Arospec - Blog Posts

Finally realising I'm aromamtic (or at least om the aro spectrum) really made me think about all those past experiences as to why I was so bewildered that people like people THAT way irl. Kinda crazy to think about

Wdym you wanna do more than hangout and do those stuff?? You mean that happens in thsi world?? Whaa

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y’all are welcome here!! :]

Reblogging because this relates to me. ❤️ (AroAce Spectrum)

"but aces and aros can be in relationships"

Yes, I know that, but do YOU know that aces and aros in relationships are still aces and aros? Do you internalize that? Are you aware that we don't just suddenly turn straight, or gay or anything else?

Yes, even demis

Are you aware that a sex repulsed asexual will still be sex repulsed even in a relationship, and so, might never fuck you?

Are you aware that a romance repulsed aro will still be romance repulsed even in a seemingly normative relationship and might not like doing typical romantic gestures and activities?

Are you aware that a sex neutral or positive asexual might not actually be sexually attracted to you at all even if they do fuck you?

Are you aware that a romance neutral or positive aro might not actually be romantically into you even if they are comfortable with typical romantic gestures?

Are you aware that our identities are just as permanent as yours?

I think I'm in aroace spectrum too, but probably that's because I'm a minor and I've never had sexual interaction with anyone, but I think that bc lately, I haven't felt romantic attraction or fell in love with anyone else. But now, I'm in love with an old friend of mine, so I guess I'm in aroace spectrum now <3

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i am probably on aroace spectrum but my country's at war so idrc about that rn

I just remembered last week was aro week

Happy belated aro week!

Sorry i missed it :(

i need an aromantic character in media who loves romance for everyone EXCEPT themselves and confuses everyone with their logic

like this-

aro: awww those two are so cute together! seriously their relationship is just UGH. the CUTEST EVER. they are just MEANT for each other. i just love their relationship and chemistry and everything!

allo: so, you want a partner?

aro: OH MY GOD NO WTF. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT? look, romance is just completely illogical and toxic. i could get everything in a relationship with a friend. i WANT to be alone. no romance. its weird and gross and stu- OH MY GOD CAN YOU TWO JUST KISS ALREADY. seriously those two are so obvious, and they would be so cute together, right?!

allo: w h a t

god okay when somebody needs you hits especially hard for a romance-repulsed aro

because i physically cannot ever feel romance, i can't feel the love that a lot of people crave, but this song captures that

the idea that people can't possible care for you if you're unable to love and sometimes even repulsed by the concept of it, when it's so focal to society. the idea that at the core, what i really want is just "someone who'll worry about [me]", all i've ever wanted is to be needed by someone and never just a second priority because i can never provide love.

and the final stanza hnnn the "if love conquers all, then all else must have failed, i mean who wants to fall, can't we just take the stairs" the idea that love conquers all because it's so focal to an amatonormative world and amatonormative society, and i personally read it as skepticism that, really, is love the solution to it all? surely there are people and there are concepts who have yet to fail. surely i have yet to fail.

i have more thoughts but i can't phrase them right now just asdljkf

“nooo don’t cry ;-;”

or what? ur gonna sit behind ur screen and tell me what to do???? or are you gonna pull up and hug me and comfort me???? r u gonna make me a hot chocolate and watch tmnt with me on my couch until i fall asleep with my head on ur shoulder???? r u gonna carry me into my bed and tuck me in and join me for the night??? r u gonna be there the next morning to make sure i eat breakfast and take my meds???? or r u just gonna dm me and pathetically ignore me the next day????

I found this on Pinterest and I shared it because I support ace and aro folks.

I live in America! I am a lesbian! I am aromantic and asexual! These mfs probably don’t even know what those things mean.

Take me! Take me fucking kicking and screaming! I am not going to stop! I don’t give a shit! You can burn my yaoi, but you’ll never fucking forget it. I hope you lay down at night and when you close your eyes all you can see is my face smiling back at you.

I will die laughing. I will laugh forever.

AND YOU WILL HEAR IT!

Commentary on aroace/lesbian “fujoshi”

CW: talk of porn (the good and the bad), sex, and gender. Pretty graphic language and imagery. Sex repulsed aroace people BEWARE.

