phone and read it, its harmless and safer to cover/explain.

Remember not to take it personal that you are a hidden aspect to his life, that sometimes you’re simply not allowed to exist, that you are a “secret”…because you are. Do you want him as an SD or not? There are just some things that we need to put our pride aside for and do to keep their lives running smoothly, so that our lives do as well.

8) If I ever needed extra financial help, for whatever reason, and I felt that I wanted/needed to ask you for your assistance, how would you prefer me to ask? Subtly or straight to the point?

* Some men are turned off by feeling like a bank machine, while others get turned on by it. It’s important to know which kind of response you could expect from him by asking for extra help. This way, you’ll have a better idea of how best to use your allowance when you get it. If he’s not the easy going-extra-help-kinda-guy, there is nothing wrong with that at all…it simply means that you need to prioritize your wants over needs and use your allowance, or money that he does give to you, responsibly.

Some arrangements have more wiggle room for “extras” while others are based on strict numbers and rules. If you do feel that you are going to ask for extra support…start small and assess his responses/reactions to you. You’ll get a feel of whether you should push the boundaries or simply enjoy the benefits of what you already share with him. “Don’t throw away a dime in search of 10 pennies”.

9) What is the safest way for you to give me my allowance, so that you don’t feel stressed each month in trying to hide it from your wife/girlfriend?

* If he doesn’t know what’s the safest way, he may be a ping-pong ball while he uses/tries different methods and amounts, until he can get it all figured out. This actually does take some time to plan safely and effectively, and most new SD’s don’t give it the due planning that it requires. Are you going to be patient and understanding with him? Or are you going to start heckling him and demanding quicker transactions? Either way, it’s best to have a conversation about it, and get it all sorted out before your allowance day arrives, and you have 3 bills to pay…while you’re waiting for him to do a google search on “email transfers”.

10) I recently watched a documentary on the Sex Industry and I’d like to hear your thoughts and opinions on both those who offer their services and on those who seek them?

* This is an easy opener to get the ball rolling for more questions on this topic. It will also give you some insight into his biases, narcissism and his general opinion on where you stand in your “arrangement” with him. Is he negative towards the Sex Industry or is he a whatever floats your boat kinda guy?

So…that about sums it up for today!

Of course, I realize that there are a ton of other questions that you could ask a Pot/SD etc, that all relate to things like allowance amount, allowance frequency, sexual expectations, gifts or no gifts, sexual health history, previous Sugar arrangements, any marital issues that he is seeking your comfort/assistance for etc etc, but at some point I need to stop today lol. I’m actually missing one of my favourite shows to write this. So, I hope that this list helps in some teeny-tiny way, and if anything, it gets your mind thinking of other possible scenarios that you may want to consider before agreeing to an arrangement with anyone.

Good luck ;)

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This serum contains several different carrier and essential oils that promotes hair growth and will reduce breakage and excessive shedding. However, it’s important to take care of your hair and beard - you must wash and condition your hair or beard due to the fact that oils are not moisturizers, they just seal in moisture. Meaning, this is the last product you apply when you are doing your regimen.

You can use this product while wearing protective styles by applying the product to your scalp and edges but be sure to moisturize your hair as well.

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What’s your workout routine/ diet. Because that body is goals sis 🤩

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Well recently I’ve been on a champagne diet and that’s not good 😆 But I try my best.

Eat raw vegetables at least once a day. No salt, no oil. Cut a bunch of veggies green peppers, celery etc and chew your food properly. You need to chew your food slowly!

There’s sugar in everything: ketchup, sauces etc keep that in mind! And do not drink soda! Soda truly is poison. I understand that it’s close to impossible to get away from the sugary drinks completely. I got hooked on Starbucks green tea matcha latte lol But I’m very careful and only order it every 3-4 days as a dessert.

I fast once a week meaning I only drink water that day. Sometimes if I’m too tired or dizzy while fasting, I’d eat a piece of protein ( e.g. a small piece of chicken breast or a boiled egg).

