By: Martin Evans

How male victims of domestic abuse often end up getting arrested themselves
The Telegraph
Research suggests male victims of domestic abuse are failing to report attacks for fear of being arrested themselves

By: Martin Evans

Published: Jan 14, 2016

Male victims of domestic abuse are reluctant to report attacks because they are often subjected to false accusations themselves, according to new research.

More than 700,000 men each year are thought to fall victim to violent attacks at the hands of their partners, but many are too ashamed to report the offences.

It was thought much of the underreporting was due to men feeling embarrassed by the stigma of being a domestic violence victim.

But new research has suggested that many of those who do come forward risk being arrested themselves, after their abusers make false accusations against them.

Dr Jessica McCarrick, a Senior Lecturer in Counselling Psychology at Teesside University, who carried out a study with male abuse victims, said they were often treated with suspicion by the criminal justice system.

She said their experiences were not only dismissed by some police officers, but they could even find themselves under arrest when their partners turned the tables on them.

Dr McCarrick said: “Men find it incredibly difficult to talk about their experiences of domestic violence because of the shame and emasculation they feel is associated with it.

“To find the courage to speak out, only to be accused of violence themselves, is incredibly disheartening and ultimately prevents countless men from reporting intimate partner violence.”

Abuse charities also claim they are finding an increasing number of male victims coming to them to seek advice after becoming the subject false accusations.

Mark Brooks, chairman of the Mankind Initiative charity, which takes calls from around 1,000 men per year, said: “Over the past ten years we have seen a steady increase in the number of callers to our helpline stating they have been the victims of false allegations.

“The type of thing we hear is ‘my wife or girlfriend has said if I leave, or tell anyone, she will say I was the one attacking her and she was just defending herself.”

“It is an extremely powerful weapon in the armoury of the perpetrator and leaves the victim feeling trapped and helpless.”

Police forces insist they are making great strides in tackling the problem with the number of women convicted of domestic abuse quadrupling in the last decade from 806 in 2004/05 to 3,735 in 2013/14.

But the problem remains still largely hidden and campaigners insisting much more needs to be done to encourage victims to come forward and have the confidence to report an offence.

One male victim who took part in the study, but did not want to be named described how he had been arrested on three separate occasions following false allegations by his wife.

He said: “In the latest incident I made the initial complaint to police as my wife assaulted me. But when they arrived, they showed little concern and instead arrested me because my wife made a counter allegation.

“I certainly feel that more compassion and empathy needs to be shown towards male victims of domestic violence.”

Dr McCarrick, said his account was not uncommon adding: “Within my research, the predominant experience is of men being arrested under false charges and their disclosures of being the victim are not taken seriously, despite having evidence.”

She said domestic abuse must be viewed as a human issue rather than a gender issue with more services and support available to enable men to seek help and support.

She added: “Campaigners and researchers made waves in the 1970’s, which had a positive impact and improved service provision for women – it is time to do the same for men.”

“Promoting awareness of the plight of male survivors may encourage men to report abuse and feel assured that they will be taken seriously.

“Intimate partner violence is an issue which affects men and women within both heterosexual and homosexual relationships and I would like to see increased funding to improve service provision and development in order to support all people affected by this issue.”

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Rather than self-defense, the most usual motivations for violence by women, like the motivations of men, are coercion, anger, and punishing misbehavior by their partner (Cascardi & Vivian, 1995; Fiebert & Gonzalez, 1997; Kernsmith, 2005). For example, Pearson (1997) reports that 90% of the women she studied assaulted their partner because they were furious, jealous, or frustrated and not because they tried to defend themselves. These motives are parallel to the motivations of men perpetrators.

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Can you conceive handing this much power to a seventeen-year-old in reality? It's terrible enough that "responsible" adults have access to literal drone attacks, and we witness the direct effects when Peter in Far From Home fails to halt a drone strike on a classmate. It's played for laughs, but what was Tony thinking when he created this type of power without putting a check on it? Fury, Happy Hogan, Ant-Man, literally anybody else - there has to be someone with access to a kill-switch or something of the sort to prevent something dreadful from happening, like... Peter surrendering over the system under coercion, which is quite literally the plot of Far From Home. But, even from beyond the grave, we can sense Tony's arrogance. Bringing a kid into your own mess is crazy. And it was!