I would like to start this off by saying I am an aroace lesbian. What does that mean? Simply - I don’t want sex, nor romance, but if I did, I know where I’d find it. I love WOMEN. All women. Any women. I also really like yaoi, and I’ve seen some minimal discussion about specifically women who love yaoi or BL, and I’d like to add my two cents.

Several people online seem to take “lesbians liking yaoi” as just a natural reaction to the overall market of fiction. That is to say, there’s not a lot of options. There is a side to yuri which appeals to women, yes. But the way I see it, it’s either magical girl or slice of life, or, written by a man. And most of the stuff written by men is porn - bad porn. Thus it doesn’t appeal to women who actually like women.

In the same vein there is hetero stuff, which some lesbian/aroace yaoi enjoyers say doesn’t appeal to them because the majority of it has a male/female dynamic that is skewed. Oftentimes the woman is portrayed as weak or perhaps just isn’t a correct representation of the lesbian/aroace consumer. So why even bother?

Anecdotal, but I have had this experience too. I have a hard time getting into any kind of hetero ship because the women are often unrelatable or worse - just uninteresting. I don’t like men, so why would I care if it was just some faceless dame and her super hot husband? I don’t give a shit about him.

I’ve found that I enjoy a lot of hetero ships from demon slayer. Some may find this contradictory because there has been some commentary on the usefulness or intrigue around women in demon slayer. I think the demon slayer women are very interesting, story wise and appearance wise, and they fit very well with the men I ship them with. That is to say - men in demon slayer are simps for beautiful, strong, independent women - and I eat that shit up.

Most hetero stuff, however, is victimizing the women. Knowingly or unknowingly. It’s sad that if I want to get my rocks off to Mitsuri x Obanai, I have to scroll through like eight pages of the same inflation, big tits big ass no tummy, fart porn all sourced from the deepest dredges of Apocrypha. In fact, most of the time if you have the balls to like a fictional woman enough to want to see her getting respectfully banged, the cisgender heterosexual gooner men have already beaten you to the punch - and now you see her with her face in a smelly man’s ass. (All real examples by the way)

So it’s not to say I don’t like yuri, or hetero, it’s just that if I want to see women getting railed - I’m very particular. As I should be.

Yaoi, some people on the internet say, sets the men it’s focused around on equal footing. Instead of the woman being the damsel or a plain sexual object, the uke and seme are usually just two dudes. Not to say there aren’t power dynamics in yaoi - just to say that those power dynamics don’t hurt my pride as a woman. It doesn’t victimize a girl for somebody else’s sick kicks.

Yaoi, at least the kind I read, also can have an element of one man (the uke) usually being pretty soft or feminine. Why? Well that’s a pure reflection of how I (and other people) view sex. There is the giver and the receiver, the top and the bottom, the dom and the sub. Not that those lines don’t get crossed - they do, all the time. But as good ol’ Tevye says about Anatevka… TRADITION! (Sorry. It’s 3 AM)

The way I see it, it’s a way of having that traditional dynamic (pretty soft bottom and strong handsome top) without victimizing a woman. I do the same with yuri ships - I absolutely love love love a stone top with a pillow princess. And also - and I say this with no sense of shame - femboys are cute. Women are the superior form. Soz. So it’s awesome to see a man invoking his feminine side. It’s not like it makes him any less of a man. No matter how many times my mom peers at my drawings of Cloud Strife and says, “She’s pretty.” It doesn’t change the fact that he is him.

Gender is a fickle thing. It comes and it goes. I used to have a very conservative view of gender, and even sexuality. I was a “gold star lesbian”, and wanted nothing to do with men (still do, irl). You know what changed me? You’re gonna laugh. My Hero Academia. Oh, did I say you were gonna laugh? I meant cringe.

It’s not what you think. Bakudeku actually traumatized me - not the ship itself but one story I read on AO3 that I now understand for the masterpiece of terror and grossness it is. I would drop it but I don’t want to draw any undue attention to it.

What changed my mind on gender was actually Tomura. It didn’t even happen on purpose, l didn’t see him and go, “Oh he’s pretty, let’s dump a little more estrogen into him”. I shipped him with Dabi, paired them off as two dudes gettin it on, and I was loyal to my m/m ships. I ignored the ones tagged “Trans Tomura Shigaraki” because my brain refused to compute it. But then… I ran out of male fics. Well ran dry. I was getting anxious. I needed my shigadabi fix and how to get it?