I’m a professionally trained ballet dancer. I did ballet from the age of 5 till 16. So I’m used to extreme dieting. I attended ballet school where I lived Monday - Friday. They’d weigh us and take measurements every week, sometimes every other day! So I’m very disciplined when it comes to my diet.

I do ballet workouts at home and attend classes/workshops for dancers with a ballet background,like me every other week, sometimes more frequently. I also do reformer Pilates with a personal trainer. And HIIT classes every other week. 100 push ups every day . A lot of stretching.

Typically I don’t eat anything 5 hours before going to bed.

If you need to lose weight, it’s better to concentrate on your diet and then figure out your workout regimen. It’s really quite simply you need to create calorie deficit meaning you need to spend more calories than you consume. It’s always uncomfortable and WILL make you tired and hungry. It’s important not to go crazy with it but there’s no other way and it will be uncomfortable. But doing both diet and working out as you’re actively losing weight is very difficult, and I wouldn’t recommend it. It’s too much. Depends of course how much weight you need to lose.

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowances...

Here’s something that’s been in my drafts folder for a while. Based on some of the posts I’ve read recently, I think it might come in handy…PLEASE DO NOT COPY AND PASTE. READ CRITICALLY. Take bits and pieces, make it your own, or summarize it in some way as a come back for those messages, texts, or dinner dates.

Him: Hi. Thanks for reaching out to my earlier message. Your pics are beautiful. While I completely understand the importance of chemistry…but should we get to a point where this matters, I’m a little uncomfortable with having our relationship defined by allowances. As I said in my profile, I am quite generous, and understand the importance of ‘spoiling my partner’ but still, the set allowance would probably not work for me. I hope you understand my thoughts….

Me: Thank you for your thoughts. I understand that you are in search of an escape and so am I. My escape would involve a real connection and a refined lifestyle. I am a little uncomfortable with having a relationship that is only defined by sex… especially when the guy is attached and somewhat unavailable. I’m a beautiful young woman with no lack of suitors. I have a busy social life and I’m currently working to build a business/ pursuing my degree. I chose this kind of relationship in part because I have so little time for love. That’s not to say that my (romantic) time is not very valuable to me. It is. What I don’t value are shoes, handbags, and/or expensive dinners. These are things that I can purchase myself. Furthermore, these do nothing for me in the long run as much as say you investing in my company/ education would. I hope you understand that I’d need tangible showings… actions that illustrate I am valued… that my companion wants to put a smile on my face/ make me feel special/wants the best for me. AN ALLOWANCE WOULD DO THAT FOR ME. By the same token, I want my companion to feel comfortable telling me specifically how I could put a smile on his face/make HIM feel special/ valued. In any case, I am a rare catch and therefore am in no rush to find the man who “gets it” and me. Good luck on your search!

Now doesn’t this sound better than saying “Bitch Please! I am hot and young and you want me to spend my time on your old ass while your wife gets the unlimited credit card and I get nada! FUCK YOU!”

I will never understand when a woman is confident in herself she’s seen as stuck up or snobby.

Like damn your insecurity is really showing.

A Morning Manifestation

i am a divine being.

i am consistently divinely guided & protected.

i attract an abundance of wealth, an abundance of love, an abundance of prosperity, & an abundance of blessings every single day.

i am the creator of my reality.

i am healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, & spiritually.

i am in tune with myself.

i continue to heal, grow, & progress, & i allow myself to do this.

i am warm & kind to others, but set firm & tangible boundaries.

i align myself with my values, & with the values of my highest self.

if it is meant for me it will come to me, & if not, something better is on its way to me.

i am one with my power: my mind, my body, my soul, & my spirit are aligned.

i free myself of resistance & all which no longer serves me.

thank you universe, i am eternally grateful 🤍🪐

A blessing is about to happen I just know it will.