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A group of teen female track athletes were kicked out of practice and then a lacrosse game. Why? Because they were wearing sports bras without a t shirt over it in temperatures over 80°F (26.6°C). The worst part? The boys were allowed to go shirtless. Yes, you heard me. The girls had to go with a t shirt while the boys were allowed to go shirtless.
Their athletic director, Alice Chapple, stopped the practice and warned the girls that their attire was inappropriate and a distraction to their male coaches. Yes. Their male coaches. Middle aged men who are most likely married, who possibly have kids, etc. Why would the girls attire be distracting to the coaches? If it's distracting to the coaches, wouldn't the coaches be the problem?
The next day, the girls showed up to practice dressed the same way again because it was even hotter. This time, Chapple kicked them out of practice for violating the dress code. She also told one of the boys practicing to put his shirt back on but didn’t kick any of them out. How is this fair? How? Where's the reasoning or the logic?
Later that day, the team members tried to attend a lacrosse game in the same outfits, but security guards and Chapple stopped them.
Why?
Society has sort of put this idea in people's heads that women’s bodies are sexual, like we’re overly sexualized. But guys having their shirts off isn't a problem? If you look at rape cases, so many excuses circle around things like "She was wearing this." or "She was drunk." and even "She was asking for it, walking around dressed like a slǚt and wh0re."
If men can't control their urges when they see a beautiful woman, if they can't control themselves, then why are they being allowed to run entire countries? Make it make sense.
She found it difficult to discuss physics, much less debate it, with her predominantly male classmates. At first they paid a kind of selective inattention to her remarks. There would be a slight pause, and then they would go on as if she had not spoken. Occasionally they would acknowledge her remark, even praise it, and then again continue undeflected. She was reasonably sure her remarks were not entirely foolish, and did not wish to be ignored, much less ignored and patronized alternately. Part of it—but only a part—she knew was due to the softness of her voice. So she developed a physics voice, a professional voice: clear, competent, and many decibels above conversational. With such a voice it was important to be right. She had to pick her moments. It was hard to continue long in such a voice, because she was sometimes in danger of bursting out laughing. So she found herself leaning towards quick, sometimes cutting, interventions, usually enough to capture their attention; then she could go on for a while in a more usual tone of voice. Every time she found herself in a new group she would have to fight her way through again, just to dip her oar into the discussion. The boys were uniformly unaware even that there was a problem. Sometimes she would be engaged in a laboratory exercise or a seminar when the instructor would say, “Gentlemen, let’s proceed,” and sensing Ellie’s frown would add, “Sorry, Miss Arroway, but I think of you as one of the boys.” The highest compliment they were capable of paying was that in their minds she was not overtly female. She had to fight against developing too combative a personality or becoming altogether a misanthrope. She suddenly caught herself. “Misanthrope” is someone who dislikes everybody, not just men. And they certainly had a word for someone who hates women: “misogynist.” But the male lexicographers had somehow neglected to coin a word for the dislike of men. They were almost entirely men themselves, she thought, and had been unable to imagine a market for such a word.
Carl Sagan, Contact (22)
“The boys were uniformly unaware even that there was a problem.”
(via varanine)
When will we stop treating women's reactions to offenses as worse than the offenses themselves?
There is a long history of gassing and caging children. Don’t forget!
would you ask a person buying like, a laxative if they were feeling ok?
they’re 50/50 not feeling ok, you’re being compassionate, but they’re buying a health care item for something very private that they more than likely don’t want to talk about.
most people don’t want to talk about what’s happening inside their pants with strangers.