Well. Can’t be that bad for Tomura to have a pussy.

… huh. He’s cute.

Oh no.

And that’s how it happened.

Just like that, my worldview shifted. Proud to say I’m a lot more open to gender and sexuality, now. It’s sometimes hard to admit that I used to have such rigid views. It’s a bit embarrassing - but I was also 13. My Hero just gave me the push I needed to grow up.

I’ll wrap it up now.

If you’re a lesbian or if you’re aroace and you like reading yaoi - don’t feel bad. Don’t even question it. Fiction is fiction, we’re here for such a short time you might as well enjoy the things you consume, whatever that may be. It doesn’t make you any less of who you are. It might mean that you’re just a feminist. Or it might mean you have some issues with your gender you need to hash out. Or maybe it means you just like hot guys. Who cares?

Some people argue why lesbians and aroace people like yaoi so much. There are many different answers. I’m not really concerned with them, anymore, now that I’ve found my own. What does concern me is the amount of people who I assume are outside of fandom circles… never having heard of women (lesbian or not) enjoying yaoi or BL. Several reddit comments asked, “There are lesbians who like that stuff? I’ve never seen one.”

Lemme tell you, these people are missing something awesome in life. Yaoi written by women is like fucking crack.

It's so funny being a shipper when you're aroace it's like you're an anthropologist, like hey fictional blorbos who live in my head let me study your bonds under a microscope and take notes on what happens when I throw Valentines Day into your enclosure

Why are most the characters I like ,i hc them as bisexual /arospec/trans or all three 🤨

Is it just the power of me projecting onto them 😶

Should I just do a hc list of characters that are my favorite,sexualities?

Also I feel like the majority of them are blue or have some blue in their design 🤔

shoutout to my aro followers, you all cool as fuck.

Absolutely! They should!

Aroaces need this

Reblog if you believe Tumblr should add the aroace colors to the aroace hastag. Make this a trend to get their attention

funny story i was reading your bio and my heart genuinely stopped when i saw aro-ace exclusionist like. HELLO?? and then i remembered the start says DNI

thanks for the support man 😭😭

Of fucking course! I'm ace so I totally understand how frustrating it is to see others exclude us and aro people so I wanted to make it known that anyone who wants to exclude aro and/or ace peeps aren't allowed.

This, just this.

"Amatonormativity permeates more than TV shows and books. It is woven into our legal rights, creating forms of discrimination that become more and more apparent as people age. Romantic love within marriage confers privileges that other forms of devotion cannot, including over 1,100 laws that benefit married couples at the federal level. Spouses can share each other’s health insurance, as well as military, social security, and disability benefits. They can make medical decisions for each other. Companies grant bereavement leave for spouses, no questions asked, but there will be more hesitation if leave is requested for a mere friend. It is possible to marry a stranger and give them your health insurance but not possible to give health insurance to a parent...

Criteria based on sex made sense when the main purpose of marriage was to merge fortunes and produce children, but today...marriage is more about a match of devotion than a match of trade. In many cases, the point is no longer to create an heir and a spare. Plenty of married couples don’t have children (or sex, for that matter), and bad marriages with little caring are common...

Offering legal and social benefits only to the romantically attached suggests that the mere presence of romantic feeling elevates the care and deserves special protections, even though friendship and other forms of care, which can come with less obligation, can include more love, more freely given. Therefore, the legal and social privileges of marriage should be extended to all mutually consenting adults who wish for them...

'In terms of policy, marriage law really reaches into all areas of law, like tax and immigration and property,' ... 'It doesn’t matter if it’s different-sex only or same-sex marriage, so long as we restrict marriage to romantic and sexual partners we will ensure amatonormativity.' Reforming marriage law by abolishing it altogether or extending marriage-like rights to friends (to small groups or networks) is one way to eradicate discrimination."

Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

One of the best songs for the cupioromantics

When you look up an obscure show and all you can find is character x reader s*ut and you just want wholesome fan art.

if you support aspecs but you think microlabels are "weird" or "niche" then you don't actually support aspecs 👍 hope this helps!

Reblogging because I AM an arospec man 💪

Aro men. you agree. reblog.

