Why Is It Always "kink Can Be Non-sexual" But Never "grooming Can Be Non-sexual"?

Two people are standing in front of you. One is male, and says “I want to share a space with her”. The other is female, and says “I don’t want to share a space with him”.

Think: Which person do you listen to? Which person’s desires do you care more about? Which person’s preferences do you think are more important? Which person’s boundaries do you think are less important? Which person do you think is more important, and which person do you think is less important? Why?

when a lesbian doesn’t want to have sex with a biological man:  penises and vaginas are analogous organs and are pretty much entirely the same lol.  Just get over it, stop being so unscientific and bigoted.

when you want aesthetic surgery done on your genitals: this counts as life saving support, penises and vaginas are so entirely different and people will die if they don’t have this procedure done

why do men want to be gynecologists? why? why. gynecology is for females and should be practiced solely by women imo 

TRAs criticising a female author: CANCEL JKR I CAN'T BELIEVE I LOVED HARRY POTTER. I'M GETTING MY DEATHLY HALLOWS TATTOO REMOVED AND BURNING THE BOOKS I OWNED! FUCK ANYTHING MADE BY TRANSPHOBES!! ALSO THE PLOT WASN'T THAT GOOD AND THE CHARACTER NAMES ARE SHIT AND SHE'S A RACIST NAZI HOLOCAUST DENIER NAZI NAZI RACIST!!!

TRAs criticising a male author: ...well yeah Hussie wrote the r-word a few dozen times throughout homestuck and they also made Dave say the n-word once but it's ok because we should separate the art from the artist guys... Besides Dave is aracial anyway! Respect Hussie's pronouns please they're nonbinary 🥺 anyway here's an essay about why every character is trans uwu

The more I debate with TRAs, the more I realise that they genuinely believe that masculinity and feminity DO NOT exist as social concepts but rather as individual traits that can be mixed and matched and then attached to a word. For example, talking to a transman, I asked them what masculinity is, and they responded with "it is whatever you want it to be" or a good one I always hear is "masculinity means different things to different people".

TRAs genuinely believe that the concepts of masculinity and femininity are traits that are just attached to words. These words are empty vessels that THEY attach meaning to. They aren't defining a word; they are describing THEMSELVES. So when you ask a Trans person, "What are masculinity and femininity?" to them the question is received as "Describe who you are? or Describe yourself?" Thus, why, gender is something that is/can mean anything to anybody.

They have no structural conceptualisation of gender because, to them, gender is not a tool or even an ideology. It is the self. So when radfems say "woman is not a gender" or "women are adult human females," they cannot conceptualise or even grasp this because, to them, gender is the self. How can women be without the 'self'?

If you are Trans and reading this, you are describing gender as a personality. LMAO.

some of yall need to understand that "my body, my choice" also applies to:

addicts in active addiction with no intention of quitting

phys disabled people who deny medical treatment

neurodivergent people who deny psychiatric treatment (yes, including schizophrenic people and people with personality disorders)

trans people who want or don't want to medically transition (yes, including trans masc lesbians with top surgery and trans women without bottom surgery, yall are so weird to them wtf)

and if you can't understand that, then you don't get to use the phrase

Let me describe to you what kind of world gender abolitionists actually dream about: When a child would be born it’s biological sex, being an actual physical reality, would be noticed but not a single assumption regarding the child’s personality would be made based on it. Growing up, children would be free to chose what toys and clothes they prefer. If they want to play with toy trucks or dolls, it would be fine either way. If they want to dress comfortably or in frilly colorful dresses, it would be fine. Regardless of the child’s biological sex. Certain personality traits would not be encouraged in members of one sex and discouraged in the other. Females would be free to be strong, brave and assertive and males would not be shamed for being shy and soft spoken. No female child would be called a tomboy and no male child would be called a sissy. No kid would ever be bullied for what we in our gendered world call “gender expression”. When children would reach puberty they would still be free to dress how they want. Females would not be pressured to wear clothes that reveal their bodies and males would not be shamed if they chose to. Everybody would have a free choice of accessories, which would not be categorized as “men’s” or “women’s” but people could should whichever they liked. Or chose to not wear accessories at all if that’s what they are more comfortable with. Females would not be pressured to keep their bodies slim, soft and hairless. Males would not be pressured to be athletic and muscular. Expectations of femininity and masculinity upon the body would not exist and affect negatively people’s relationship with their own body. Everyone could choose a career without fearing stigmatization within that particular field because of their biological sex. The most important thing would be competence and not what someone has between their legs. Domestic work would not be considered “women’s work” and would be shared equally between the sexes. Biological sex would only be thought about when relevant. Like for example in regards to issues surrounding sexual activity, reproduction or treatment of medical conditions related to a person’s biological sex. And everyone would be free to be themselves without ever having to worry about gender expectations. Nobody would feel the need to repress certain parts of their personality and exaggerate others in order to fit into some gender role that is being forced on them. Gender abolitionism is not about restricting people’s choices but about giving them greater freedom.

http://burningax.wordpress.com/2014/10/06/a-gender-free-world-boring/ (via genderheretic)

-Sofia

(via askaradfem)

Yeah these people don't seem like transmisogynists to me or anything

sick of normal girls appropriating weird girl culture. you had friends in school you don’t get to reblog these posts