I've been thinking about it, and I'm pretty sure I disagree. It's not offensive or rude to say "Feeling okay?" To someone who 50/50 could not be feeling okay. And I don't think I should feel bad for being compassionate and I've always had people say thank you for asking. But I appreciate your input and I'm thankful for your opinion. 🐳🐙🍍
Ok if you want to ask a woman every time you see her buying personal hygiene products if she’s ok then go ahead, I don’t care. If you disagree, fine, I also don’t care. But you’re not a woman so I don’t see why you think you’re allowed to have an opinion on how this makes WOMEN feel. If you keep doing this you might get some thank you’s but eventually you’re going to across a woman who will tell you off or slap you for asking such a personal and invasive question. Honestly I don’t care if you’re coming from a good place if any man ever commented on me buying something for my period I’d tell him to fuck off. It doesn’t matter if you’re compassionate, it’s not your business to ask if someone is okay because they’re on their period out buying tampons or pads. It’s a fuckinggggg invasion of privacy regardless of where you’re coming from in intentions. I don’t see where you ever got the idea that you think it’s ok to ask a woman how she feels every time you see her buying personal products??? Literally no man I know would ever do this. If anything we just want to be left alone. I’m done talking about this with you and if you can’t understand why it’s not ok then go ahead and keep doing it but just wait until it pisses a woman off then good luck to you. And yes more than just myself finds it offensive, I talked to a girlfriend about this last night and her response was “what the fuck, don’t comment on my fucking purchases.” There ya have it.
Some devastating facts about abortion rights in Europe:
Polish abortion laws lay out that the rights of a foetus are more important than those of pregnant persons.
In Malta, women are sent to prison if they get an abortion.
In Austria, abortion is written into criminal code - this means it is considered a crime if it is not carried out as by the law. Doctors in Austria use papayas to learn how to perform an abortion.
Women in Hungary are forced by the law to listen to “the foetal heartbeat” before they can have an abortion.
The current law governing abortions in Germany was accepted during the Nazi regime. It is still referred to as “the Nazi law” by some movements.
In Italy, 80% of doctors refuse to perform an abortion. Plus, the government is financing movements that enter abortion clinics and harrass women who want to get an abortion.
Abortion rights in Europe are fragile. Sign our initiative to make abortion safe and accessible to everyone in the EU.
🧵 THREAD: This #EqualPayDay, let’s not forget how many of our workplace rights were only secured in the last few decades.
💪✨ We need to fight for our rights.
Here’s are a few examples:
📍 In 1963, the Equal Pay Act required employers to provide equal pay for equal work regardless of gender.
📍 In 1964, the Civil Rights Act prohibited discrimination based on gender, race, religion, color, or national origin in public places, schools, and employment. Before, it was legal to refuse employment opportunities to women.
📍 In 1978, the Pregnancy Discrimination Act made it illegal for employers to discriminate against pregnancy, childbirth, or related medical conditions.
📍 In 1988, the Women's Business Ownership Act created support for women business owners and eliminated the requirement for male co-signers on loans.
📍 In 1993, the Family and Medical Leave Act gave some workers paid family leave, and provided job protection and security for employees who took unpaid time off to care for a relative or family member.
📍 In 2010, the PUMP Act expanded the Break Time law, which provides key workplace protections for nursing mothers, including reasonable break time to nurse and a private place to pump.
📍 In 2020, the U.S. Supreme Court held that an employer who fires or otherwise discriminates against an individual simply for being gay or transgender is in violation of Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964.
📍 In 2024, the Department of Labor introduced a Final Rule to end an employer's ability to pay individuals with disabilities subminimum wages.
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With us living in a time where men are literally yelling “your body, my choice”, I’d like to share a few links to things I highly suggest looking into getting especially if you rave and travel alone.
1: https://a.co/d/7nSSYM5
This is the NightCap scrunchie, which provides cover for your beverages. You can find cheaper, disposable ones here if you want to bring some to share: https://a.co/d/grcCLTD
2: https://a.co/d/ekSbMRG
These are roofie check wristbands. Each wristband has the ability to test 8 times, and they come in packs of 2, 12, 24 or 100. You can find similar tests in a portable strip or even wallet card form if the bracelet cramps your style, the wallet cards can be found here: https://a.co/d/ekHTSzi
3: https://a.co/d/2fyapai
These are discrete emergency whistles. They come in 2 or 4 packs, and in silver or gold.
4: https://a.co/d/an1k7qF
This is a small personal alarm created by women, for women. It does not have a button, but rather has a pin mechanism. The alarm’s battery lasts up to 40 minutes, and because it is not considered a “w3@p0n” like pepper spray, you can take it anywhere, including on planes.
5: https://a.co/d/0yVnTTv
This one is a mini, rechargeable stun gun.
