Tips For Safer/more Pleasurable BDSM Play :3
tips for safer/more pleasurable BDSM play :3
1. Ensure Consent (obviously)
Consent is agreeing to engage with an understanding of what’s going to happen, with whom it’s going to happen, and the potential risks. Consent can only be given free of coercion, manipulation, or pressure.
2. Set Boundaries (duh)
For people who may be new to BDSM, there may not yet be a clear sense of what boundaries are needed.
3. Stay Sober (unless you’re into it)
Some people may feel nervous and want to have a drink or a toke to take the edge off. This can dull the senses and make it more difficult to know when either you or a partner is reaching their limit. BDSM is about getting into another headspace to fully explore one’s sexuality – allow yourself to be fully present for it
4. Establish Safe-words and Gestures (must have)
A safe word is an agreed upon term that, when used, will immediately cease all activities and prompt a check-in. It’s also a good idea to have a safe gesture, especially when play involves restriction of speech or air. When thinking about what this might be, imagine the types of scenes where this would be relevant.
5. Traffic Light System (useful)
Green light indicates that everything is good and can continue. Yellow means that someone is nearing their limit and may need to slow down but doesn’t need to stop. Red light is a hard stop at least to check in, and possibly to end the scene.
6. Aftercare (always, always, always do this)
We sometimes get so focused on the ‘main event’ that we don’t think through to the end. BDSM practices can bring up significant feelings for many people. Think about what you’ll need when the scene is over and make this a part of the agreement. Some people want to be cuddled or held, others may want food or water
7. Take Time To Reflect (either self, or together)
BDSM practices may bring out parts of you that you weren’t aware of before. Take some time to reflect on scenes and your experience of them.
8. Revisit Agreements (things do change)
As our awareness of ourselves and our interests grows, so might our willingness to explore. Be open to revisit or revise agreements with a play partner as needed.
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I whine gently as I feel you slip off my soft little pyjama bottoms, your big warm hands running up the backs of my legs.
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“Shut the fuck up.”
Your hand covers my mouth, yanking my pretty face up out of its hiding place just at the same moment as your big, thick cock pushes its way inside me.
“Mmh! N- n- nnnnn…”
“God, you’re so wet.” Your voice is right by my ear, your cock stretching out my tight little holes.
Pounding into me. Over and over again. Harder and harder. Making me scream. Making me cry.
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She lays down in bed after her game session, and her obsessor has been “strange” in the call, threatening her and acting ominous. She opens her eyes to a man in a mask chocking her, sitting on top of her and stopping the air from going to her lungs, she struggles but cannot escape his grip. Her vision goes dark and she blacks out, waking up later tied with her head dangling over the bed, she looks upside down as the man pull outs a knife. Striking genuine fear into her as he cuts her night gown. “I meant all that talk I told you earlier” he says, carving a “K” on her thigh. Blood drips to the bed and beside her very eye as pain stings her with pleasure and submission, fully knowing that her very life depends on him. He shoves his cock in her mouth and places the knife down her throat, roughly pushing her head into the bed, she remembers how he choked her earlier and begins making a mess. Slobbering everywhere and eventually, not moving.. he notices and cums deep in her throat, pulling it out and lifting her head, her eyes are almost blank as she says “ I’ll fill your pussy next, you gonna struggle? “ she replies with crying eyes” no master..” he inches closer to her… “good girl..” slightly cutting her shoulder.
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