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1 year ago

did dream underpay and rush the animators of his "mask" music video?

short answer: no, quite the opposite actually

long answer: after seeing that post make its rounds yesterday, i posted on reddit detailing my attempt to get in contact with the production lead, phyre, to have her fact-check the screenshots from that post. we talked, she answered all my questions and pretty much debunked the claim that they're only being given "$250 total" for their work. case closed.

and then dream himself came swinging from behind with a proverbial metal folding chair :P

he left an essay in the comments of my post, complete with citations! for those of you unfamiliar with reddit, here is his post + the screenshots of his discord convos that he linked

Did Dream Underpay And Rush The Animators Of His "mask" Music Video?
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the narrative that dream is taking advantage of his young fans and exploiting them for cheap/free labor is false, and in fact, he paid them 3x the final amount. once the original deadline was missed, he didn't rush them further and gave them extra time. this can all be corroborated by phyre herself on twitter.

1 year ago

dream hasn’t admitted to sexually messaging underaged fans and he actually didnt so idk why ur lying

Okay so basically at the start of the August drama specifically, Tommy made a skit video. You might wanna watch it for context, and if you do, it's called if youtubers were honest.

Here's the part I will be talking about for the post, though

Also for more context, dream has admitted to sexually messaging underage fans, and still associates with George, who made openly sexist comments.

He had a section in there about how Dream handled the Qsmp situation and was basically just making fun of him.

After seeing this, Dream gets on Twitter and starts liking and unliking posts making fun of Tommy.

Inniters get mad, ofc.

Drm stans are ticked bc their precious baby pedo is being bashed, inniters are fighting back.

Drm stans are calling Tommy abelist for the way he portrayed dream, he was not being ableist, he portrayed every character similarly,and are saying he was joking about Dream getting doxxed, which he never did.

Inniters are pointing out that Dream has tried to take credit for Tommy's career before and that this is bot the first time Dream has behaved like a manchild.

And then the Drm stans go after motherinnit.

She fights back, we fight back, all out controversy, that brings us to where we are now.... awaiting Dream's twitlonger so we can watch Philza bash him and end his career. (This has yet to happen but the second it does I'll add it to the post)

Also, a helpful don't stop the party edit to help explain things too

Be careful though, it flashes.

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3 years ago

People agreed that I should do that post, so here is your anti-Tony library:

- Tony hurting Sam for no reason.

- Tony hurting Sam for no reason part 2.

- A list of bad things Tony has already done.

- Tony was deffending the Accords. Now, this is what the Accords were about.

- Tony wasn't just trying to kill Bucky, he also didn't care if Steve died in the process.

- Tony didn't really care about his team mates

- Tonys motivations to want the accords (from his own mouth)

- Tony's rant in Endgame was peak bullshit

- Tony's rant in Endgame was peak bullshit part 2

- Tony isn't and will never be a good father figure to Peter

- Tony loves to use other people's trauma as a joke

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- Tony loves to use other people's trauma as a joke part 3

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1 year ago

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9 months ago

Snape haters: How do people even like Snape?

Also Snape:

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*****

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*****

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“Fascinating,” said Snape, without looking at it.

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. . . Snape had managed to Disapparate just beyond the school’s boundaries.

*****

Snape gave her [Umbridge] an ironic bow and turned to leave.

*****

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*****

“Potter, when I want nonsense shouted at me I shall give you a Babbling Beverage. And Crabbe, loosen your hold a little, if Longbottom suffocates it will mean a lot of tedious paperwork, and I am afraid I shall have to mention it on your reference if ever you apply for a job.”

6 months ago

The "Main" Characters of the Generations Tend to be...a bit unsavory?