Not everyone has time and money to take self defense classes - but if you were to purchase all of these items, your total would be less than $100. Your life is priceless. Please take care of yourselves, and please feel free to share this with your friends and copy/paste to your pages. Stay weird yall!
biological differences between men and women are inherently neutral. they do not indicate male superiority over female people. to suggest so is inherently sexist. to complain when female sports cater to female anatomy - such as the smaller balls in the wnba because women tend to have smaller hands - is what sexists do. they want women to be forced to prove ourselves according to standards designed for men because they want to see us fail. it is sexist to argue that women who wish to compete on their own terms are pronouncing themselves as inferior. nobody said that but you. because you’re a sexist that hates women
Woman (Tara Strong) has problematic opinion online - evil bitch
Man (Jim Cummings) accused of rape, sexual abuse and animal abuse - based
He admitted to the animal abuse btw. What happened to all of the outrage Internet people usually have for mistreatment of animals?
Should be obvious, but I'm not defending Tara Strong at all, just noticing the disparity in treatment towards problematic female voice actors and male voice actors, who have been accused of violent crimes. Reminds me of the treatment of J.K. Rowling (though I agree with most of her takes, obviously do not agree with Tara), versus the treatment of Neil Gaiman. Evil bitch vs based, boycott vs separate the art from the artist. Interesting.
voice acting as a profession is so funny because you'll see someone being like "voice actors need to be paid better! like [obscure person you've never heard of]" and you're like "oh I wonder who that person is, maybe I've heard them voice a character" and you look it up and it turns out they voice 137 characters in Futurama and 94 characters in The Simpsons and 96 characters in Adventure Time and every one of the My Little Ponies and 27 characters in Arcane and 96 characters in Kim Possible and 4 characters in Phineas and Ferb and 296 characters in Dexter's Laboratory and all of the main cast of Fairly Odd Parents and at least 6 characters in every Pixar movie and almost every animated depiction of Superman and 473 SpongeBob characters and they've been in every installment of Mass Effect and Halo and The Elder Scrolls and Fallout and Call of Duty and they were in Star Trek and Law & Order and they were 12 characters in the MCU and they also invented t-shirts and the colour green and they got paid a sum total of $3.27 and a mothball for all of it combined. then you go burn down David Zaslav's house with him inside
Wow, threatening to abuse women because they don't agree with you. Where have I seen that before?
We need to normalize laying belt to terfs. I think their entire ideology comes from lacking in parental discipline. I get it, your dad didn't beat you enough and that's ok. I bet you thought that would be something sexual in this post but no, I just think you deserve to be hit until you learn how to be a normal person.
The terfbreaking tag is the perfect example of why TIMs are dangerous in women's spaces. It's just male fantasies about raping and sexually degrading women they disagree with. And that's what men do. They see a woman they don't like? They immediately come up with some kind of sexual debasement in their minds because to them that's enough to reduce and dismiss her. They use their sexuality as a weapon against women. And that's what TIMs do on here and call it progressive.
Ok rapist
That's it. Next TERF that fearmongers about "testosterone poising" or "porn sickness" is getting kidnaped and locked in my basement where I inject her with bodybuilder levels of testosterone twice a week and force her to watch violent porn until it's brain is completely broken. Of course TERFs don't get to transition into real trans men, they just get broken down into insatiable sex toys tortured by desire as their precious "female" body masculinizes itself into the perfect sex toy to be abused by me and all my other trans friends.
no the female character who is a masculine woman is not secretly a transgender man and yes you saying that she is is misogynistic <3
Yes, I understand the Divine Comedy is all about Dante being upset about being exiled from Florence, Italy, but I can still be salty about him shitting on my favs (Cleopatra, Odysseus). The slut shaming of a political leader who slept with only two men (who FYI both slept with way more people) is disgusting!
DNI if you’re going to blather on about how “important” his work is.
"trans ally" gay celeb men like troye sivan and pedro pascal etc will wear "protect the dolls" tshirts and spend all their time on social media saying TWAW, but won't eat a transman's pussy. despite all their posturing, their actions show that they know transwomen are men and therefore deserving of their time and energy, whereas transmen are women and therefore a forgotten afterthought. the uk supreme court's ruling that sex is biological affected both transmen and transwomen equally, and yet i have seen zero gay celeb men posting about how transmen are real men. it's allllll been about the transwomen.
no one has class solidarity quite like the male sex.
