one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become
i really looked up to the person i was 3 years ago, and spent the better half of a year moping and mourning the loss of that person because i’d “changed for the worse”.
recently found a diary from the same period i was romanticising and lo and behold! i was depressed asf back then too, and hated life, but i just thugged things out instead of feeling sorry for myself (and had an actual support system in place. so the only difference since then isn’t even my fault).
moral of the story is stop being so damn hard on yourself
For everyone who's sad the Olympics is ending, saying such things as "what will I ever watch now? what will I do, there are no more sports?!" : Watch the Paralympics? Please, watch the Paralympics! It takes place between August 28th and September 8th. Disabled athletes deserve to be hyped up, too!
and this is when i started lying. let me make your misunderstandings easier for you <3
“I stopped explaining myself when I realized people only understand from their level of perception.”
— Unknown
Penetration is a gender-neutral act. Topping is gender-neutral. Bottoming is gender-neutral. You are not more or less of a man or a woman depending on how you fuck. You are not “fake trans” for having sex a certain way. You are not any less masculine for bottoming or any less feminine for topping.
the struggle isn’t being a good liar during the interview
it’s keeping the lies up after you get the job
— Nikita Gill
Hello obey me fandom
if it ain’t like this i don’t want it (probably why i’m still single)
“A healthy relationship is where two independent people just make a deal that they will help the other person be the best version of themselves.”
— Unknown
early stages of friendship are Soooo embarrassing like yea sorry....... it's me again............ i enjoy talking to you and spending time with you....... you can shoot me point blank if you want i dont mind