I Really Want To Reapproach The Way I See Success.
i really want to reapproach the way i see success.
i think ive slowly been doing it for a few years now, but theres definitely more i can do.
i always think of it in the grand life goal kind of way.
but it doesnt need to be that..
and for me, i really wanna see if i can find things in my day-to-day life that are, a success.
did i put myself out of my comfort zone that day trying something new?
did i take a deep breath and calm my thoughts before getting frustrated at somebody?
did i show care to myself even when i felt unworthy of life?
did i do anything where if i was reading a book about me. would i be proud of the bee on that page?
because the answer is probably yes most days. but im not treating myself as if thats the case.
im so harsh to myself and i know this. i give grace to others where i would never for myself.
i just want to treat myself gently.
so cheers to small successes, the steps forward even when theres also steps backward..
and to not just treating others the way we want to be treated, but treating ourselves that way too.
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i really cannot understand how people see disabled life as this glamorised lazy life. i genuinely cannot wrap my head around this.
how could ANY of what i go through be seen that way i just dont get it.
marfan syndrome :)
okay! on the research list! ๐ฉท
THIS IS GENIUS WHY HAVE I NEVER DONE THIS
slay ty to ur partner for accidental allyship
People who spend a lot of time in/on bed, I have a recommendation for you... Go to some big and cheap store like Kmart and get yourself a kids activities tray!
My partner got this for doing crafts on the couch but we've repurposed it to be a writing surface for my bed-rot days. It's not perfect (I'd prefer a surface a bit higher, and it squishes these thicc thighs a bit) but it's a pretty good stop-gap for $10-20
hot take apparently but just because youre disabled doesnt mean you arent ableist. being disabled doesnt erase your internalized (or externalized) ableism.
if youre paralyzed and you think ambulatory wheelchair users are 'less deserving' of a wheelchair, thats ableism.
if you have adhd and you make fun of autistic people, thats ableism.
if you have dyslexia and think dyscalculia and dyspraxia arent "real problems," thats ableism.
if you have any disability and think ableists should be 'punished' for their ableism by becoming disabled themselves. believe it or not that is in fact ableism, because it perpetuates the idea that disability is something shameful or something that only happens to bad people
reaching out for help feels like this:
โhi, i know i need help and i am not coping.. and i dont know what to do that will help meโ
โwell what do you need from us exactly? what do you want me to do?โ
โi dont knowโฆ?โ
โwell i cant do what you dont ask forโ
โgreat.โ
maddening that the media refuses to call nazi salutes what they are. HOW ARE WE HERE RIGHT NOW. fucks sake.
anyway be normal about people with renal or gastrointestinal disabilities and conditions. your personal hang ups about anyone's disability are worthless. leave them far away from disabled people.
ughhh if u say soooo ๐
Annual reminder to my fellow disabled and/or chronically ill folks that the new year doesn't mean you have to set arbitrary goals and reinvent yourself just because everybody else does. You will still be disabled next year and no amount of planning and setting goals will change that. You're already lovely as you are. Don't let society suck you into this shit that is just so unrealistic and toxic even for non disabled people. Take care.