I cannot stress how important it is to be intersectional about your feminism. listen to black women, listen to trans women, listen to disabled women, and please acknowledge the fact that there are different types of women who go through different types of struggles than you
libfems to blame tbh. words don’t have meanings for them anymore.
Why on Earth did we normalise the word ‘whore’ and added it to our every day lexicon? Since when did it become normal to address random women on the internet in such manner? And why do women accept this?
every slur is recognised by liberals as unacceptable unless it’s a slur used exclusively for women.
I’m so sick of the angry people (mostly men and libfems) in my inbox telling me that bitch isn’t a slur every time I say it is one.
No, it’s not on the same level as some other slurs like the n-word, but that doesn’t mean it’s not still a misogynistic slur. Tell me how a word meaning a female dog used for BREEDING isn’t a dehumanizing, derogatory term for women. Explain it right now.
You don’t think women have been beaten, raped and killed while having that word shouted at them by men? And isn’t it funny how men call each other bitches to mean “coward,” “feminine,” “weak,” etc? 🤔
You just don’t want to admit that women are an oppressed group.
I’m the anon from that Chanse confession and THANK U OMFG!! I’ve felt the same way about Tommy’s “serving c*nt” show and I felt so alone cuz nobody else bats an eye. Same with Chanse saying b*tch all the time, I know sometimes Angela teases him for it but that’s it, nobody calls him out.
It’s so disrespectful how gay men treat women and it makes solidarity with them as a lesbian very hurtful sometimes. Like oh okay, I stood up for you and now you mock and insult my existence. That’s so awesome. And then other women with internalized misogyny laugh and cheer them along. Very frustrating! Smosh needs to give up all the women-mocking bits. Most especially if it’s men performing them
i’m genuinely glad i have a like-minded person! thank you for speaking up 🫂
and when they play women it’s almost always some stereotypical and misogynistic shit. also, you can disagree with me, but tommy building his yt channel around ‘serving cunt’ is disgusting and stupid. gays will say this as a compliment (i don’t see it as one btw) and in the same breath use c-word as an insult exclusively towards women. they’re too comfortable with misogynistic language and behaviour, because for some reason women let them get away with it. we have been their biggest allies (even hetero women) since day one and that’s how they treat us? have some fucking respect.
Gotta agree that Chanse’s misogyny really rubs me the wrong way and it’s extra disappointing that nobody seems to call him out on it. ATP I don’t watch any Reddit stories with him because I know he’ll get on my nerves but even in other videos a lot of his humor seems rooted in attacking women too. Tommy is also very guilty of this especially lately, so many of his bits r just ruthlessly attacking women in a simply nasty way. As a lesbian I’m sick of gay men getting a pass to be straight up vitriolic towards women, it’s not like the humor is satirical in a way that subverts misogyny rather it attacks women the same way any other sexist would.
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so true. even in the recent games video he said posting colourful socks is for cringe middle aged white women or something. like… what? even this small remark gave me an ick, so don’t get me started on other stuff he says. also, smosh men actually love putting “white” in front of “women” just to get away with classic misogyny. i feel bad for angela.
Strangely, one member of the cast that truly stands out to me for their routine misogyny is Chanse. It may be that I'm queer, and I'm used to queer spaces where gay men expect to get away with it, so I could be projecting. But, it can be so offputting at times, because it doesn't even feel like a bit. It's just instinctive and sometimes spiteful. The more Smosh I watch, the more Angela's 'misandrist' outbursts feel like a cope.
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i hate misandric people as much as i hate misogynist people.
y'all are all the same trash.
if u think men are pig or can't be feminist, block me.
if u think women are sluts or superior, block me.
do a favor to the world: shut the fuck up, you're wrong, get over it.
So if anyone’s curious about how this ended up getting resolved, here’s what happened.
He came back in multiple times looking for me, according to my coworkers. They and my boss had all been made aware of the situation. Thankfully, I was only there one of those times, and it was shortly before closing, so I was able to get rid of him without too much trouble. After that, my boss insisted on calling the police to ask for advice - and so that there would be a record of what was happening.
