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Ayo Edebiri as Sydney Adamu in THE BEAR (2022-) 03x09 | "Apologies"
Sydney is stronger than I am because if I went to my partner trying to have an adult conversation on maybe slowing down so we can work better with each other and his response was to act like a fucking 12 year old boy on a Fortnite server with no parental restrictions spitting shitty insults like âmAybE iâM jUsT BettEr tHan yOuâ, Iâd have to whack him upside the head.
You better believe Iâm gonna take that 5 second clip and run with it
Everyday I think about how Chris Storer wrote Sydcarmy; One of the most achingly beautiful love stories Iâve seen in media in a long time. About two people who were connected long before they met and how they eventually found each other when they needed it the most. Who have continued to build upon their love together and created something beautiful born out of devotion. Who understand each other on a cosmic level, who have made each other better in every way possible. Who were indubitably meant to be partners in every sense of the word. And how Storer very well might throw it all away for one of the most boring, unhealthy, underdeveloped, wonderbread couples who look they could be distant cousins.
So youâre going to look me in my EYES and tell ME that he made her the best meal shes EVER had and that dish was an act of defiance against his EC and his HEART on plate in the shape of a HEART and that dish went out to HER and it was the BEST meal sheâs ever HAD and then youâre going to LIE to me and say that theyâre NOT soulmates
Invisible String, Taylor Swift
Chris Storer after writing an incredibly beautiful and complex love story
Was it casual when I made the margins of your list of rules I didnât agree with wider because I knew you write in the margins? Was it casual when I bought you a multiple-hundred dollar customized chef coat because you mentioned that you thought mine looked cool? Was it casual when our coworker started wearing the assigned uniform and I said she was âdressed like youâ even though everyone else also wore the uniform? Was it casual when I waited all night after the soft open of our restaurant to bring you coffee after you ignored me for weeks and got yourself locked in the fridge?
Carmy vs Syd The Bear, Season 1-3
The Bear kitchen: audible shouting, dishes breaking, crying, punches being thrown,âCarmy shut thE FUCK UPâďżź
The guests in the dining room:
âExcuse me he asked for no picklesâ
Me watching people ship sydluca
âSheâs his peaceâ where??? at what point??
Just remembered that you can see inside the kitchen at The Bear from the dining room and I just know people were watching everything go down every night. Like I can criticize the toxicity of that kitchen all I want but I know my ass would be sitting in that dining room leaning over my table watching and going âooh dinner and a showâ
THIS!!! Heâs far from perfect and his behavior has been questionable but heâs also unlearning everything heâs ever been taught and that takes time. We saw everything he internalized from the Chefs he worked with, the good and the bad, everything that made him who he is as a chef and a person. Itâs going to take time and therapy to go through all that trauma and learn how to let go of things that arenât benefiting him. Carmyâs got a long way to go in the healing process but so does Syd and maybe they can do it together
ngl watching how some of yâall talk about Carmen makes me so fucking depressed as someone with a lot of baggage and trauma
no one said you have to put up with bullshit behavior forever, but if you think that someone who was torn down every day of their life is gonna be perfect the moment they realize they have a problem to fix in themselves, youâre going to be disappointed. repeatedly. forever.
none of yâall deserve Sydney either, bc sheâs a damn good depiction of what itâs like to be someone who loves and cares for someone whoâs fucked up. A side of the equation I ALSO happen to be familiar with. you hold that person accountable for shit behavior, back away when you need to for your health, and because you love them, you fucking come back.
Idk what kind of interpersonal relationships yâall have that can so easily be thrown away the moment shit isnât perfect the way YOU need it, but this fucking âI donât owe anyone anything least of all my shoulder to cry onâ mindset sucks dick and balls when applied to media as much as it does in real life.
People are burdens. Plain and simple. Community requires sacrifice, love and partnership requires sacrifice. Or at the very fucking least: compromise.
Like. If you met someone who understood you better than anyone, a person whose entire life has been parallel to yours in a way that uniquely binds the two of you, yâall would really just fucking walk away WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING just because theyâre hurting and lashing out? Because thatâs what yâall are advocating for, and thatâs the fucking problem.
So many of yâall have this âI shouldnât have to speak up and set a boundaryâ mindset. you just fucking sulk and stew in it and then blow up because you never set your foot down when you needed to.
Even if Sydney walks away from Carmen, she needs to fucking speak up or sheâs gonna get walked on AGAIN. She deserves better but she also has to fucking ask for it. And thatâs entirely separate from the fact that Carmen needs to pull his head out of his ass.
Either way, I think we would all do well to fucking self-reflect.
Somehow not paralleling Sydneyâs panic attack with either of Carmyâs makes me even more sick than directly paralleling the scenes wouldâve. Because what do you mean youâre going to show Syd desperately searching for a grounding, something to bring her back to earth and then cut away to Carmy a thousand miles away both mentally and physically, still running from everything whereas Carmy sees/ hears Syd and almost immediately calms down. Are you trying to tell me that Syd is always, always there when he needs her to be and that Carmy canât even be there when she needs him the most is that what youâre trying to tell me Storer??
Watching The Bear season 3 mood board
We donât appreciate the Women of The Bear nearly as much as we should (Syd, Tina and Nat specifically). They are carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders, running the restaurant, cleaning up every oneâs messes, all the while being the most kind and caring people youâve ever met when they have every right not to be
Crazy how people can watch The Bear and miss one of the most integral parts of the story, Change and all that comes with it; all of the joy, all of the pain, every good and bad moment, the fear of changing and the understanding that change is a necessary part of growth. Richie fighting against the Changing of the neighborhood and restaurant heâs known his whole life to eventually accepting it and finding his purpose through that. Ebra, same as Richie, fighting against change but coming to an understanding that change must come whether itâs welcomed or not. Tina, Syd, and Marcus welcoming the change, tapping into their full potential and becoming the incredibly talented chefs they were meant to be. Carmy being faced with an ultimatum, continue on the way you are, down a destructive path, pushing everyone and everything that you love away, and end up the same way your mother and brother did, or change, accept that you will have to change your way of living in order to move forward in life and let go of the past that you so desperately cling to, to move towards a bright and beautiful future that welcomes you with open arms.
I feel like we breezed past that guy leaving mid shift to smoke crack in the alley in the finale a little too fast
Guess Iâm a midwestern dad now
FX please stop playing with my emotions Iâm not strong enough for this
The entirety of The Bear fandom rn
