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As an aromantic, I find that when it comes to my stance on romance, I’m ok with what would be considered “romantic” gestures, in fact I love them. However when the gestures start being taken in a romantic context, I start feeling uncomfortable. Also for the most part I’m fine with romance and am usually my friends’ biggest supporter when it comes to their relationships, it’s not until, again the attraction and/or(?) romance is directed at me that I start to feel uncomfortable.
Local aromantic asexual here to give non asexual aromantic/aroallo people my support
Giving every aroallo, just aro, and non-asexual aromantic person a respectful nod, hug, high five, handshake, or smile
I relate to this so much, especially the part about caring(?) about your friends, but not necessarily wanting(?) friendship (I’m not sure if I’m wording this right)
Being aplspec makes discussions about friendships in aro spaces so awkward like. Yeah I agree friendship should be given more respect and amatonormativity should be dismantled. Yes I care very deeply for my friend(s). No I can't relate to your experiences with friendship or wanting friends. You've lost me. Why are you talking about friendship as if everyone has and/or wants it. Hey. Whatever happened to allowing people to decide what relationships they want and what those relationships entail for themselves.
It's exhausting because aro spaces are often one of the only spaces that will respect my devotion and care (sometimes I even call it love, depending on how I'm feeling that day) for my friend, but friendship is also just treated like romance is everywhere else and no one even seems to notice. You're not gonna defeat amatonormativity with the power of platonormativity. Have you considered readjusting your understanding of relationship anarchy and questioning your own biases and assumptions about platonic relationships? I'm drowning in "use friendship as a substitute for romance" posts over here
(and it's like. I don't want to criticize people's love for their friends or anything like that. I'm just so tired of all the assumptions of having and wanting friends. They're everywhere in here and make me feel so estranged from my own community)
(this turned into a bit of a vent but it's okay to rb and add on)
I hope everyone had a nice aromantic visibility day
Happy Aro day for people with really specific labels!!!
Happy Aro day for people with no real labels!!!
Happy Aro day to everyone outside of that or somewhere in-between!
Do something nice for yourself no matter if you're in or out of the closet!!
happy first aromantic visibility day to all arospecs !!!!
HAPPY AROMANTIC DAY OF VISIBILITY
happy aro day of visibility to!
loveless aros
lovequeer aros
aroallos
aroaces
aros in relationships
aros in qprs
nonpartnering aros
aros who experience romantic attraction sometimes
aros who never have and never will
gay and lesbian aros
straight aros
mspec aros
trans aros
cis aros
romance repulsed aros
romance favourable aros
romance neutral aros
aros who ship
aros who don’t
aros who are good at relationship advice
aros who when asked for advice spin a wheel in their brain with the options “talk it out” and “dump his ass”
religious aros
aros of colour
disabled aros
neurodivergent aros
non-sam aros
aros in the closet
aros who are still working thru all that stuff
aros who are questioning if they’re aro or not
aros who have known for ages
all aros!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Here’s a second picture for pride month!
Second picture of pride month! My oc and somewhat self insert, Alex “Ace” Summners! Pansexual and Arospec, just like me. She’s a lovely that I will hopefully be drawing more since improving her design a bit.
All Kwamis are aroace.
I'm probably late to figure it out, I just recently rejoined the fandom but I still think it's cool.
Tikki said Kwamis don't fall in love. Miraculous holders might, but Kwamis don't.
That's confirmed Aro.
Also they're probably asexual as well. Like, how would they do the *you know what* anyway??? It's not like they have organs for that anyway.
They're probably not sexually attracted as well. Because I don't see how they would.
So anyway yeah aall Kwamis are aroace.
Happy ace week!
why smut with an ace character?
This person was a minor so I won’t reply directly. I would love to discuss sexual orientation and the wibbly wobbly nature of attraction and pleasure to someone who I think needs a space to discuss it but as an adult stranger? That’s not my place and I would be wildly uncomfortable doing so directly. But! For anyone who does see my blog and wonders why, I’ll have this set on my master list to save me time
Heheheheh MY TIME HAS COME
closing in on 5 months of being on tumblr and this is my first “BUT ACE!” Comment/inbox
so, why?
✦Alastor is canonically Ace! The aro aspect was mentioned by an important staffer but has been left off as a descriptor by Viv herself and no accepted as canon. She gave her explicit permission to write them as we are comfortable with.
