First… This is a fantastic fantasy. I think this fantasy amazing.
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However, I think it is important to occasionally address and explain the differences between fantasy and actual BDSM practice.
Given the “regular world” facing nature of Tumblr (this is not occurring in a closed community setting where everyone understands the nature of kink and feminism’s role in it.) I do feel compelled to occasionally use a fantasy post as an opportunity to explain things to the regular public facing world.
Feminism (the inherent state of equality between all people regardless of gender) is the basic mechanism for all actual BDSM practices.
It is only from the state of equality that any person can choose to experience a “lesser” position in relation to their partner(s). Any other activity is abuse and is not any form of actual Dominance and submission.
Having a fantasy about abuse is absolutely normal. Fantasies are an important element of determining what types of practice to pursue.
Turning a fantasy about abuse into an actual sexual practice, however, requires everyone’s understanding that the person submitting is equal in all ways, and will always be equal to the Dominant. What is being agreed to is a suspension of disbelief, where the submissive and the Dominant are able to set aside that reality of equality and practice within an alternate agreed upon energy exchange structure instead.
The submissive can always end this at any time and for any reason.
Fantasy is the fuel for choosing a practice. Then you get to enjoy practices where you explore living inside the fantasies.
I need a male friend who only see me as an object. He would start slow training me, at first just simple touches on my shoulders or brushing my arms, then progressing further and further the more i get used to. Pushing into my butt from behind when i bend down “as a joke”, “accidentally” brushing his hands against my chest, making more and more suggestive comments regarding my body and clothing. Until he eventually conditions me into being a cock whore for him and all his friends as the mock me for once thinking woman and men are equal and once believing in stupid things like feminism.
Getting a firm no from my Dominant after I’ve been getting a lot of leniencies lately is always a bit of a shock.
A surge of feelings goes through me at first. There is the surprise and then a bit of indignation and annoyance. I sit in bewilderment because I was most definitely expecting him to allow me to do what I wanted. I whine a bit and push to see if the invisible boundary will move some. It doesn’t. It’s rock solid. A no is a no.
All of the emotions associated with resentment start to fade and instead leave feelings of safety and contentment. There is still structure and lines I cannot cross. He is still in control and any leniency I’ve been given lately has been his choice. He can tell me no and I have to listen whether I like it or not…but deep down, I always like it. My submissive nature is always stronger than whatever little want I may have yearned for at the time. I feel settled.
Objectification -> You are a hole to fuck
Degradation -> Your holes are worthless and filthy
Ownership -> Your holes belong to me
Praise -> Your holes feel so good
Objectification and praise -> You are such a good fuck toy
Objectification and Degradation -> You are a worthless fuck hole
Objectification and ownership -> You are my personal fuck toy
Degradation and ownership -> You are mine to destroy. I will ruin you.
Degradation and praise -> You are such a pretty little cum slut
Ownership and praise -> You are my favorite- I love owning you
Objectification, Degradation and Praise -> You are the best little cum hole
Objectification, Degradation, praise and Ownership -> You are my favorite cum filled hole to fuck.
Reblog with your favorite combination or add your own!
Feminism means that every woman has an intrinsic right to choose any kind of sexual energy that she wants for herself in her life.
In regards of the Trump government scraping all trans inclusion in its queer information portion of its websites I have made this thing. Spread the word. Don't let them pretend we never existed.
P.S: Don't like! Reblog! <3
EDIT: Well this got a lot of attention! I got a few users asking to print or repost my art and I am unimaginably grateful to everyone's interest, especially since it's a really simple drawing I made on a whim haha! Anyone who is looking to print these out to hang or hand out or repost on another platform is free to do so, although I ask you to credit me and let people know it's from my Tumblr profile! If anyone wishes to do anything else with my art or post and wants to clarify what I consent to then they can message me privately and I'll explain! <333 all my love to my queer siblings
EDIT: I made an LGBTQIA+ version with a focus on trans and intersex folks, it's on my pinned if you prefer this version of the acronym.
Only idiots and abusers fail to support feminism.
Idiots because they fail to understand it and abusers because they’re too incompetent to actually earn a woman’s trust.
Feminism is THE one and only mechanism by which actual submission is possible. When you argue against this fact you reveal very clearly whether you are an idiot or an abuser, or (as is oftentimes the case) both.
Am I deep down a feminist who just has kinky fantasies?
NO!
I reject that shit completely.
Equality is an absurd lie. Women should only worry about supporting and pleasing Men.
Our job is to cook, clean, lick, suck, suffer and bear children. We will lick your ass and drink your piss, but PLEASE do not try to treat us as equals!
Ladies, who is with me on this?
We may be weird, but we do take consent seriously. Here is the link to the template that we use to gauge interests and establish consent and gauge interest on different kink topics.
We are giving it away for free to anyone that would like to make a copy and use it!
Everyone learns in different ways.
Reinforcing lessons, to a point of acceptance of that lesson, might require a variety of approaches until it is finally understood to a point that it no longer needs to be taught.
Acceptance leads to sincerity of practice.
If you lack sincerity in your practice then you are still in need of the lessons and the consequences that come from not yet understanding the importance of the practice.
Consent is the essential element that makes scenarios possible. I’ll clarify and make more peominent this part of my bio given some ego-centric tools seem to think they matter to me: I write simply for my own practice putting thoughts into text. Nothing I write is about nor for anyone else save for myself and my partner in practice.Additionally: Feminism in BDSM is the essential idea that a person of any gender can only participate as a submissive in BDSM if they start from a position of respected equality Married over 40No DM’s
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