(plaintext because idk if gradient text will show up for everyone: aro men. you agree. reblog)

"friends don't look at each other like that" well okay you coward you do whatever you want however i WILL look at my friends like they're the most important thing in the world. i love them with my whole heart and i will hold their hand and stare at the stars not because i wanna fuck them but because they mean the world to me and i care about them. fuck you

I fully support Pluto as an aro symbol (x) but as a space scientist I cannot support any arguments that claim it's because Pluto should be a planet. The true reason Pluto is an aro symbol is precisely because people tie the amount of love and care this wonderful celestial body receives to which label it has. Just because a relationship with someone is not labeled as romantic should not mean that this relationship has to be treated as less worthy of time and care and effort. Just because Pluto is not labeled as a planet does not mean it is less worthy of our time and care and effort.

Here is another reason Pluto is aro: Pluto has a heart shaped region called the Tombaugh region:

[ID: an image of Pluto and it's heart shaped Tombaugh region, with the moon Charon in the background. End ID]

Now, Pluto and it's moon Charon are tidally locked, meaning they always face each other with the same hemisphere. Pluto's heart is always facing away from Charon. Some articles have phrased this as being tragically romantic, but I disagree! Here are two celestial objects orbiting each other for billions of years, and they are doing this while Pluto keeps it's heart hidden. Because in this case, love is not part of the equation that makes up their bond, romance does not play a part in their gravitational pull towards each other. That's aro as fuck, in my humble opinion.

I'm not a professional, nor do I know much about aspec labels, but I think you are aroflux. Again, I myself am still learning about the labels and discovering myself. From what you're saying, you sound like you are, in fact, aroflux which is ok!

am I aroflux?

So some days I really love my partner and wanna stay with him for years to come but other days I don’t really like him in a romantic way very much if at all so what do you think?

y’all

aro and ace are trending?? on the eve of pride month?? this year is for the aspecs for real

WHO ARE YOU

Ohh

Ell ello

Im Rain :) An artist and someone who goes around on the Internet liking everything that just somewhat funny or i like

Non-Ace Aro Fanwork Week 2025

ever notice the devastating lack of fanworks that involve aromanticism without asexuality? so have i, so after a brief contemplation period i’ve decided to host a fanwork event specifically centred around non-asexual aromanticism. this is kind of spur of the moment and i’m still sorting a few things out, but, i’m confident enough in my planning to start the blog today and post up a spread of how it’s gonna go down!

but first, a little bit about your host. i am Ace (as in, thats my name), but i alternatively go by Ivory. my pronouns are it/its and neopronouns. where i fall on the aromantic spectrum is still to be determined, where i fall between strict asexuality and strict allosexuality is even less determined.

schedule

prompt submission: May 4th to May 10th prompt voting: May 11th to May 17th prompts posted: May 18th (probably wont have fancy formatting) downtime to pre-write/pre-draw: May 19th to May 31st posting week: June 1st to June 7th

guidelines

1: anyone can participate! whether you’re non-ace aro or otherwise, so long as you create works that focus on aromanticism without asexuality then you’re welcome!

2: please tag your works properly! smut is allowed and welcomed, but it’d be nice to have a little bit of warning when i’m scrolling through works

3: don’t worry about posting “late”! i’ll be scrolling around for things posted late through all of June, aim for posting during the week but it’s okay if ya don’t

4: any fandoms and any “ships” are allowed! this is a multifandom event, and, truthfully, the more the merrier

5: most importantly, have fun with it!

annnnnd that brings this post to a close!

i hope that this fandom week brings the non-ace aro community a little bit closer together, that it spreads awareness within fandom, and most importantly, that the people have fun with it.

arrow assets made by @/aroworlds, and if anyone has any questions about it, the askbox is open!

-Ivory

Shout out to my fellow arospec asexuals

- your local Demi-aroace

I most certainly agree with this

starts punching and tearing at everything in a blind rage. i want AROMANTIC characters i want characters with not an OUNCE of romance about them i don't JUST want aroace characters i want AROMANTIC characters that AREN'T ASEXUAL i want people to headcanon characters as AROMANTIC not just aroace i want fandom to treat AROMANTICISM as AROMANTICISM, and not a SUBCATEGORY OF ASEXUALITY. RRRAAAAAAAAGHHHHHH

[ID: banner reading "don't tag as ace or aroace"]