✦Asexuals can and do fuck! 💦 (my source? My ace spec partner!)
✦Alastor’s ace spectrum is often times an important aspect of my stories!
I always have Alastor motivated into sexual situations for non-sexual reasons.
Closeness, intimacy, fulfilling a partner’s needs, a biological imperative, for power, for control, putting someone into a submissive to embarrassing position. It’s to see someone break and bend to his will (with consent).
But lets shift into asexuality now --- how I write him isn't a representation of all ace people! It’s just how I view his place on the spectrum. Being Ace doesn't mean you can't ever want sexual pleasure in any form, it doesn't mean you never think about sex or enjoy seeing it.
Letting people explore the range of being asexual is as important as with any other sexual orientation. If you feel people being non-sex repulsed and being Ace is making your own identification harder to make clear to strangers —- well then I wonder if the label itself is more important to you than the community we all desperately seek and need when we publicly acknowledge our sexuality. We publicly say we’re LGBTQIA+ because these labels are for self identification and signal to like minded people and allies we're here. This is how I love and how I want to be loved. Maybe one day a different word will exist to separate the spectrum but we’re living and working with what we have today and how we find each other now. “Why not call him grey ace?” It’s each individuals decision how they wanna identify!
Full circle. Why do I write SO much smut about an ace character? Of course I think that animated deer man’s personality is hot lmao but also because I love this character and identify with him a lot! Being ace doesn't mean he doesn't ever have sex or ever enjoy physical pleasures! Writing about someone seeking out pleasure for non-sexual reasons is very fun for me as someone who doesn't identify with the romantic aspect of sex many people put on it. Do ace people fuck for romantic reasons? Yes! Absolutely! Being Asexual doesn’t mean you’re Aromantic!
Why not write fluff or QPR? Because I'm aromantic and it's harder for me but I am trying and am getting better at it because I want to write more things that meet the needs and wants of many kinds of people. As for QPR, I'm still learning what those relationships look like and learning how to idenfity them in my own life!
And finally— it’s valid to write him as any form of Ace or even not Ace at all! I prefer to keep him Ace spec but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong to make him not. He’s not real and the creator has given us permission to do so. 👌🏼
Happy Aro Week!!! 💚🤍🩶🖤
Have this meme I made bc I REFUSE to believe that this is just me sksk—
Yeah! And like share my deepest darkest secrets with, and overall just feel really comfortable with that person, in a way that’s a deeper connection than a friend, but not 100% romantic either.
Thank you!!
Any other aroace people in a weird spot where like you want to be in a relationship, but don’t understand what you want from it? Like I want that emotional connection and feeling that close to somebody, but it’s hard for me to believe that that will happen. Because I never really meet anybody I just understand, and I l think understands me in that exact way that’s sort of romance but slightly different, so I just end up feeling lonely and stuck
Anyway sorry for the rant, just curious!
Any other aroace people in a weird spot where like you want to be in a relationship, but don’t understand what you want from it? Like I want that emotional connection and feeling that close to somebody, but it’s hard for me to believe that that will happen. Because I never really meet anybody I just understand, and I l think understands me in that exact way that’s sort of romance but slightly different, so I just end up feeling lonely and stuck
Anyway sorry for the rant, just curious!
cant even enjoy having a crush when youre arospec where other people are giggling and twirling their hair youre sitting ruminating over this feeling akin to a fatal infection while trying to work like this
This is actually really pretty!! I like it
Ah, hey, first post here. My english is not soo good and I'm brazilian btw, but, i have something to share with you 🫵
This is a version of the aromantic flag made by me, honestly i don't like so much the green, gray and black one, so i made this, i tried to post on reddit but I think it don't worked out as well as I expected. Well, here we go
The isolated flag if you want it
Whenever i hear my friends talk about crushes or relationships i get really confused. Like, one of my friends was talking about how this guy (one he's hard-core pining for) called him "dear", and how happy(?) he was about it. And i'm just ???What???? Why is that good?? it just sounds really uncomfortable to me,,, Like i get platonic(?) crushes, i've had many of those, but i lack much understanding of romantic ones...
i'm quoiromantic, because i know i don't really feel romantic attraction the same amount as the average person, but i also know that i couldn't tell you the difference between platonic and romantic affection/attraction if you were to ask me.