I was talking to my friend the other day about ‘Skins.“ She was talking about how the show is an ensemble show with an emphasis on one character on particular that acts as the face of the generation. Many people argue whether or not Franky was the face of Generation 3; however, she was suppose to be so for this post I am considering her as the face. Anyway, she brought up the fact that it seemed to her that the face of all the generations tends to be the characters who might not be the most likable. They are not usually the ones you think to yourself "oh, man I want to be her friend." 

This intrigued me. So I wanted to do some digging about the three faces of all the generations: Tony Stonem, Effy Stonem, and Franky Fitzgerald. 

Tony Stonem: Is someone who has sociopathic tendencies and a definite case of narcissistic personality disorder (apparently not recognized as a disorder–but he has it.) He manipulates people out of boredom to see what happens. He treats people as if they are pawns in his game disregarding their autonomy and their feelings. He uses sex as a symbol of his power over others. 

However, by the end of the series due to massive head trauma and his recovery. Tony becomes a more thoughtful person and learns to allow himself to show his feelings a bit more than he use to. He becomes more human and humbled by his situation. Though he does crave for that power and that passion again. 

Effy Stonem: Definitely has some sort of personality disorder. Psychotic Depression or Bi-Polar Disorder. She was selectively mute in the beginning and lived a double life. She does not understand the point of emotions and feels as if they get in the way. She plays games and uses people like Tony only sometimes she uses her powers to fix situations. Still she is quite secretive and is capable of using people’s weaknesses against them due to the fact she is quite perceptive.

By the end of the series she gets the help she needs and is on her way to recovery. She allowed herself to fall in love and even broadened group of friends to include several different personalities. She is also shown being more affectionate.

Franky Fitzgerald: She has extreme abandonment and intimacy issues. Which gives her that crazy pulling people told her and pushing people away at the same time vibe. She does not understand what love is and finds it quite baffling. In the beginning she did not have a real sense of self or identity. She is prone to run away from problems and accidentally hurt people as she runs and self-destructs.

At the end of the series Franky confronts her past and stops stringing along several of the other characters along her path of destruction. She is shown to have good intentions but she simply does not know how to love or what love is. However she desperately wants to find out.

All Three: Every one of the main faces of the series has issues with emotions especially love. Tony sees love in the beginning as a weakness. Refusing to declare his love for Michelle in fear that she will hold the power in the relationship. Seeing it as a sign of weakness. Effy sees love as something that is suffocating and that it actually crushes you by the intensity of it. Love tipped her over the edge psychological she did not know how to cope with the powerless feeling love gave her. Franky simply does not know what it means to love or to be loved unconditionally. She feels it with her adoptive fathers but she can’t comprehend or accept it after being denied it for so long. 

The main faces of the show are three people who have issues with emotions and have deep seeded psychological issues. They push many of the plot points forward with their issues and the things they must learn. They are the…destroyers. Some may be more easier to love than others, but all of them hurt people some meaning it and some on accident. THE BRINGERS OF DRAMA! 

1 year ago

Semi... controversial opinion. But i dont think pansy parkinson is racist. I think shes a bit of a bitch and was written to be just. The worst. 2 dimensional mean girl possible, but shes not racist.

The scene that people bring up when talking about her is when she taunts angelina about her hair, saying it looks like worms. Honestly, while a racist thing to Say, i dont think its indicative of her personal feelings on black people as a whole. Other than that, shes just Wizarding Racist, which like, isnt good, but i dont think its the same. (Though having all but one of the black characters she COULD interact with being gryfindors/not purebloods sure doesnt help).

More than anything, because i mostly see people bring this up in her relation to hermione (epsecially poc hermione), i think its silly to make that distinction because of one line. Like, if you can accept dramione or drarry or any other Bitchy Bully Villain/Nice Friendly Hero (esp when the good guy is widely headcanoned as black/poc), then pansy/hermione isnt any different. I could totally hear draco making that same comment to angelina, he just never did on screen.

Pansy was written to be an irridemable horrible person, but jkr did that by making her a bitchy mean girl who says whatever she things will get to someone with maybe 2 scenes a book and never actually affects anything except like once. Its not unreasonable that people would see her an go Its Free Real Estate, the same way they did with blaise and theo.

1 year ago

i hate racebending in movie adaptations so much


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