Then, while I was off-shift for a week or so for exams, he came back in a couple more times, and this time, he started harassing my boss. The second time he started bothering her, she called the cops. Apparently, while the security at our mall is basically nonexistent, there’s a police precinct across the street. They came. It was quickly discovered that we were not the only store in the mall that had had a problem with this man harassing female employees.
Anyway, he’s banned from the mall now, and if he comes back, we can call the cops again and he would receive a citation for trespassing. I feel so much better now when I go to work since I no longer have to worry he’s going to pop up and start bothering me. I was so on edge for a while, worrying incessantly about what clothes I wore and whether I was going to be on shift alone. The fact that he’s gone is such a relief.
Thanks to @radicallyaligned and everyone else for your support and advice!
(1/3) So, the store I work at just moved to a new location where there's greater foot traffic. Today was my second day there, and my first shift manning the store alone. I’m 18, by the way. Towards the end of the day, this guy came in. Sweaty from a run. Seriously muscled, maybe mid-to-late-twenties. Anyway, he started talking, being kinda friendly and joking, and also I had the impression of flirtatious too.
(2/3) I was, you know, wearing my ‘customers’ face. Anyway we’re chatting, I’m telling him about our soaps, etc. Then, he kinda stops, looks me up and down, and says, “You know, you have a great body. Do you work out?” And I’m like, ugh, internally. I shrug and tell him I do ballet. I go back to talking about the products, kind of just, you know, moving away, but he kept moving closer to me, getting within about a foot of me.
(3/3) We talk for a little bit more about the products, then he looks down, says “Wow! Your feet are so small! They’re tiny!” and then he knelt down and he grabbed my foot around the heel and lifted it up to examine it. I was so startled I nearly kicked him, but I just ended up just jerking my foot away. He stuck around for the rest of my shift (half an hour), and said he’s planning to come back and see me again. Any advice, anyone?
Okay that is seriously creepy and I’m so sorry you experienced this. Touching you without permission is harassment. A couple thing to do if he comes back in, optional, of course:
1. Immediately alert your manager or another person on staff. Tell them he has come in before to bother you, touched you without your permission, and makes you uncomfortable. Allow them to handle him while you wait in a back room.
2. If you do not have another person working with you, be sure to keep your distance from him. Stay behind a counter. If he lingers, inform him your “boss” has a policy against loitering, and you’ll have to ask him to leave if he isn’t shopping. If he inquires further, say that the door “has a counting metric, to see who enters and leaves without a purchase, and it affects your formal review”. (A retail shop I worked at before had this, it’s real tech). This is to encourage him to leave.
3. If he strikes up casual conversation about yourself, or asks your number, work in that you “have a boyfriend”. Creepy men often respect the “authority” of a created man having “ownership” of you more than your own bodily autonomy. This can make you safer and deter him from returning.
4. If he touches you again, tell him you are going to have to ask him to leave. He will likely do a big show of “wow you’re making something out of nothing!!” Calmly ask him again to leave. If he seems aggressive, remind him of the “cameras”. It doesn’t matter if you actually have cameras.
5. If he continously shows up to bother you, make sure a manger is on shift with you to deal with him.
6. If he ever follows you home, or shows up anywhere else in your life, call the police.
I hope some of this helps!
IT’S RELEVANT, IT MATTERS.
My uncle, regarding the accusations of sexual harassment and assault against Donald Trump: “Well, there’s no proof. But even if he did, so what? Most politicians have done bad things. It’s not relevant to his capability as President.”
It’s not relevant, hm? (I did not know how to convey to him how awful and scary it was that he said this.)
It doesn’t matter that the President, a person in a position of major power, has been known to abuse that power to hurt women? It doesn’t matter that he’s a predator – and predators are selfish and thrive on the fear of their victims? Those girls that he hurt, they don’t matter? Their pain doesn’t matter?
What if it was me? The niece you’ve known since she was a little girl? If he, or any man like him, hurt me, would that not matter? Does my unfortunately extensive experience with sexual harassment not matter?
(Though thankfully it’s never escalated to assault for me. But it has for so many others.) Why isn’t human pain something that matters?