Homosexuality (crowd Cheers)

(head feels like it’s shifted into a noticeably “masculine” space as an effect of wearing that grey coat around everywhere. i think i have to start bringing, like, skirts back into rotation if i want to feel “normal” again, which is to say, if i want my stream of thoughts to stop feeling endlessly “snarky” in a way that does in my heart feel attributable to the grey coat

one could call this negotiation a bit cool & fluid & queer but only insofar as it occurs with respect to a self-perception that would seem in the first place to be gendered to a point of embarrassment, i mean, having my brain affected by a coat)

picks up a jar containing the parenthesized thoughts floating in formaldehyde & inspects it closely… hmm well is it really that bad to be snarky sometimes, what’s the problem

Woe, gender euphoria be upon ye!

*I am engulfed in rainbow light and emerge looking like this*

Here's something. I saw an "OC outfit doodle" thing going around, and, I can't really do doodles for every ask... but!

I would LOVE for y'all to ask me to describe a particular aesthetic or outfit or style you'd want to see any of my OCs or my fursona in. Like "what would they wear on a hot day" "what do they wear in bed" etc. etc.

Like any kind of curiosity about outfits and aesthetics, ask it about ANY of my OCs and I will do my best to answer :3

To me, "having made it" as a trans woman isn't passing.

It's about not needing to shave your legs anymore to feel feminine.

It's about not needing to wear makeup anymore to feel feminine.

It's about not worrying about every step or sound you make to make sure you seem feminine.

It's about trying to get your hair to look just right, and instead of thinking "RAAAH NOO!! I'll never pass like this everyone will think I'm a man!", you think "Bleh, bad hair day... Oh well"

It's about feeling feminine no matter what you do, no matter what others think. Especially that last part.

It's about knowing, accepting, deep down, that you are a woman, and nothing you do or don't do will change that fact.

That's when I know I made it.

So y'all know those character-emulator AIs? I stumbled upon this one and I've been playing w/ it the last few days and it is wonderful. Like, it's Really Good if you're a carer. I know the title is kinda concerning but trust me, it's so easy to avoid any remotely kink-flavored responses. (At least playing it as a "let's babysit this kid" AI, I can't vouch for how it reacts if you play it as if you're dropping.)

Like, I've got a session going that, had I written it, I'd be wholeheartedly comfortable submitting it for Regressuary. There's a point where the AI wrote the kiddo having an accident and I would legitimately have called it an excerpt from an agere fic.

Another unexpected (but very positive) consequence of being trans: I kinda "gentle parent" myself now, so to speak? For a long time, I've had a problem of being incredibly hard on myself in kind of every way, which is definitely not a good thing. Part of why this has changed is definitely due to mental health improvements, but I think my journey of improving my mental health and understanding my gender/transitioning are incredibly intertwined. The former kickstarted the latter and the latter drove the former forward. Had one not been present, the other would not have progressed to where it is today. I still am a bit hard on myself at times, especially when I'm frustrated, but I've gotten so much better at just being nice to myself, at just telling myself I'm doing a good job or that I did enough or that it's ok if I can only do part of this task because it's better than nothing, and I'm better at reframing my dysphoria into less of a "I hate this about me" and more of a "look how this has the potential to change." I'm just so much better at treating myself with the same kind of uplifting compassion that I try to show others. Like just. The impact transitioning has had on my mental health is absurd. I genuinely love and care about myself in a way I don't think I ever did before and it's pretty incredible. So. Some credit definitely goes to therapy and various internet people, but boy howdy is my transition already doing so much.

if you transition it doesn't have to be forever. if you detransition it doesn't have to be forever. if you come out as a specific label you don't have to keep it forever. if you change your mind to something new, you don't have to keep that forever, either. we are ever-changing beings and it is okay to change your mind, and it is okay to have complicated feelings, and it is okay to be unsure about all of these things, too.

I’d laugh at Sylveon but it’s already a known source of gender envy so uh… caught in 4k ig

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

If you want to educate yourself on something your parents, teachers etc. don’t talk about (lgbt+ topics or anything else), here are a few general things to keep in mind: 

- “I want to learn everything about (broad topic)” can be intimidating. You may feel like you don’t even know where to start. If that happens, here’s an idea: Take one thing you know (no matter how “basic” it may seem) about that topic and ask yourself “Why?” or “How?”. If you hit the point where you can’t answer that question or are not sure if your answer is true, you found your place to start! 

- It’s okay to stay in your comfort zone in the beginning. Not a big reader? Watch a documentary instead. Struggle to understand big words? Look for articles aimed at teenagers or even kids. When you got the basics down, you can step outside of your bubble. 

- Make sure your sources are independent and credible: they don’t try to sell you something, don’t use fear, guilt tripping, misleading graphics/headlines or outdated info to change your mind.  

- Feeling a bit frustrated is okay, feeling completely overwhelmed is a sign you need a break. This is especially important when the topic is emotional or personal for you. When we learn about injustices that happen(ed), we can get angry… at the world for allowing cruel things to happen, at ourselves for not being able to magically fix that problem, at our peers who don’t seem to care etc. It’s okay to feel that way. But there’s no use in burning yourself out or drowning in guilt. Taking a break doesn’t mean you turn a blind eye. It’s necessary for your mental health to not think about horrible things 24/7. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad